Ufff...Annoying Aarti

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Mohini19

@Mohini19

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Posted: 13 years ago

So, I understand that its a new place for Aarti and a new house for Ansh too. But, Aarti is just too much when it comes to Ansh.

All this woman does the entire day is think about Ansg. Oh, give your family members a break. Gayatri was absolutely right in giving Arti left and right in the kitchen when she was peeling cucumbers. And on top of that, what WAS THE NEED to TELL GAYATRI that "mummy ji I was thinking about Ansh?" Oh lady, USE your brain. Don't you already know what kinda woman your mother-in-law is?

I also haven't seen Arti worrying about payal and palak his much. Does she take them to the car when they are leaving for school? No.

And instead of trying to put in some effort to increase bonding between the kids, she asked Yash to send him back to his old school.

I guess its also a case of poor direction. Who worries this much about leaving their kid to school?

Having said this, I understand that Arti has been through a lot previously. Plus, the others in scindia family are not very helpful. But, she also needs to understand that Ansh is not the only responsibility she has now. The whole premise of this marriage was Yash and Arti needing each other for their respective kids.

Edited by Mohini19 - 13 years ago

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sexyheels

@sexyheels

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Posted: 13 years ago

you know anyone in Arti's situation would do the same

she's not over protective for no reason ... she's been through enough until about a month all she had was Anch

mothers can't change their nature overnight

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Sree

@Katyayani_devi

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Posted: 13 years ago

i think arti is not annoying her condition is understandable in tat house.

scindia family except arya want bahu n mom of yash kids. by knowing arti veing kid too how can they seperate mom frm her kid. if they want mother of yash's kids they might ve bought a girl div or so who doesn't ve kids of her own. there ends their problem. she is doing her resosnsibilites frm very day begining. it's natural everyone look of their kids too. will yash ,gaya3 pay attention to their kids too than other kids. it's natural. arti tried to bond with paypal but becos of bua brainwash abt step mom n all they didn't allowing her to be their mom ,they just seeing her like nany or someservant to came to make their things. ansh called yash naya papa n papa but didn't see paypal calling arti mom to her. scindia always in mission of showing arti n ansh in poor light.

as ansh is new in tat house art as mother done things to comfort him n the second class citizen treatment to ansh it's natural her behavior.
i am on ansh side. yash with out knowing y ansh is so scared just unfair to him. he took decision with out consulting arti. he is just unfair to ansh eventhough his intentions are nice.if hi kids in same condition will he not try to find out wat actually bothering him than simply imagining ourselves.
arti for her nature n she is so worried abt her kid ,n in tat condition no one thinks cooly ,it's easy to see frm other side but when comes to self we comes to knew it wat it is.any mother will react the same way wat arti did today,it's understandable.
arya has their won issues. kids need both mom n dad, so arya has to open communication n trust each other n both must decide which is good for their kids

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658823

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Posted: 13 years ago

plus, she has every reason to be worried.

her son was locked in a closet with no food or water when she left him for the bazaar. she trusted G3 and G3 tortured Ansh at PayPal's request.

It appears to me that Yash is too busy morning Arpita that he really doesn't focus on his kids. Unlike Aarti, he had a huge support group to help raise his kids. This allowed him to sit and cry for Arpita instead of actually parenting. He doesn't know their day to day routine. He honestly treats Aarti like his kids personal nanny. Sorry, I am just frustrated constantly reading how great of a father Yash is. He is not great. He is not there.

Now with Ansh, he is actually learning what it means to be a hands on parent. He didn't have to do this for PayPal since G3 and bua pretty much raised them. It is easy to judge a mother for being overprotective, but Aarti's hands are tied. She can't tell him what his family is truly like and even if she did, he would defend them, not her.

I hope Yash actually learns the truth about his kids and his mothers influence. but what i see is ansh not going anywhere near yash. he made him go to school, he is PayPal's dad and he must be like the both of them. Yash is going to have to really earn Aarti and Ansh's trust...

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Sree

@Katyayani_devi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: USManeetian
plus, she has every reason to be worried.

her son was locked in a closet with no food or water when she left him for the bazaar. she trusted G3 and G3 tortured Ansh at PayPal's request.

It appears to me that Yash is too busy morning Arpita that he really doesn't focus on his kids. Unlike Aarti, he had a huge support group to help raise his kids. This allowed him to sit and cry for Arpita instead of actually parenting. He doesn't know their day to day routine. He honestly treats Aarti like his kids personal nanny. Sorry, I am just frustrated constantly reading how great of a father Yash is. He is not great. He is not there.

Now with Ansh, he is actually learning what it means to be a hands on parent. He didn't have to do this for PayPal since G3 and bua pretty much raised them. It is easy to judge a mother for being overprotective, but Aarti's hands are tied. She can't tell him what his family is truly like and even if she did, he would defend them, not her.

