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A couple of years back, folks from Bell Bajao campaign came to our school to sensitise us on domestic violence. As a tween from a loving home I was baffled at the idea of a mom and dad having a go at each other causing physical harm (I was pretty shocked to know that women beat up men too and ashamed to realise that this was not a "class" problem).
Now I get that IPKKND is a story about OPPOSITES. And I also get that it is a STORY. I also get that it is this COLD-HEARTED front that Arnav shows that ATTRACTS a lot of people and it is fundamentally just a FRONT. And I get that the chick is sometimes so KOOKIE that if I were her mum I would take away her TV privileges (my mom would do that!). I understand that the dude LOVES the chick inspite of all the hurt that he doles out. I completely buy the facts that he BREAKS HIS OWN HEART when he hurts this woman. I even know that this reckless, aggressive streak comes from some sordid PAST that he had to suffer. I get all of that. And frankly, I forgive the dude. I will still root for him in some way, and hope that by the time I am eighteen or twenty or twenty-five, he would have fought all his demons and overcome them. I will probably be still watching the show and saying, well done, yo!
But sadly, that is not my point.
I am seriously shocked that in a forum (presumably made up of mostly women, all of them much smarter and worldly than I am) how is it that people make flippant and pretty insensitive comments about violence. I mean, you can love Arnav Raizada, but saying things like "the chick had it coming", "she totes deserved it", "she is wrong too", "poor dude got a crick on his neck and she smirked", etc – now that is so totally uncool, man. Nothing and I mean NOTHING makes physical assault okay. No matter how much the provocation. No matter how brown your eyes are.
Please understand, I am not "bashing" (what an ugly word, yo!) Arnav, I am just troubled by forum posters (a minority, perhaps) who are so forgiving of one human dishing out physical harm.
I am not the judgemental sort, but this one time I am going to be, because it had to be said.
Apologies in advance if I hurt any feelings.
