Sandhya's stubbornness or self-pity

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anamika29

@anamika29

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Posted: 14 years ago

#11

I am surprised and shocked as how people are replying against Sandhya. Come one guys and gals... Cooking is not a big deal and is not a must must in life though its part of life. My grandpa always used to take me out of kicthen and said go and study .. u can do this later... My concentration was completly on my career which i believe is good now... It was only after i got married that i started cooking with help of my husband :-)

I think Sandhya is correct as of now when she is not speking to anyone... she doesnt know this guy never dated or anything ... and over all her family is a complete drama with Bhabho beeing a complete rural person for who everything is hers and her bahus are nothing but maids for her and their husbands.. Also with so many rapid changes going on in her life.. it takes time to adjust.. as she tries to adjust she gets a surprise... wierd ...

When u live in metro u relally cannot trust ur relatives.. come on her brother only ditched her for his own selfishness.. and now its like for her to start everything from scratch with new beliefs and traditions .. it is a big deal...

I think now is the time for her to blast of... enough has been enough... its my way or higway now..

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Intrepida

@Intrepida

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Posted: 14 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: b2011
It is most obvious that girls learn proper cooking only after completing their education or if they leave out in middle and very rarely some may learn out of interest or due to family circumstance. This cannot be an indication of bad parvarish.
Sandhya being selfish??? Are Bhabho and Suraj selfless?

Both Bhabho and Suraj want their DIL/wife to be a good housekeeper and serve the whole family as if she is a new household item. Suraj may be a bit different but Bhabho 😡...

Not really, My sister, cousin and I learned to cook while we were growing up and going to school at the same time, we still go to school but we cook our own food because we are away from home

I can understand not everyone learns how to cook, but you should learn - i actually think both girls and boys should learn how to cook! 😃

I think Sandhya should tell her husband what she wants, considering his track record in the past, he has helped her out, so she should...

Bhabho is just a character! 😆 I guess with people like meena and her other sons, except for Suraj, I wouldnt blame her for being a disciplinarian

just my two cents 😉

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Dreamygal301

@Dreamygal301

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Posted: 14 years ago

#13

I think the main point the writers of the show are trying to get across without actually saying the word is that Sandhya is Depressed.

Consider this: her parents died, they were her ardent supporters. Then within days she gets married, when that was the last thing she ever wanted. On top, the brother who was loving is now a monster. He lies and gets her married to a person she would never ever have dreamt of.

So she gets brow beated into a marriage and now she is moping, holding onto words said by her sister in law. What we are seeing is a girl who was so buried in her books, she actually does not know how to relate to every day living and relationships. if she did, she would know that first she needs to create a bond with Suraj before asking to continue her education.

BUT yes, I also agree with everything the post maker said. I too am fed up of seeing her wandering around with a blank expression and being the dumbest of the dumb. Yes I know, we are being shown she is innocent of intrigue (unlike Meena) but surely she knows how to mingle and make friends?!...if not, then I agree she should really get out of that house. Why wait for Bhabo to call her brother - why not just walk out?!!!

I really hope the CVs make her character more defined, at the moment its wishy washy...and oh yeah, I really hate how she jumps to conclusion, why on earth cannot she use her brains?...oops again I forget, Cvs wanna show us she is Innocent...so off course she would fall for Meena's words/jump to conclusion about her husband...

And please do not get me started on Bhabo...she gives me the creeps when she starts thinking she has to compete with Sandhya for her darling Son..(yet there are times she is sooo sane)...😲😡

p.s...about this cooking nonsense...I don't know what to make of it...I think Cvs have not portrayed her correctly because in our culture it would be impossible for a girl not to pick up on some things even if she never cooked once her parents house.

Edited by Dreamygal301 - 14 years ago

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anamika29

@anamika29

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Posted: 14 years ago

#14

I guess she will blast of now.. I am waiting for that...

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daylily121

@daylily121

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Posted: 14 years ago

#15

Exactly..no one is bashing Sandhya here. Knowing to cook does not confirm great upbringing. So what is she trying to prove to this family when Bhabho keeps saying her parents didn't teach her anything. Point to be noted is that this family does not deserve someone like Sandhya! Imagine what would a poor, starving kid on the street do, if you gift him an iPhone?!! She should just walk out of this relationship. Is she that helpless? And if she wants to stay, she better try to bond with the husband and the mil first not with those little brats.

And yes, she is depressed and is thrown into this uneducated family. Putting myself in her position is just creeping me out even at the thought of trying to fit into that home. So why do anymore nautanki snailing there. Why would Suraj help her anyway? He has a dream that one day he will be married to a beautiful girl who dutifully will take care of him and his family. What will happen to his dream? Does he have to give so his wife can study? Since she or his family is wrong in this case, she should try to adjust is what I am trying to say.

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kamaljit

@kamal desang

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Posted: 14 years ago

#16

Hi my doughter 23 years old and she stil dosent kno how to cook very will becaouse she gose to school full time and works part tome she says that she will learn after she done her setidies . I tell her to learn how to cook before she gets married.I think girls or boys should learn how to do basick cooking

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soapie

@soapie

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Posted: 14 years ago

#17

Cooking is an essentail part of our day to day routine! Knowing how to cook is perhaps one of the greatest assets in life! And this has nothing to do with being married or not!

Does everyone who learns Maths in school go to become a Mathematician? No! Does everyone who dissects a frog in Biology class become a doctor! No! But we still have to learn Maths and we still have to do Biology, because its part of our school curriculum. We never question why a certain subject is taught to us if we are never going to use it in the future. Same with cooking...it doesn't matter whether one is expected to cook in the future or not, IMO, it is an important thing to learn, because Maths and Biology might or might not help you, but knowing how to make an Omlette or cooking Dal Chawal will certainly help you a lot!😆 It is a practical thing! I don't know why women get so defensive regarding it! Just because a woman can cook, does not make her some subservient behenji types...and just because a woman is educated does not make her into an Einstein!

It is very strange that Sandhya, being born and brought up in a small-town has absolutely no idea about kitchen! That is a most unrealistic thing! However broad-minded people might be in small-towns and villages, they most certainly teach their girls atleast the basics of cooking! And Sandhya's family, while educated was also a traditional family...her mother used to cover her head with a pallu and her Bhabhi kept fasts for Teej!

In the context of the show, one feels both sympathy with Sandhya and also quite irritated with her!

Sympathy, because she has obviously been thrown into a situation which is every person's worst nightmare come true...anyone in her place would have reacted in exactly the same way that she is reacting! Perhaps worse!

But she is also very irritating because she is not doing anything about her situation apart from whining and going on self-pity mode! No one is telling her to be Jhansi Ki Rani and rebel against everyone...but the least she can do is speak to her husband, tell him what happened with her and try and work out something for the future! All Sandhya has done till now is misunderstand him and jump to her own conclusions without knowing the full story!

Bhabho should be put into a mental institution. That is the only place she is truly worth off!

Edited by soapie - 14 years ago

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Divya

@dkmystery

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Posted: 14 years ago

#18

oh pls, is learning to cook the criteria if one is a human or what? 🤣
there are many people who don't know how to cook and live a perfect life, knowing how to cook(for both men n women) is good but the earth won't stop rotating if one doesn't know how to 🤪

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