I hope Yash actually learns the truth about his kids and his mothers influence. but what i see is ansh not going anywhere near yash. he made him go to school, he is PayPal's dad and he must be like the both of them. Yash is going to have to really earn Aarti and Ansh's trust...

ya me too thinking same, yash is not actually on parenting on hands for his kids too. arti is actually on hands on parenting. yash needs to go a long way eventhough everyone has their own flaws. ya honestly he is treating arti as nanny for his kids.yash must spend time with arti n ansh n arya must open communication n trust each other n work as team which is good for their kids.

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658823

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Posted: 13 years ago

i agree they got married for their kids, but they are not doing their kids any good by constantly clashing on whose parenting method is better.

obviously there are flaws with both, but at least ansh is still innocent. he has since lost that by going to the Scindia house. i feel like yash maybe concerned with ansh, but more from i don't want him to embarrass me infront of my family sort of way. he loves PayPal cause they are there but not there. Ansh needs his fathers love. Maybe Yash didn't get that with Papa Scindia. Hopefully Ansh will show him a different side to a father-son relationship.

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Inaya Haya

@lilmzsunshine

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Posted: 13 years ago

I disagree - she has every reason to be apprehensive. I can assure you I would have left by now.

She was NEVER truly welcomed in this house.

She has CONSTANTLY been made to feel like a second class citizen since before the wedding - by being compared to Paridi, by having been given less gifts, to less $$, to more responsibility to comments like 'it's not YOUR first time, you SHOULD know this, you DON'T get this, etc.

She was told to leave Ansh behind. She had to beg to keep him with her.

She has been treated like her sole purpose is to be a mother to Payal and Palak, not Ansh. While some would argue she is obsessive about Ansh, I would say her MIL and FIL expect her to forget he exists.

She has witnessed, and kept it under wraps, the locking of Ansh.

She has stood by, albeit not quietly, when the decision of something as big as a school change, was taken out of her hands.

Remember - she has been the SOLE decision maker of Ansh's life. So even if a good one, a decision made that impacts Ansh NEEDs her approval before it's executed. As it would have been had Ansh been Yash and her son.

As for taking care of PayPal - she's doing her duty, just like Yash is trying his. THe difference is - Yash doesn't understand his own daughter's machinations while Aarti understands her son very well.

Someone made a comment about being anxious regarding a new school - heck yeah a mother would be anxious!!! My oldest is now 9 and I can assure you, ANY place he goes for the first time, I go. If just to be there silently, in the back ground, incase he needs me. And let me tell you - out of the 5 soccer games this season, the only one that I had to step away from for 40 minutes is the one he came out of to ask where his mom was. He never does that, because he knows mommy is there. But when he noticed I wasn't, he wanted to know where I was. Kids are like that - they won't come to you, or tell you they want you there, but they want you there. They don't even know it, but they do. And it's EVERY mother's prerogative to go ANYWHERE their child is going.

I don't understand this angst against Arti - just don't get it.

But I will end with her stmt she made today - if Yash took responsibility of the decision for the new school, he took responsibility of Ansh's safe keeping - so where is Ansh. Great point Aarti - I hope this shakes Yash into thinking what the heck happened. I just hope this doesn't turn into another 'what a rebellious child Ansh is' sequence.

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celina30

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: sexyheels
you know anyone in Arti's situation would do the same

she's not over protective for no reason ... she's been through enough until about a month all she had was Anch

mothers can't change their nature overnight

Say who? Everyone in Aarti's position will NOT do the same..some Mothers are 'Over the Top' as if their children are the only ones in the world. I know some very, very annoying Mothers who are too obsessed with their children, they overindulge them, hardly correct them and the children end up losing as people are unable to tolerate them. I know some Mothers too who are well balanced- they know that children need a lot of love, understanding, discipline and manners and some fun. Aarti clearly spoils the boy, and sadly if this continues, his life skills growing up in a world like this would not be developed enough for him to enjoy a good future.

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DMKJ_VB

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: USManeetian
i agree they got married for their kids, but they are not doing their kids any good by constantly clashing on whose parenting method is better.

obviously there are flaws with both, but at least ansh is still innocent. he has since lost that by going to the Scindia house. i feel like yash maybe concerned with ansh, but more from i don't want him to embarrass me infront of my family sort of way. he loves PayPal cause they are there but not there. Ansh needs his fathers love. Maybe Yash didn't get that with Papa Scindia. Hopefully Ansh will show him a different side to a father-son relationship.

bold- absolutely disagree! Sending ansh to school for his future is equivalent to being concerned for him so that he does not embarrass him?😕