I agree with u Luv4games and prerna4rishav
that u can definitely bond with your MIL but your MIL can never be your mother. She can never take place of your mother who loves you unconditionally. She can never take that place. A mother will always remain your mother throughout your life and your MIL will be your MIL only. The difference is she can be either a good MIL or a strict MIL, Nagging MIL, chaichaap MIL whatever but she can never become your mother. Not atleast for me. For me nobody can take the place of my mother. She will always have a distinct place.
But that doesn't means that a DIL doesn't respect her MIL. Ofcourse she does. I mean if a girl loves her hubby truly in that case she would never disrespect her MIL and will try to bond with her MIL. I mean you can't give the place that your Mother holds but you certainly can give her another important place in your life. It's the bonding that you share. If you communicate well and try to accept each other's weaknesses i think MIL n DIL too can bond well. Rest if the MIL is too nagging or DIL is mean/disrespectful then i think one of them should avoid making or passing comments to the other.