Originally posted by: sowmya_jairam
Hope! 🤗 So you're stalking the maryada forum now huh? I just finished reading all your posts, and you write really well.
Thanks hon😃
Since I joined the show- that- must- not -be- named aft you left, didn't get to read your posts there. I don't agree with you about priya- adi though.
That's ok. very few people agree with me on anything or any character😆
What Priya-adi went through is not a normal couple's spat, not even about normal serious issues like children, finance what have you. It was about trust, the most important reason, especially in priya's case. Adi intentionally never hurt Priya, loved her and gave her a new lease of life. But he never stopped to think why priya took devyan's side in the divorce? What would she get out of it?
Did you read my post Two Sides to One Coin? I wrote a thesis on my opinion.😆 Yes, the rational person would think like how you are think but Aditya is high on passion and less on patience. it has been his strenght and his weakness. Gaurav is more the type to analyze. aditya just reacts and then thinks later. Priya's questions were very right and I think that Aditya purposefully did not ask these questions because quite often people are afraid to accept the answers.
As regards a normal spat. Honey, I have been married for 14 years. Based on my experience, trust and the feelign of a lack of trust form the basis or at least the hidden reason for many marital fights. I am not talking squabbles that is ongoing and really neither here nor there. I am talking marital fights. one;s where you think of walking away for good. No doubt the rapist angle is rare in most marital fights but the trust and the questioning of any partner's word or statements is not so rare. everyone succumbs. more than what she said I tend to consider when she said it and under what circumstances she said it and what was his frame of mind when she made the disclosure. it was all wrong timing. believe me. to accept her statement she was askign him to question a core belief. If he had accepted her statement on the face of it with no proof or evidence to the contrary image of his father then I would felt that the plot had no credibility. you see in my opinion she had the perfect oppotunity for disclosure when she ran away from the house the day after marriage. both of them had not committed that much to the marriage and he would have believed her then. when she did tell him they were too involved, two reliant on each other's happiness for their own stability, she was seen as too biased in favour of one parent over the other. the situation has changed and shifted against her.
More importantly, she actually admitted in open court about being molested. It takes courage to admit to being the victim of a rape case; the world alternately looks at you with pity, disgust or lecherous eyes. And he thought she lied about such a sensitive issue, the event that was life-changing for her and almost took her life, the event that brought them together in the first place. In her eyes, he promised to protect her and get her justice, but actively supported her wrong-doer when the time of judgement came.
Yes I was very happy when she did it. it was time,
Yes,he had his reasons, it wa his father whom he adored and worshipped who was accused; but he didn't stop to think why she would do that. He only believed when he saw his dad repeating the heinous act with his own eyes, almost succeeding and endangering her life again. He wasn't there for her when she needed him the most, he couldn't trust her with his eyes closed and he didn't stand by her when his dad was ripping her character in shreds in front of the whole world.
I agree. I am not saying he was not wrong. he was wrong. he made an error in judgement. a serious one at that but I am also saying he was conflicted.
Can she forget and forgive him his abandonment and distrust that easily? Can she just slap him back and shout at him and think they're even? She needs space to heal, without his constant presence and reminder, without him being in her face, without him being there when he wasn't when he was needed. She's not had that time or space to heal,still dealing with her marital family's problems and constantly finding adi in her vision. He's concerned for her and that,s fine and understandable, but he should let her be now that she's safe unless she approaches him first. Maybe she'll miss him then,and understand he respects her need for space. She does love him, she acknowledged that when she left him. Neither did she tell she was leaving forever, only that she couldn't be with him right now. But love is not all, is it? It's only a part, maybe a beginning of a marriage, not the whole of it.
you are right, love is not all. trust is very important. till the end she understood him. understood why he was saying and acting the way he was. she admit that he was being influenced and then suddenly she changed her mind.
I agree she needs space but I am not happy how she is going about doing it.
re her marriage to Adi I still feel that if you are going to repeatedly tell him that its over then legalize it. if its not over and then talk and move on
could she slap him? probably not. but she did not have to take it sitting down. she never gaving him an angry dressing down. she should have seriously. she should have shouted at him pushed him shown how made she was. instead she walked away and maintained cold radio silence. it leaves an impasse and I hate impasses so I am getting unhappy now😆
ETA: sorry for any typos. I'm using my beloved iPad and the autocorrect feature keeps "correcting" Priya to Prius and such lol. 😆😆😆
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