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<font size="3" color="#990000">a very good point raised...</font>
[DIV]<font size="3" color="#990000">actually d first time it hit me was when megha told mohan datamar didnt talk at all about his professional life...datdid sound weird to me...maybe bcoz i myself havent seen dose kind of couples around me...</font>
Exactly same was my point of realisation, but I was shocked and said to my self, 'is this what is great love, between the two unequals. In a couple individuals may have differential skills, capabilities, differences in earnings etc. But what maters most is how they treat each other in their own private world.
Treating equal would certainly mean you want to share your problems openly with the loved one. I think if any one of the couple decides to hide their worries, stresses and problems from the other partner would mean some compromise in the texture of their relationship.
Amar not sharing his work related, life threatenning stress with Megha may pass of in the traditional Indian marriages as Amar being very protective.He did not want Megha to be worried. He was so good, Mahan.
Ohhh ! Can't find any sense in this. Instead of being protective, don't you think it is not Amar being uncomfortable to share it with Megha. Love, between the life partners who are not interested in a break up will mean sharing of such important things.
Today I can say in Mohan's language, Megha ka haq tha Amar ke high level stress ko jaanane ka. Woh haq to use mila hi nahi.
This post is certainly not about anyone of us bashing Amar for what he was. But this is about understanding the different shades and traits of unequal relationships.
Many of us love Mohan, perhaps because he treats everyone equal. He takes his time to break the ice, kind of pacing himself into he situation, the same way he was initially observing the surroundings of the drug mafia dealers compound. The same way he paused before he shook hands with Nanhi after he helped her to place an ad.
He was able to see through the innocence of Nanhi, committment, concern and confidence in Megha and meanness of Renu so quickly and accordingly he just flows as the situation demands.
But behind his interaction with everyone lies that understanding to treat everyone on par. Though, he does enough of bossing around over Guru or his subordinates at PL.
Interestingly he has never treated Megha as his junior colleague. In the combined episode of NBT and Uttaran Mohan introduces Megha as his associate at PL and willingly gives his press card so that Megha can interview that woman in jail.
Their relation is indeed interestingly equal. In Megha's Bhopal home, it was Megha who gave the wooden stick to Ved, for Ved was about to rush to the police without any weapon. It was Megha who beats up the inspector with the frypan. :-) Megha saving Mohan and making their escape from that house possible.
Another thing I want to ponder over is Megha sharing about how she never learned to 'balance', (writers, was the pun intended by??), and hence never learn to ride a two wheeler. I am eager to see Megha learning to balance (assisted by... ;-) , yep, can sense its going to be sooner or later.
So much as an addition for now.
edited part.
Addition to the original post.
<font size="3" color="#990000">a very good point raised...</font>
Exactly same was my point of realisation, but I was shocked and said to my self, 'is this what is great love, between the two unequals. In a couple individuals may have differential skills, capabilities, differences in earnings etc. But what maters most is how they treat each other in their own private world.
Treating equal would certainly mean you want to share your problems openly with the loved one. I think if any one of the couple decides to hide their worries, stresses and problems from the other partner would mean some compromise in the texture of their relationship.
Amar not sharing his work related, life threatenning stress with Megha may pass of in the traditional Indian marriages as Amar being very protective.He did not want Megha to be worried. He was so good, Mahan.
Ohhh ! Can't find any sense in this. Instead of being protective, don't you think it is not Amar being uncomfortable to share it with Megha. Love, between the life partners who are not interested in a break up will mean sharing of such important things.
Today I can say in Mohan's language, Megha ka haq tha Amar ke high level stress ko jaanane ka. Woh haq to use mila hi nahi.
This post is certainly not about anyone of us bashing Amar for what he was. But this is about understanding the different shades and traits of unequal relationships.
Many of us love Mohan, perhaps because he treats everyone equal. He takes his time to break the ice, kind of pacing himself into he situation, the same way he was initially observing the surroundings of the drug mafia dealers compound. The same way he paused before he shook hands with Nanhi after he helped her to place an ad.
He was able to see through the innocence of Nanhi, committment, concern and confidence in Megha and meanness of Renu so quickly and accordingly he just flows as the situation demands.
But behind his interaction with everyone lies that understanding to treat everyone on par. Though, he does enough of bossing around over Guru or his subordinates at PL.
Interestingly he has never treated Megha as his junior colleague. In the combined episode of NBT and Uttaran Mohan introduces Megha as his associate at PL and willingly gives his press card so that Megha can interview that woman in jail.
Their relation is indeed interestingly equal. In Megha's Bhopal home, it was Megha who gave the wooden stick to Ved, for Ved was about to rush to the police without any weapon. It was Megha who beats up the inspector with the frypan. :-) Megha saving Mohan and making their escape from that house possible.
Another thing I want to ponder over is Megha sharing about how she never learned to 'balance', (writers, was the pun intended by??), and hence never learn to ride a two wheeler. I am eager to see Megha learning to balance (assisted by... ;-) , yep, can sense its going to be sooner or later.
So much as an addition for now.
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