Love and Hate - Page 2

Originally posted by: aris22l

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad

@aris what a fab and thought provoking post '.loved it
@harini has beautifully explained it...

sorry @aris ' i am really deviating from the main topic... here my focus is on what went wrong.. why hetal is changing...

Trust : hetal herself said many a times that what ever koki does she will do it right...but what happened now
Friendship: they discussed things with a pleasant smile and mutual respect... but what happened now
Love: hetal repeated many a times that koki is her little sister and loves her... but what happened now

My views:
In a person however sweet you might be, will have insecurities in your subconscious mind
Power/Position : I always had this doubt right from the time i watched the serial... how can a woman (who are supposed to be greedier in gender) forsake her power/position/responsibility of the elder DIL... how can a younger DIL have the say in the house and while the elder one is all smiles... there is more to the smile behind her. power is the need to influence the will... this stage will come during the time of separation
but now she will be using her position...she hasn't come till the power/position stage ...but this will eventually resurface... when the actual separation is about to come
Motivation: Hetal is one person who says javadena... for her if today is fine ,,, she is happy ..she is least worried about tomorrow... as koki took care of the whole house under her wings ...hetal was relaxed ..never thought about anything...always said javadena... there is no fighting spirit or no motivation in her what so ever... she saw everything was fine under koki
- but now rashi is showing her the reason for being motivated...rashi is showing her that her son and DIL (rashi and jigar) are being treated miserably and indifferently by koki and Ahem... when she showed that jigar went in Auto...now she has a reason to fight for them and found a new support (Rashi) to strengthen the reason. to fight
now she is starting to think about Rashi and her son...
Confidence : Hetal never had self-confidence, it was koki or chirag who gaurded her from any external threats... they stood by her through think and thin,,,, she has the least confidence in making any decisions...
but now her confidence is coming to the fore ...she made 2 decisions confidently ..asked koki to do the puja, told Jigar not to take the new car '. this is the first time... here she got the confidence to put forward her decisions...
Being Neglected: Not once had hetal been crossed by feeling of being neglected or being dominated by koki and Ahem...
-but now with the old car, news paper, veggie curry and auto scene... she is experiencing the feeling of being neglected, in the same house where she stayed with same people for more than 30 years

all of a sudden, after 30 years all these things came to the fore,but how and why
because here rashi is influencing her thought process... she is seeing what ever Rashi is trying to show...
by falling into Rashi's trap... hetal's subconscious emotions of being neglected, low confidence are coming to the fore and her trust, her smile, her honesty, her truth are taking a backseat...

Why is she not trusting koki... because trust is in the back seat... frustration of being neglected is coming to the fore allowing her not to trust koki' in such a situation...
Why is she not talking to koki or chirag about her issues: when you are fighting for true/honest reason you express your views or you openly talk to the other person... here hetal is not expressing her views meaning she is not fighting for a genuine/honest cause
Why siding with Rashi : because Rashi is showing her all those she wanted to see over the years ...but just gave up with her javadena...
Rashi brought out all the insecurities she had over the years to the fore... hence she sees Rashi as a true supporter for bringing out her hidden emotions

In all this it is a Mother's selfishness doing the talking for her son and DIL

for me no trust means no love ' as trust is the basis of love...hence hetal has no love towards koki...
this is only one side of the story ' Koki has immense love, respect and compassion for hetal... and i really can't write about it in less than 5000 words

p.s:. couldn't find any other thread to put my rant ,,so using ur thread😆 sorry once again for deviating from the main topic😛