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Off late, most of the serials or rather all the serials I have been watching and hooked to have one thing in common, the man loved someone else before marriage and marries someone else and now the husband wife love each other.
If we talk of Kunal/Siddhi- having watched this serial I have realised a lot of things
In India especiallly, most of the ppl are very much influenced by the hindi movies which have one common theme, falling in love and getting married to your love at all costs against all odds. These movies had colored my views to a large extent, one knows what is love what one should do in love etc.
But off late, I have realised that being in love after marriage is something different, even if you marry the one you love, marriage is a different ball game all together.
Sharing the room with someone 24*7, living in the same room, sharing the bed (adjusting to each others sleeping habits) is something all together different.
If you stay with someone so close, you end up knowing the person a lot more closely
You know when he or she sleeps, what time they sleep, what do they do before they go to sleep, what is the last thing they do before they go to sleep, how they sleep..snore, on the right side, left side, do they want an ac or feel cold.
You know when they get up, the first thing they do after getting up, do they like bed tea, how long they spend in bathroom, do they read newspapers in the bathroom
You know abt their eating habits, what breakfast do they like, what kind of tea coffee
You know when the other person is actually happy or is really angry, you know what are the right buttons to press and what is the other person's patience levels, beyond what the anger will blast.
You learn to read their facial expressions and gradually can read each other's mind.
You learn to see the love behind the anger, love behind the fight and love behind everything
You get used to the fragrance in the bathroom (and lose hair as well )
You get used to the room feeling like a lived in room with someone sharing the room with you
You learn to think of someone else before you
If you are living in a joint family, you have to love not only each other but also your husband/wife's family- where loving each other is not sufficient, but you haev to love/respect all the other members of the family
And many a times it is the small things in life that matter, knowing what kind of tea/coffee the other person likes, how much sugar, what kind of sugar, waiting for each other for dinner, lying to the family members for each other, sacrificing the small morning nap to make the bed tea.
These are all small things but more important and difficult to know then the cliched, what is your fav color, fav movie, fav holiday spot..these tidbits are easy to know but it takes a while to know when the smile is a fake or real one, when the it is ok actually means it is not ok, what is their fav season and why, do they like snow.rain or spring.
Being married and being in love before are completely different things..and for anyone compariing their previous love is not fair at all, being married changes everything I think?
Udne Ki Aasha
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