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looks like someone is asking us for advice 😉

i want to get 1 thing straight...if these people get married, does the girl go to india or will the guy come to usa? i would not want to leave my country and my style of living and move to a different country for someone i dont really know. nor would i want to be in a relationship with anyone who does not care for me and only likes the fact that i was born in the united states and i am his passport to a visa to the us.

the most important thing is that i wouldnt marry anyone unless i know them...i dont mind if my parents choose..but i better get to know the guy first and have a final say in the matter.

as for the MD part..he doesnt have to be an MD but it is critical that he is very well educated and earns good money. he has to be able to support his family. education is a very important factor because regardless of how much money he earns, education is a key aspect.

Well even if she marries this MD person, when can he come to USA?
You can't say that his sole purpose is to come to USA. Arrange marriage is an arrange marriage. There is a possibility that he wants to come to USA and that's why he is marrying that girl, but it's a risk that she has to take.
My big problem with MDS from India is that they can't work right away. He has to come and pass a test and he has to score above 85% or more. For Americans MD, the % is lower. I have known MDs who have come from India and got 70%, so they had hard time finding residency. You never know...
So she has to bear that in mind that she might have to support him for a while or may be longer. She might have to move with him where ever het gets his residency.
I know you might ask," well why does he need to do a residency if he is a MD already?" I might be wrong because I heard this a while back, but Medical programs in India lack psychiatric residency in detail or something. Many of the Mds have to finish 6 months of psychiatric part and pass the test with a good score. They have to prove to the hospitals that they deserve the job over an American graduate.

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From the description you gave he sounds like a good guy. I don't see why she shouldn't marry him . Unless there are other issues we don't know of.

Dazzlingflower, the guy is 28.

well, i would suggest meeting him in person. Phones and webcam chats dont really cut it. she should have a heart to heart discussion with him about his plans, etc. The main question is: does he intend to move to the US? If yes, will he establish himself and get a house for the family prior to the marriage?

If he is willing to do this, then I dont think there should be any problems. Otherwise, he may be using her as a pawn to get to the US and live there.

Hey Ash..nice to see you after long time 😊

Well from what ever you said it's seems fine to me. Only thing girl needs to be prepared for is when he comes to US (asuming girl is a US citizen) he would be on GC and sometimes it's hard to get residency based on that. I am not sure about your state, but midwest is little bit rigit about it compared to East/West coast. He may have to clear some exams here and girl should be prepared to move anywhere in US.

Other than that I don't see any reason to reject. Well about meeting personally and only meeting online. I have mixed openion. From all the examples i've seen either one works so it depends upon individual case. If girl's parents know this guy's family it is safe. I would suggest spening $1000 for ticket and just meet a guy personally compared to risking all life.