Is Social Acceptance Above Emotions ? Above Love ? - Page 3

@ Aanya - how can anyone not love Harry ? you have to be some nut to not do so as per me 😆 and I am so happy too never thought that I would meet someone who is so like me with my very first post on KTLK forum in you and we would hit it off already 😛 and trust me you wont be alone to quit the show and forum too if Nidhi is the typical RS heroine 😆😆

Originally posted by: shruti.nil

i agree...especially in india-people always say "log kya kahege?" instead of caring about happiness...

ive seen some of the most socially perfect marriages failing...

a socially acceptable match does not directly relate to a happy match...

its very sad that people dont go all out for their relationships in the ide of "kuch toh log kahenge"..no matter how deep the feelings are..

its a pity...i only hope some day people become brave enough to give a damn to the world and love with all their heart!-that maybe includes many of us as well...

i think Rajan Shahi couldnt have possibly chosen a better title...

"Kuch toh Log Kahenge

Logon Ka Kaam Hai Kehna..."

loved your topic

shruti

Shru so agree with you India definitely needs to let go off its prejudices and narrow thinking on these accounts whats socially acceptable may not hamper your image in the society but if the idea of preserving your image comes at a price of letting go of your happiness and living a life completely based on compromise or simply living it for the sake of it then whats the use of it anyway

The title def is apt not simply cos it reminds you of the amazing Kishoreda hit but cos its so goes with the plot perfectly well and is well justified with the content

Hi, Neha!

Originally posted by: Neha2704

@ Aanya - how can anyone not love Harry ? you have to be some nut to not do so as per me 😆 and I am so happy too never thought that I would meet someone who is so like me with my very first post on KTLK forum in you and we would hit it off already 😛 and trust me you wont be alone to quit the show and forum too if Nidhi is the typical RS heroine 😆😆

Beautiful post Neha and I must say there are some great replies too. Loved reading this post.

Originally posted by: PurpleFairy

Hi, Neha!

First of all, beautiful beautiful post👏

Yes, the title of this show is apt because not only this scenario, but in so many other situations as well, we're told by our parents or someone from the older generation to not take a particular route otherwise 'log kya kahenge?'

Problem is (ok maybe it is not a problem' but I see it as one) that society influences our private lives way too much and certain decisions we're forced to take or not take with the fear of 'log kya kahenge?' A little societal influence is necessary, I feel, since human is a social animal. However, the society becomes a villain when it's influence starts invading our personal space, that too, needlessly.

Coming to the show, it's not like people really care about whether Ashutosh or Nidhi live or die but the moment they'll fall in love and disclose the same, the very same people who couldn't care less about them will start talking about them. 'Gossip', more than social acceptance, people just need something to talk about and they get sadistic pleasure out of disregarding something out of norms. Plus, people are not open to changes either. Anything extraordinary is not acceptable to them.

Like you said, had Nidhi had to marry Ashutosh out of some compulsion or anything of that sort, it would've been fine (we do see young girls getting married to aged men when their parents need to get rid of this burden) but just because it is by choice, that is why 'kuch toh log kahenge'.

I feel cases like child marriage and female foeticide should be a lot less acceptable than Ashutosh-Nidhi's case but since that has been prevailing for generations and people are used to it, so it's fine.

Bottomline is, you can't keep everyone happy. Nidhi and Ashutosh can either keep themselves happy or the society (who BTW, would not have even acknowledged their existence had it not been for their relationship). Your first quote is very true. I feel Love is above everything else and true love also gives us the strength to fight the world. As so rightly said by you, they will never remain happy with people from their own age groups since their hearts will always be somewhere else. Nidhi and Ashutosh should definitely not sacrifice their love just because 'kuch toh log kahenge'.

Hey hon i loved your post and so liked the fact that you pointed out that the society which would try to play moral police for ashutosh and nidhi wouldnt have even bothered to acknowledge their existence had it not been for their relationship being an unusual one and i would love it that if RS and his team show this very point in the show at some specific need of moment in a subtle non melodramatic OTT way
Thanks a lot for that lovely post :))

Originally posted by: Aanya_taanu4evr

Yeahh I'm a total HP phan-gurl and you can call me crazy but I love Draco Malfoy as well 😆 What?! Don't look at me like that I love his character and Tom Felton is ☺️

I know man! I thought I was going to be this lonely person on the KTLK forum 🤔...and then I found you 🤣

😆 i dont blame ya Tom is indeed cute so what if he had to play Malfoy .. the guy played it with elan so much so that like you cannot imagine a better Ron or Harry then Rupert or Daniel you cannot even imagine anyone else being Draco too 😛
@ bold - 😆 the feeling is mutual totally 🤗

Originally posted by: anjubala

Beautiful post Neha and I must say there are some great replies too. Loved reading this post.

Yes, it is necessary to look for one's happiness, one's love rather than worrying about society and others. But I have to say that we are social animals and cannot boycott society all together. We live in a society so have to follow some set rules and regulations. But who has made those rules - somebody like us must have done it centuries ago and we still are following them but the things are changing now. Society is also trying hard to change alongwith changing times and generation.

We have seen our grandparents, our parents following the norms of this society and we have been brought up like this. So, before thinking about ourself, we think about others. Even though we do not get the certificate or any guarantee that we will be happy once we get stamp of approval from the society but still there are great chances of things working out well. And we have seen our parents being successful and happy. (touchwood).

People are changing now, are being more vocal about their feelings and somewhat society is accepting this change. Adaptation is part and parcel of life. And I think this is what will be crux of this show - "kuch to log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kahna" but yehi log inke rishte to samjhenge, mannege...

wonderful post...

hey Anju thanks for the sweet post i agree we ultimately live in a society that we cannot boycott nor abandon some rules as they are made are necessary to be followed as they should be but off course I simply would love it if this show manages to portray the fact that society as it is should be ready to embrace a progress and change as well as remain disciplined rigidity wont get it anywhere only tolerance and acceptance will and so long as the decisions of 2 people have no adverse effects on the lives of anyone else people shouldnt try to make the whole issue blow out of proportion and portray is as a scandal when the issue in question is merely the personal life of those individuals who are unnecessarily brought under scrutiny 😳

Originally posted by: Savage

Now then, Neha, people have completely varying theories within the expanse of societies too. This show's benchmark could be anything out of their personal differences and social ambit of acceptable couples, I would say. Speaking of varying theories, I think the very idea of people not accepting you is par all otherwise absurdities that the society has set. For, this man I leave under social circumstances could actually be the one who'd support me through my shitty times when society would be preoccupied in criticizing other couples, preaching about what is 'suitable', after all. So like all the ladies over here, I would say too that social acceptance is nothing that'd bother me.

Speaking of my own theory and the show's theme, I think the more difference there is between two people's age, the better they'd culminate as a couple because they'd essentially not face ego clashes like normally couples do. One would naturally be that substance who'd be the other's philosophical guide. Also, intrinsically, one's experience would help them both flourish in the relation. Because it is either experience or friendship that weave people together as lovers, in my opinion. You just need something drastic to stick together you know? Like some kind of oddity in you.

And hey, you write beautifully. =]

P.S. I haven't read anybody's posts but I am sure nobody cares about age, why else would they watch the show?! 😳

-Savage

hi Savage you write amazingly too = ) i liked how you put across your POV in the @ bold part. especially the lines in red cos i personally am of the opinion that age-group cannot determine how suitable a couple is for one another or how happy they would be with each other its only friendship and the understanding that can keep em together and the lack of these is what may have them fall apart