Gopi's Saathiya is doing a good job

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CravingKhana

@CravingKhana

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Posted: 13 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: navyab
I agree & also tell you that I was about to post a smilar post...not only today but all thru their getting together...he treats her as a child...he goes to her level of understanding to explain things & he enjoys doing it...

There are instances where like telling her to take care during the accident track, scolding her for asking for work etc...it clearly showed he treats her like a small child who understands things when clearly explained...may be the education track did give him that exposure to understand her...even during the navratri time, when she wanted water, he again scolded her like a small child saying cant you ask me !!!

Other thing is that when both enjoy their time together they look like teenagers enjoying their timeout...well koki's makes us also believe that is a different story !!!

So true!!! So now they do have a long way cos he's gotto see her as a women and feel more like a man around her to geet us anywhere near a sizziling couple now do you think that is why they got left out of that list!!!!😊

Edited by tangam - 13 years ago

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minoushka93

@minoushka93

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Posted: 13 years ago

#12

nice post

I love gohem interaction nowadays

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-JollyJabeen-

@-JollyJabeen-

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Posted: 13 years ago

#13

Love your post!😃

See,this is the diff between mother-in-law's love and your husbands..😉

Ahem explained to her,he expressed his views and Gopi understood,the scene was adorable!😛

Kokila ordered,assumed Gopi would listen which she did but did NOT understand her motives.

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Justlikethat1

@Justlikethat1

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Posted: 13 years ago

#14

Originally posted by: CHIKA784
Love your post!😃

See,this is the diff between mother-in-law's love and your husbands..😉

Ahem explained to her,he expressed his views and Gopi understood,the scene was adorable!😛

Kokila ordered,assumed Gopi would listen which she did but did NOT understand her motives.

Chika .. Good one.. I think both Kokila and Ahem are right in their places. Kokila is a MIL. She is also old fashioned. In the previous generations younger ones obeyed their elders without question. Kokila hence expects Gopi to do the same thing. If she says it is not good then she expects Gopi to believe that. No questions asked.
But a husband has to make sure that his wife is given a chance to explain her stance and vice versa. That will give them both an equal footing in their relationship. Also when we take Gopi, she is more a child in some matters. She needs a person like Ahem who can hold her hand and take her through the various problems. Ahem is fulfilling his role as a friend and husband. ⭐️ to Ahem.

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ANJ4

@ANJ4

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Posted: 13 years ago

#15

Well i think ahem has fallen in love with her , that is why he is so kind to gopi and listens to her and explain evrything out... My take on it.

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maddy311

@maddy311

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Posted: 13 years ago

#16

Agreed. Very nice post👍🏼

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Nandita / Tina

@5cents

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Posted: 13 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Today, when Gopi explained to Ahem about Rashi and the pigeon she defended Rashi. Ahem listened to her PoV and then explained that it was still wrong to lie to his mother.
What I think struck me was that Ahem actually listens to Gopi and then explains to her his PoV like he does to a child. He, in a short span of time has come to understand Gopi better than Kokila. He seems to understand that Gopi is unique.. She cares a lot for others. Hence to make her look at the mistakes of others, a simple but logical explanation is needed.

I am not saying Kokila is wrong. That is why she is the MIL.
But I will give 100 marks to Ahem for this change. He is a true saathiya...
I never intended the post to be this big.. 😳 Let me know what you think..

Very nice post! Yes, Ahem is becoming perfect Saathiya to Gopi ji😊 But the credit goes to Gopi only. She taught her man Compassion which has helped him become calmer & happier man.

The part in bold I completely agree that Ahem gives Gopi a patient hearing & then gives his POv & explains.Their relationship is blossoming beautifully. He has understood that he & Gopi have had a completely different upbringing & she has some limitations 😛so by forcing her to be like him ( take charge kind), he may cause her to have a complete breakdown. I love what Ahem is doing ...this way Gopi will not lose the strength of character that she has but will grow stronger eventually. She will not lose a part of herself but will become one with Ahem ☺️ ...Ahem rocks!!

Kokila was forcing her to be strong & by doing that she was robbing Gopi of her innocence...Gopi was on the verge of having a complete breakdown. Koki wanted Gopi to follow her blindly. 😡huh Blind obedience to another human being is always a misguided choice, as is rebellion for the sake of rebellion.

Morality means making the best choices possible regardless of who does or does not approve😉 there goes our Ahem ji making the best choices & doing the right moves 😃

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Munni

@munnihyderabad

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Posted: 13 years ago

#18

lovely post harini...

there is a difference between the way koki telling gopi and Ahemji telling gopi...

Koki says - what to do ? what not to do? - there is just a command

Ahemji says - Why should u do ? and Why should u not do ? - there is a reasoning

koki's way of saying is more aristocratic

Ahemji's way of explaining is more democratic

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Justlikethat1

@Justlikethat1

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Posted: 13 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad
lovely post harini...

there is a difference between the way koki telling gopi and Ahemji telling gopi...

Koki says - what to do ? what not to do? - there is just a command
Ahemji says - Why should u do ? and Why should u not do ? - there is a reasoning

koki's way of saying is more aristocratic
Ahemji's way of explaining is more democratic

You are absolutely right munni.. And that difference comes due to the generation gap more than anything. Kokila still listens to Baa when she says something even if she does not like it.. She expects the same from her bahu.. I am not saying it is correct or good but we need to understand where Kokila is coming from..

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