Love and Hate

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Aris.. Very thought provoking post. Hats off..

I have the very questions you ask about Hetal.. Did she really love Koki, trust her and respect her before or was it just an obligation to keep her husband and MIL happy?

At the end of the day, Koki is related to Hetal because they married brothers. The same love Chirag has for Parag and his family cannot be expected from Hetal.. It can happen. I agree. I know it does but It may also not happen. Like I am doubting and wondering today.

One thing, this is just my PoV, is that if you love a person, you need not overlook their faults, but you do not grow to distrust them them so quickly. To love is to trust and respect. You may not like what they do but you continue to love them with their faults.

I see it in Koki. She loves Hetal irrespective of her faults. But is that same love reciprocated? I do not know😕

Good point, Justlikethat. When you love someone, you accept them with all their faults. You trust them and you already know they will look out for you. You don't doubt them because other people pointed something negative to you. You already know how they are.

They way the story is going, I find it hard to believe that Hetal ever trusted Koki. She accepted her as the main decision maker because she herself could never take decisions or was too easy going to make any. So she let Koki do that part of the work. Now that someone is there to bring out her insecurities (I believe that is what these are), she is coming out with those feelings she may have had already.

Does a thirty year old relationship break like this. Yes. I think. Especially when there is so much hidden feelings boiling underneath that is not brought to the front. It can break and break easily.

As you said hate and love have a thin line between them.

But I do not think it is the reason for the break in the relation between Koki and Hetal.

My PoV

I get your point but still it is beyond my understanding how you could doubt a person who you have known for 30 years. It is not like Kokila has changed. She was always like that. Hetal should know by now how Koki is whether she is good or bad. She has always been like that. If Hetal was bothered by any of her actions, Hetal should have said something by now. I mean she spent long 30 years with her.

No relationship can work if it is only one person who is sustaining it. Koki sustained this relationship. Hetal was there assuring herself that she loves Koki like a sister but actually she was just thinking of her as her Devrani. Her perception of the relation was based on the fact that her MIL and husband considered it to be on the right track.

I think so too. She didn't really love and accept Koki as she was with all her faults and foibles. Hetal just went through the motions because it was a joint family.

But now when another questions it, she has doubts.. Just like her incapability to make a proper decision based on facts till now, this is also her incapability to look at the truth behind her relationships..

I think it is pretty lame to have doubts now after 30 years. This is a time when both of them are getting old and need each others' support and companionship. Even if Rashi was all good, she can not fulfill the void created by Kokila's separation. A daughter in law can not provide the same companionship as the sister inn law because she doesn't share the same memories and maturity level. Hetal and Kokila have grown old together. It is kind of foolish to throw all tha away at this stage😭

A long rant and I don't even know if this is what you were looking for.. But Hetal is a sore point now..😕

Originally posted by: RachP

This is just another side of the coin.

It could also be that the love Hetal has for Jigar is far greater than the love she has for Kokila. Jigar is, after all, her son--her own blood and blood is thicker than water. Right now, she's been brainwashed into believing that her son has been treated unfairly by Ahem/Koki. If her son is not fighting for his "right", which he's not. Jigar isn't even speaking up about it. Then, she sees it as her job to step up to the plate and hence, the mother-hen in her is coming out.

Rachna, I knew you would come up with another side. You are a Psych major after all, right? I understand the mother-hen is coming out, but where was she all these years? Why did Rashi need to show her throuh her kalakaris? Why didn't she notice it and speak up before? Why is she speaking now? This is what I don't get.

It's all coming out for the wrong reasons and because of a series of misunderstandings carefully construed by the lovely Rashi The Mesmero, but I still feel like the greater Hetal's fall is, the more wary she will be of Rashi in the future (I've said this in another post). The real the-boy-who-shouted-"Wolf!" story will come true and Rashi will be left absolutely remote.

😃

Yes, it is good that it is happening. We know Hetal is soft hearted and she believes people very easily. She herself said that when she found out about Rashi's betrayal last time. So when the truth comes out, she is going to feel worse than Kokila. It will be hard for her to get over it.

I can't say anything about Rashi. I can't think of an apt punishment for her. I feel the CV's really like her so she will always come back to torment more.