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I shall now share some of my thoughts - they occurred to me while watching the episode on Friday June 8, 2012 but I was not able to put them down properly for all this while. Sorry for this delay, but I am sharing it here and now:
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Megha decides to go to the spot where Mohan has gone to cover drug mafia story. In the PL office gallary she expresses that to Karan, goes ahead of him, saying, "ab time bahot kum hai, chalo" or something on those lines.
She wants to be there at the spot, in order to alert Mohan about the danger and to make him back off from this mission, at least that time.
It was so important for her to alert Mohan about the danger, no mater how he would interpret this, no mater what the repercussion it would have on her interaction with him later. She had to go, to save Mohan.
We have already linked the similarity between Amar and Mohan in this track. Megha happens to be a common factor in both these tracks, i.e., Amar and Mohan being shot.
She is the lady love of these two men of principles and guts, who dare to risk their life in search of the truth, to make known the wrong to the world, as a part of their job, but the task they are doing is no less than a mission to both of these men.
However, there is a difference in the treatment given to Megha by the two men. Amar, who was Megha's husband perhaps had a more respectful, superior position in the Megha-Amar relationship.
1. Partly explained by his upbringing,
2. Amar's patronising nature, I am thinking mainly on the basis of Papaji's personality. Amar must have picked up this trait from his father. + Amar was this loving man of high academic, professional and moral standards,
3. Partly perhaps because Megha must have been really young when they got married.
Megha is now 28, as per Nanhi's ad in PL. Amar died two years ago. Nanhi is 8 years old, we came to know about it clearly in the farm house episode, so Megha was 20 when Nanhi was born.
Now let me share one blooper in NBT. In one of the recent episodes Megha says to Mohan, "Amar Ke Saath Bitaye Hue Woh 11 saal..." Please go through the next few lines in brown and correct my calculation if I have missed anything important.
Megha is 28 today, Amar died 2 years ago and for 11 years she was married to Amar. 28 - 2 - 11 = 15 Hmmm Child Marriage! Now this is a blooper.
But lets assume she got married at the legal mimnimum age at marriage for girls in India, i.e., 18, had Nanhi by 20.
Yet it means that at the time of marriage Megha was not even a graduate, and now since she is, as per the conversation when she started looking for a job goes, it is easy to understand that Amar must have supported her to complete her graduation after their marriage.
All these reasons do make one thing clear, Megha was or rather is, idealizing Amar, he always was one place up. This happens in many traditionally married couples in Indian families, all over the world.
Amar had kept his professional life completely away from his personal life, except for his colleagues, like Ramanathan, who was a good friend and hence became a part of his family gatherings and personal life.
Megha has told Mohan that Amar never shared any of his stresses / problems from work with her. This can be explained by the peculiar non-equal, yes very loving, yet non-equal relationship which Amar and Megha had.
Such a bond resulted into Megha being completely unaware of danger to Amar's life, hence, she had no clue, no document to prove Amar non-guilty, she was completely in the dark about Amar's stress at work.
She had no opportunity to guide, express her opinion or do anything to SAVE Amar. He was murdered, she came to know about it two years after his death through a news report telecast on the National Television.
Contrary to this, her relation with Mohan is far more equal. To some extent she doesn't take Mohan seriously enough for his professional skills, at least in the earlier episodes. Even after Megha accepted job at PL there isn't much appreciation by Megha for Mohan's skill, talent and passion being a crime reporter.
Even after Amar's case mystery was solved by Mohan, NBT has not shown us Megha or Vyas's appreciating Mohan as a professional.
They have made him a farishta, but whatever he did was totally out of his skills, experience in his work and his passion to seek the truth and to make the wrong known to people and of course his love for Megha. Megha has had no time to appreciate Mohan's skills, dedication and his professional competence.
Mohan and Megha share a more equal relationship, partly explained by:
1. Mohan's upbringing;
2. His modern attitude;
3. His ability to empathize with people - partly explained by his nature and his long career in journalism, he has seen a lot of this world, and a lot of dirty part of it, as a crime reporter.
4. His ability to accept his mistakes, not to sulk about them but to work hard to repair them
5. He has lot of respect for Megha. That initial respect has developed into love, but this respect is the basis for their equal relationship.
6. Megha got married so early and widowed so early in her life, may n ot have had a good friends who were men and with whom she shared a nice healthy, equal bond - that of friendship. The only man she had was Amar, the superior husband.
Mohan Megha's relation is equal, and that is why she is still not able to accept him as anything greater than friend, this is of course one of the many other reasons for Megha's current dilemma's, that we have been discussing about.
Mohan and Megha are also colleagues, hence Megha is well aware of Mohan's professional life, his ups and downs w.r.t. his relation with Pratik, etc.
