No sympathy for Vidya anymore!!

Guys, I have no sympathy left for Vidya and am not liking her these days. Initially I used to feel bad for her thinking that she is an innocent girl whose life was ruined by Dev as well as Gaurav. But I'm sorry to say that Vidya has not been able to win my respect! She has played the victim card too long... When she found out that G was gay and that there was no hope with him, plus, on top of that, he wanted to get back with karan, she should have walked out of his life and not look back.

So fine, Dev brought her back but Dev also promised her that she would get Vidya freedom from the fake marriage but what does Vidya do? She takes a bullet for G and then uses that to emotionally blackmail G into staying married to her! She refuses to leave Gaurav even when he once again wants to get back with Karan and the worst part is that she still cribs and whines about what a victim she is!!!

I mean, girl, if you choose to not get out of a marriage with a gay man even though he wants you to leave him, you choose to not consider other men to give you the happiness you long for, well then DEAL WITH YOUR CHOICE and stop crying about what a poor, little victim you are!!!!

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You guys agree? Not agree?

To some extent you are right ..Vidya is now a victim ..But i feel the makers did it deliberately ..Because these four women is somehow also responsible for their fortune

There's one thing that I think is off. Vidya at first was willing to get a divorce and live her own life. She didn't know how, or what. But her original question to Devyani was whether she also shouldn't have her own dreams and life.

Originally posted by: neel_jay

...I'm sorry to say that Vidya has not been able to win my respect! She has played the victim card too long... When she found out that G was gay and that there was no hope with him, plus, on top of that, he wanted to get back with karan, she should have walked out of his life and not look back.

...She takes a bullet for G and then uses that to emotionally blackmail G into staying married to her! She refuses to leave Gaurav even when he once again wants to get back with Karan and the worst part is that she still cribs and whines about what a victim she is!!!

I haven't seen today's episode yet so I don't know how much she might be whining now, but when has she "played the victim card"? When has she cribbed and whined about what a victim she is? From what I remember, ever since her suicide attempt, she tends not to even talk about these things unless it's dragged out of her, and then it's whoever is listening to her who expresses outrage about her having been put in this situation.

I think that Vidya's stubborness about staying with Gaurav is illogical and unwise, but I also think her love for him is a reasonable explanation. She's not making the right choice, but she's not using her judgment - she's letting her heart rule what she does. Yes she *should* be moving on in her life, but if everybody automatically did what they should, there'd be no emotional drama; instead of humans we'd be robots, following the program of rational decision making.

I don't think it's emotional blackmail to tell Gaurav that she will stay with him to prevent Brahma really finding out his truth and coming after him again. To me, this commitment to and desire to protect Gaurav comes from her love for him. In my opinion it's not the same as saying "I took a bullet for you, so now you have to let me be your wife forever." None of this means Gaurav has to let her stay - I'm just saying that her desire to stay with him has an understandable cause, the fact that she's in love with him.

Originally posted by: likarsh

There's one thing that I think is off. Vidya at first was willing to get a divorce and live her own life. She didn't know how, or what. But her original question to Devyani was whether she also shouldn't have her own dreams and life.

She went back because she was promised a divorce. I guess spending time with Gaurav and his taking her care of her brought back a lot of hope and feelings.

But then through Adi's words, Priya's words and even Vidya's own such words we hear that that girls like Vidya never would even think about divorce or leaving their husband. This is true generally. But with Vidya in the beginning, it wasn't true. And now after the Cheenu revelation she's sort of gone back to the older thinking, though still not completely.

Good points. My understanding of why she no longer wants a divorce comes back to the issue of being in love with him - after being shot, her priorities changed completely because she decided loving and protecting him was more important than her own happiness. Really not a reasonable choice, but after such a traumatic experience, how could she be reasonable?

You're totally right that it's inconsistent to say Vidya had enough sense of her self-worth to want a divorce when she first found out, and then later say that girls like her would never leave their marriage. But I don't really buy that as her reason for not leaving/not being open to Cheenu. Cheenu never realized how fully Vidya loves Gaurav, so when she's not even the least bit receptive to his love for her, he is surprised and decides she is acting from duty, not love for Gaurav.

Even i'm tired of Vidya and her poor me attitude. When she found out the truth about Gaurav and went back home and refused to go back i thought finally she'll stand up for herself and not be all i love gaurav crap can't leave my hubby stuff but no she had to come back then get shot and all tht emotional blackmail. Now everyone feels bad for her cheenu, priya, adi, guarav but seriously she really needs to make up her mind she feels bad when ppl ask her bout the baby issue and then she doesn't want to be subjected to such q's she has to make up her mind there is no middle way coz if she was totally ok with gaurav's truth she wouldn't have asked him to spend a night with her on KC night it totally demeaned her characters self worth. Its really depressing watching her now, yesterdays epi she wasn't there i actually felt so much better all she does is bring u down with her. they really need to find a resolution with her.

You have to look at the background of the character. Vidya is supposed to be a naive, less educated girl from a small village, who has been taught to only dream about getting married in a good home with a loving husband and produce a bunch of children and take care of them and not think about a career or have any other aspirations. So, you can't expect this girl to all of a sudden be independent, get a divorce and move on with life. It's a bit more complicated. Yes, at times, she has shown strength, but clearly she doesn't know what's best for her. She'll try to make it work no matter what, the reason why she decided to stay on with Gaurav. Someone needs to make her realize what she's missing in life by compromising so much - wait, we had a person like that - Cheenu. Alas he's gone (due to public demand?)!

Originally posted by: FIZK6

What Vidya needs is a woman to make her realise what shes missing out in life, the whole pckage, a loving husband who loves her as much as she loves him and children born out of love which she wants.
Chinu was there, but just as a friend. He was being supportive but he wasnt talking to her upfront about what she was missing and what she could have. And Vidya only saw him as a friend and nothing more. Its got to be Gaurav who has to push her in the right direction, even if it leads to divorce.
At the moment Gauravs only concern is Karan, thats fine he loves him but he married Vidya and she is his responsibility. First Gaurav gave the responsibility to Chinu and now Aditya, there is a limit to what they can say and do.
Maybe one of the reasons Vidya didnt want Priya to know about Gaurav being gay was because Vidya knew Priya would make her see the reality of the situation. That there is no marriage and Vidya is not going to get anything out of it except security. And the way she was brought up divorce is not even an option.
The way i see it is, Gaurav needs to stand up for Vidya as he does with Karan.