How do you know he/she is THE one?

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Mahi

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Posted: 13 years ago

So I always wonder when people say they found their soulmate.. or that they have found the person they'll marry, how do you know that he/she is THE one?

You meet thousands of people, you probably get attracted to quite a few.. maybe even fall in love with someone.. but the lifelong, eternal love we are talking about is rare.

So then how do you know you've found the person you can spend the rest of your life with?

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Posted: 13 years ago

People who say "I found my soumate" within days of their relationship probably haven't understood the meaning of love.

It's Lust only when you say she/he is the one, i want you mwah mwah (😆) within days/weeks.

I don't believe in the love at first sight quote. Yes you do feel attracted towards someone but don't call it love. Love is yet to happen.. The slowly love occurs, the better it is for the relationship.

But I have a question... a lot of girls/boys today are getting arrange marriage and they are content. So the next morning after getting married, if one of them updates their facebook status "i found my soulmate" ... is that wrong? No right?

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Magical_KaSh

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Posted: 13 years ago

i agree wd VIP those who says they have found deir true love/soulmate within js few days of their relationship havent understood the real meaning of love

and i dont believe in love at first sight its attraction at first sight there is difference between attractiona nd love

which people fail to understand

and ends up giving it name of love

such relationship never succeed

and now answerin how i found she is the one for me

i used to try to connect everythin wd her even she wsn wd me

whenevr i used to watch any of the romantic tv show used to fit her and myself in that i know dats quiet weirdo bt dats how i used to b 😆

every other thing used to remind me of hers

lookin at other gal 😆 used to think bout her 😆 how her reaction wouldb

how she would feeel

certainly wsn scared neither i was cheatin her bt used to care alot bout her

and dats how i got to know she is the one

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Sara.

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Posted: 13 years ago

When you know your not yourself I guess? 😆

But I agree with V.I.P.

I think you Just get an feeling Inside you That you don't want,

that person ever leaving your side.

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Sonia

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Posted: 13 years ago

In my opinion I believe there's nothing such as a soul mate.

In English, we'd refer to soul mate as someone who is very much similar to us, our qualities, and perhaps understands us very well- as deep as what our soul craves for. That person is called a soul mate.

It's not necessary that your soul mate is your boyfriend or your husband. A soul mate can be a best friend too. Provided he/she understands you really well; and at times understand what you feel beneath your words or your silence.

Some people say that you know when it's right, it's right. So basically different people have different judgments. Some say love can never be possible at first sight. Some say everything's possible. Do we even know what love is in the first place? Love means only physical attraction? Love is mental understanding between two people? Love is lust? There's no perfect definition; so love cannot be easily judged. The more the people; the wider the horizon of ideas.

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Abhishek

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Posted: 13 years ago

there is nothing as a soulmate..

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Mahi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: V.I.P
People who say "I found my soumate" within days of their relationship probably haven't understood the meaning of love.

It's Lust only when you say she/he is the one, i want you mwah mwah (😆) within days/weeks.

I don't believe in the love at first sight quote. Yes you do feel attracted towards someone but don't call it love. Love is yet to happen.. The slowly love occurs, the better it is for the relationship.

But I have a question... a lot of girls/boys today are getting arrange marriage and they are content. So the next morning after getting married, if one of them updates their facebook status "i found my soulmate" ... is that wrong? No right?

I agree with you mostly. I do not believe in love at first sight either. It's attraction at first sight. Lust at first sight. But can't be love at first sight. Love is much deeper than that. But some people who are in love say that they knew they were within just a few days.. they say that sometimes it's just a moment that makes you realize how deeply you are already in love. Again, I've no personal experience here so just trying to understand all sides.

Originally posted by: Bipin2012
i agree wd VIP those who says they have found deir true love/soulmate within js few days of their relationship havent understood the real meaning of love
and i dont believe in love at first sight its attraction at first sight there is difference between attractiona nd love
which people fail to understand
and ends up giving it name of love
such relationship never succeed

and now answerin how i found she is the one for me
i used to try to connect everythin wd her even she wsn wd me
whenevr i used to watch any of the romantic tv show used to fit her and myself in that i know dats quiet weirdo bt dats how i used to b 😆
every other thing used to remind me of hers
lookin at other gal 😆 used to think bout her 😆 how her reaction wouldb
how she would feeel
certainly wsn scared neither i was cheatin her bt used to care alot bout her
and dats how i got to know she is the one

Interesting.. That's a very interesting way of looking at it. I guess when all pieces fit perfectly next to each other, you know :)

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Mahi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: -SaruuKaSh-
When you know your not yourself I guess? 😆
But I agree with V.I.P.
I think you Just get an feeling Inside you That you don't want,
that person ever leaving your side.

Hmm.. you're right. I guess only those who have fallen in love can know for sure. For the rest of us (me 😳) we'll know if/when such a time comes.

Originally posted by: -Predator-
In my opinion I believe there's nothing such as a soul mate.

In English, we'd refer to soul mate as someone who is very much similar to us, our qualities, and perhaps understands us very well- as deep as what our soul craves for. That person is called a soul mate.

It's not necessary that your soul mate is your boyfriend or your husband. A soul mate can be a best friend too. Provided he/she understands you really well; and at times understand what you feel beneath your words or your silence.

Some people say that you know when it's right, it's right. So basically different people have different judgments. Some say love can never be possible at first sight. Some say everything's possible. Do we even know what love is in the first place? Love means only physical attraction? Love is mental understanding between two people? Love is lust? There's no perfect definition; so love cannot be easily judged. The more the people; the wider the horizon of ideas.

I totally agree with you, that your soul mate doesn't have to be your lover. Your soul mate could be your sister or best friend. But that also means that there are soul mates.. just not in the traditional sense of the word.

As for the bold part, why can't it be all of the above? Love is definitely mental understanding between two people, it's the connection of two souls, but there's always lust and physical attraction involved too. Don't you want the person you're in love with? Now it could go either way. Physical attraction that leads to spending more time together and then love or Spending more time together that leads to falling in love which involves being physically attracted.

I guess that's my theory. Don't have the practical experience yet so... 😆

Originally posted by: abhishek_kriyaa
there is nothing as a soulmate..

Maybe.. Though those who have found one argue otherwise.

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-Lostindreams

@-Lostindreams

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Posted: 13 years ago

I don't know how it feels to be in love, nvr really fallen in love before. But i believe whn u r not in love there r alot of ppl u find attractive, might be coz of their eyes, looks anything.

But whn finally r in love, u don't find anything attactive in those ppl who ACTUALLY r attractive(HOT and all), but only the one u love. Also since im a girl, as a girl if i fell in love i wud like to look as attractice as posible to the one im married wth. Which is y i can tell tht i wear a scarf, for guys to not find me appealing, but ONLY tht one person i love.
And i evn believe whn a person is in love u wanna do things for the person to love u evn, which is y u wud want to do things evn if it is something u might not wanna do or can't do. Im not saying wrong doings, but might be some habits u have which the person u love doesn't like, but for him u r willing to change.
Last but not the least, And this might sound funny but i belive tht a person CAN control not falling in love wth a person (since im a person in for arrange marriage, which means i only wanna fall in love wth the person i get married to). But whn a person is in love, then it hard to control ur love to him/her, u wud think of the person whereevr whnevr.

Edited by pakindmuziq - 13 years ago

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Humara Rishta

@humararishta

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Posted: 13 years ago

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This is the voice of your soul

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