Megha has fallen for Mohan for all the good qualities he has. The kind of beautiful qualities he brings out from Megha, by being around her as himself, i.e., treating everyone equal. He said to her once, "Bacche, Buddhe ya Jawaan mai sabake saath aise hi baat karataa hun". We are tired that Megha is not yet accepting that she loves Mohan but her thoughts and actions are largely about Mohan.
She doesn't want to loose Mohan, like she lost Amar. Hence, she takes the first help possible, from Karan, to go in the danger zone herself and alert Mohan, to ask him to back off, this time at least.
Megha going to save Mohan, taking him to the hospital is happening because she has a more equal relation with him and they love each other. Mohan would have been shot by these men any way. 7-8 goons connected to drug mafia don't need Megha calling Mohan and then they come and easily shoot Mohan.
These mafia goons can be capable of opening fire in the middle of the road, in the middle of Baaraat. They would not bother if along with Mohan someone else innocent gets shot.
But let's see if the great traditional side of Megha and Indu's widhawa jaap, inculcates guilt in Megha or not. I really hope she doesn't start thinking, 'I called you, you looked at me, ket looking at me, the goons were able to locate you and thats why you dot shot. Because of me you got shot'. I hope not to see this kind of nonsense from Megha.
The point here is, Mohan-Megha bond is far more equal than Amar-Megha bond.
Megha shares workplace with Mohan and love has brought them close.
She lost Amar and is able to save Mohan.
And given that she has already lost Amar and yet is lucky to have found Mohan is enough of a reason that she doesn't want to loose him, that explains she stopping him from leaving Juna Mohalla.
But Megha attempting to alert Mohan about danger and she saving Mohan after the gunshot is due to the status of parity in their relationship.
Now this is my very personal opinion, it reveals my own biases. Yes, at any point of time I want nicely equal relation between the couple. That may mean partners being assertive, sometimes conflicting each others points, but remaining together because that is what they want, to love and fight with each other without anyone patronizing the other all the time. I accept this bias fully and am totally unapologetic about this bias.
Probably the Megha's dilemma is a result of she not being used to have such a relationship, at least after her marriage to Amar, for we have no clues about her upbringing, except that she, like Mohan also belonged to a rich family.
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This is a very long post.
Thanks for reading. Please share your POV, comments, differences.
NBT is giving us such a food for thought, we do have here very dedicated readers and wonderful writers who word their analysis, thoughts beautifully. Lets discuss.
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Megha decides to go to the spot where Mohan has gone to cover drug mafia story. In the PL office gallary she expresses that to Karan, goes ahead of him, saying, "ab time bahot kum hai, chalo" or something on those lines.
She wants to be there at the spot, in order to alert Mohan about the danger and to make him back off from this mission, at least that time.
It was so important for her to alert Mohan about the danger, no mater how he would interpret this, no mater what the repercussion it would have on her interaction with him later. She had to go, to save Mohan.
We have already linked the similarity between Amar and Mohan in this track. Megha happens to be a common factor in both these tracks, i.e., Amar and Mohan being shot.
She is the lady love of these two men of principles and guts, who dare to risk their life in search of the truth, to make known the wrong to the world, as a part of their job, but the task they are doing is no less than a mission to both of these men.
However, there is a difference in the treatment given to Megha by the two men. Amar, who was Megha's husband perhaps had a more respectful, superior position in the Megha-Amar relationship.
1. Partly explained by his upbringing,
2. Amar's patronising nature, I am thinking mainly on the basis of Papaji's personality. Amar must have picked up this trait from his father. + Amar was this loving man of high academic, professional and moral standards,
3. Partly perhaps because Megha must have been really young when they got married.
Megha is now 28, as per Nanhi's ad in PL. Amar died two years ago. Nanhi is 8 years old, we came to know about it clearly in the farm house episode, so Megha was 20 when Nanhi was born.
Now let me share one blooper in NBT. In one of the recent episodes Megha says to Mohan, "Amar Ke Saath Bitaye Hue Woh 11 saal..." Please go through the next few lines in brown and correct my calculation if I have missed anything important.
Megha is 28 today, Amar died 2 years ago and for 11 years she was married to Amar. 28 - 2 - 11 = 15 Hmmm Child Marriage! Now this is a blooper.
But lets assume she got married at the legal mimnimum age at marriage for girls in India, i.e., 18, had Nanhi by 20.
Yet it means that at the time of marriage Megha was not even a graduate, and now since she is, as per the conversation when she started looking for a job goes, it is easy to understand that Amar must have supported her to complete her graduation after their marriage.
All these reasons do make one thing clear, Megha was or rather is, idealizing Amar, he always was one place up. This happens in many traditionally married couples in Indian families, all over the world.
