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Several things about yesterday and today's episodes caught my attention. Mainly to do with the children in the story and the way adults interact (or don't) with them.
Firstly, Ansh, Payal, and Palak although adorable, are all spoiled...Ansh more than the girls. All of them seem to be used to getting their way. Why are they allowed to interrupt or speak back to adults? Why are they even present for every adult activity? They act on their impulses. I can understand that Ansh has been the center of Aarti's life, but there is such a thing as responsible discipline. Discipline comes from the word disciple...meaning a child who is disciplined is taught how to follow rules, act appropriately, have manners and act in a way in accordance with the culture so that child is accepted and productive. Discipline is NOT punishment. A parent who ignores discipline is doing a disservice to their child.
Secondly, what adult was responsible for the children on the day after the wedding? Obviously, Gayatri didn't want Aarti near her son. So who was suppose to check on the children? Adults were up and dressed. Guests were in the house for the rituals, and the children were still in their room, not bathed or dressed. They had not had breakfast. No one had checked on them. In this case, the children misbehaved, but the adults left these small children to their own devices. So who is at fault? Did the in-laws in this house just think that magically the children would be cared for? Gayatri told Aarti not to worry about Ansh because he was "at home." I think this whole incident is just going to fan her worries, because no one was watching the kids.
Thirdly, I think once this whole ritual, wedding stuff is over, Aarti will fall into the role of caring parent who is the one that will be sure Ansh and the girls feel cared for and safe. I just hope that in doing that she also disciplines them appropriately and doesn't always say, "It's okay." because often it is NOT okay...children need to know that.
Okay...enough preaching on children...but they have been my vocation for many years...and I really dislike when a child is treated in either extreme...either neglected or over indulged...both can ruin a person.
Firstly, Ansh, Payal, and Palak although adorable, are all spoiled...Ansh more than the girls. All of them seem to be used to getting their way. Why are they allowed to interrupt or speak back to adults? Why are they even present for every adult activity? They act on their impulses. I can understand that Ansh has been the center of Aarti's life, but there is such a thing as responsible discipline. Discipline comes from the word disciple...meaning a child who is disciplined is taught how to follow rules, act appropriately, have manners and act in a way in accordance with the culture so that child is accepted and productive. Discipline is NOT punishment. A parent who ignores discipline is doing a disservice to their child.
Secondly, what adult was responsible for the children on the day after the wedding? Obviously, Gayatri didn't want Aarti near her son. So who was suppose to check on the children? Adults were up and dressed. Guests were in the house for the rituals, and the children were still in their room, not bathed or dressed. They had not had breakfast. No one had checked on them. In this case, the children misbehaved, but the adults left these small children to their own devices. So who is at fault? Did the in-laws in this house just think that magically the children would be cared for? Gayatri told Aarti not to worry about Ansh because he was "at home." I think this whole incident is just going to fan her worries, because no one was watching the kids.
Thirdly, I think once this whole ritual, wedding stuff is over, Aarti will fall into the role of caring parent who is the one that will be sure Ansh and the girls feel cared for and safe. I just hope that in doing that she also disciplines them appropriately and doesn't always say, "It's okay." because often it is NOT okay...children need to know that.
Okay...enough preaching on children...but they have been my vocation for many years...and I really dislike when a child is treated in either extreme...either neglected or over indulged...both can ruin a person.
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