Thanks for sharing ...
There are many instances in the West that kids find out they were adopted when they are adults they get a little shock but in the end they are fine and consider their adopted parents as real parents and the birth parents as friends or somebody they like to know or may not want to know.
Steve Jobs (founder of Apple computers) is a good example his mum gave him up for adoption, he knew that he is adopted but only refers to biological parents as his parents, he is close to his biological sister, but not to his biological parents. He is a genius, he has not suffered at all..
If the kids grow up with the fact that they are adopted they have no problem but if they are told when they are old they are shocked. Hiding the truth is never a good idea...
Hetal's kid is very much alive and part of the family and raised by the family member..giving to a stranger may be hard but to a loving family member is not a big deal. Raising a kid is not easy...many mothers neglect and abuse their kids (not every mother is noble and has heart of gold..just because somebody is a mum doesn't mean they are the best person to raise the kid ...this is nothing to do with Hetal, i am sure she would be good mum)...
If I were Sweety I would never ever adopt Karan and Hetal's child..It is a thankless job...you do all this sacrifices and raise a child and in the end it is the parents who will become Mahan, it is equally hard to raise somebody's else's child...not worth it..Sweety should do social service benefiting poor children.
Thats a good example. But for me personally if i find out rite now that i was adopted and that my birth parents were fully capable of raising me but gave me up just to be mahan and because my dad loved his sister and then they had other kids and kept them, i would be pretty pissed off.
Thats why i think if the parents cannot raise a kid then fine give it up for adoption but karan and hetal are fully capable so they should just keep their child and let sweety adopt another kid. And look at how happy sweety is already, just imagine if they change their mind during birth or even worse a month or a year after seeing the baby with sweety. Sweety will be devastated and might never come out of the depression.
If I was adopted, for me the people who raised (rich or poor) will be my parents regardless of the reason why I was adopted. I have co-worker whose husband is an adopted child and he has no desire to meet his birth parents...the people who raised the only parents he wants to know, he perfectly happy with his adopted family, he doesn't want to know his birth parents.
Human baby need to bond with a caregiver, whoever the baby bonds with are his parents, without bonding the biological parents mean nothing. I see no reason that baby would care, if done decently, the child will end with two set of parents and siblings.
Btw, Karan wants to have his sister raise not because he is Mahan, but because he is very compassionate person and also he knows she is a very loving and decent person, the child will be pretty lucky to have such a loving mother. If Sweety was mean or stupid then it would be a different story..
Btw, Steve Jobs biological father is a Professor and mother a graduate student..his adoptive parents are not even school graduates, but they were good people, who raised him with lots of love.
Human being do lots of things out of care and compassion. Knowing that the child will be part of the family this is a very compassionate thing to do..it has nothing to do with Mahan. Actually Sweety will be raising their genetic child, it will never be her genetic off spring...raising a child is lots of work ..I will never do it for somebodies child...
Edited by April2007 - 14 years ago
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