Amar had kept his professional life completely away from his personal life, except for his colleagues, like Ramanathan, who was a good friend and hence became a part of his family gatherings and personal life.
Megha has told Mohan that Amar never shared any of his stresses / problems from work with her. This can be explained by the peculiar non-equal, yes very loving, yet non-equal relationship which Amar and Megha had.
Such a bond resulted into Megha being completely unaware of danger to Amar's life, hence, she had no clue, no document to prove Amar non-guilty, she was completely in the dark about Amar's stress at work.
She had no opportunity to guide, express her opinion or do anything to SAVE Amar. He was murdered, she came to know about it two years after his death through a news report telecast on the National Television.
Contrary to this, her relation with Mohan is far more equal. To some extent she doesn't take Mohan seriously enough for his professional skills, at least in the earlier episodes. Even after Megha accepted job at PL there isn't much appreciation by Megha for Mohan's skill, talent and passion being a crime reporter.
Even after Amar's case mystery was solved by Mohan, NBT has not shown us Megha or Vyas's appreciating Mohan as a professional.
They have made him a farishta, but whatever he did was totally out of his skills, experience in his work and his passion to seek the truth and to make the wrong known to people and of course his love for Megha. Megha has had no time to appreciate Mohan's skills, dedication and his professional competence.
Mohan and Megha share a more equal relationship, partly explained by:
1. Mohan's upbringing;
2. His modern attitude;
3. His ability to empathize with people - partly explained by his nature and his long career in journalism, he has seen a lot of this world, and a lot of dirty part of it, as a crime reporter.
4. His ability to accept his mistakes, not to sulk about them but to work hard to repair them
5. He has lot of respect for Megha. That initial respect has developed into love, but this respect is the basis for their equal relationship.
6. Megha got married so early and widowed so early in her life, may n ot have had a good friends who were men and with whom she shared a nice healthy, equal bond - that of friendship. The only man she had was Amar, the superior husband.
Mohan Megha's relation is equal, and that is why she is still not able to accept him as anything greater than friend, this is of course one of the many other reasons for Megha's current dilemma's, that we have been discussing about.
Mohan and Megha are also colleagues, hence Megha is well aware of Mohan's professional life, his ups and downs w.r.t. his relation with Pratik, etc.
Megha has fallen for Mohan for all the good qualities he has. The kind of beautiful qualities he brings out from Megha, by being around her as himself, i.e., treating everyone equal. He said to her once, "Bacche, Buddhe ya Jawaan mai sabake saath aise hi baat karataa hun". We are tired that Megha is not yet accepting that she loves Mohan but her thoughts and actions are largely about Mohan.
She doesn't want to loose Mohan, like she lost Amar. Hence, she takes the first help possible, from Karan, to go in the danger zone herself and alert Mohan, to ask him to back off, this time at least.
Megha going to save Mohan, taking him to the hospital is happening because she has a more equal relation with him and they love each other. Mohan would have been shot by these men any way. 7-8 goons connected to drug mafia don't need Megha calling Mohan and then they come and easily shoot Mohan.
These mafia goons can be capable of opening fire in the middle of the road, in the middle of Baaraat. They would not bother if along with Mohan someone else innocent gets shot.
But let's see if the great traditional side of Megha and Indu's widhawa jaap, inculcates guilt in Megha or not. I really hope she doesn't start thinking, 'I called you, you looked at me, ket looking at me, the goons were able to locate you and thats why you dot shot. Because of me you got shot'. I hope not to see this kind of nonsense from Megha.
The point here is, Mohan-Megha bond is far more equal than Amar-Megha bond.
Megha shares workplace with Mohan and love has brought them close.
She lost Amar and is able to save Mohan.
And given that she has already lost Amar and yet is lucky to have found Mohan is enough of a reason that she doesn't want to loose him, that explains she stopping him from leaving Juna Mohalla.
But Megha attempting to alert Mohan about danger and she saving Mohan after the gunshot is due to the status of parity in their relationship.
Now this is my very personal opinion, it reveals my own biases. Yes, at any point of time I want nicely equal relation between the couple. That may mean partners being assertive, sometimes conflicting each others points, but remaining together because that is what they want, to love and fight with each other without anyone patronizing the other all the time. I accept this bias fully and am totally unapologetic about this bias.
Probably the Megha's dilemma is a result of she not being used to have such a relationship, at least after her marriage to Amar, for we have no clues about her upbringing, except that she, like Mohan also belonged to a rich family.
_____________________
This is a very long post.
Thanks for reading. Please share your POV, comments, differences.
NBT is giving us such a food for thought, we do have here very dedicated readers and wonderful writers who word their analysis, thoughts beautifully. Lets discuss.
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