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Originally posted by: Armu4eva
25 years and Jealousy...SGPians kya aap Mano ke na Mano???Ok now lemme put my two cents...At the outset.. let moi declare..that moi ij yet to be married.. so moi views mite be a bit immature at some places.. but still as Vimrod says... 'Our ignorance ought not stifle our opinions' so .. here we go..!!25 years of marriage.. one would expect the hubby/wifey to know each other completely... ! Having shared.. happiness saddness... success failure.. health.. sickness... and also raising a family .. they ought to truly embody 'Do jism.. Ek jaan' and 'Hum tum ek jaan hai'!! Honestly when u know a person for this long... a third person coming in the picture and one showering attention on him/her over their spouse shouldnt be a bone of contention..!! But then... would one be able to bear the kind of OTTness that say we observed Ishaan do?? I dont think so... Would a spouse be right in being upset seeing his/her better half cross limits?? Definitely...!!
You know something Tanu, I don't think anyone on this planet who can know someone 100%, even if they've lived with them for a very long time. Human nature is sometimes an enigma. There are certain characteristics/behaviour that may lie dormant in a person and it requires certain situations/circumstances to induce that aspect of their personality. Sometimes it is a good thing and sometimes it's not!
Of course you are right that after being together for so long, one should know their spouse well enough and trust them. I agree but one has to accept that we all behave differently with our relations. I mean to say, for example, we behave one way with family and one way with friends so similarly we conduct in a different manner all together with our respective spouse! So therefore it's very hard to say, at least from my view that you can know someone completely.
Yes you are right that where there is love and trust then no one can come between the couple. However their behaviour plays a pivotal role in this part. One would expect to be in jovial mood meeting and dinning with friends, which is fine but when the physicality of it all becomes unbearable to watch then surely you wouldn't blame one for feeling bag/neglected/jealous. I loved it when Suhana slapped HER...I was rejoicing ecstatically😆But what if .. theres no limits crossed or what if theres no OTTness.. just old friends catching up over dinner n lunch n say a few shopping expeditions ...maybe cancelling few 'hum tum' moments with ones spouse... would then Jealousy be an expected and accepted reaction??? My thots... is NO..!! When u know ur man/ woman for this long.. u ought to know that there is always something special that binds the two of u... a relation based on pure compromise and NO LOVE... is bound to crumble.. sooner or later... (ala Bade Pappa n BM) ... so moi thinks.. Jealousy without any ramifications.. after 25 years is hard to digest..!!
Indeed if a friend came to see my spouse from abroad, I'd be very happy and be friendly and nice. However if he behaves liked Ishaan and Rano, then trust me they would definitely be in the DOGHOUSE! I can understand being jolly and getting excited to see a friend after so long but what they are doing is just ludicrous. It isn't about jealousy either, it becomes more about right and wrong. It is UNACCEPTABLE for anyone to be THAT close with a friend! The way they were "sharmoing" is what you expect from people who are in love, not if they are just friends. There is a limit to everything and that limit is should be observed more after marriage. Once your are married you have to maintain a dignified distance with people, especially friends who happen to be the opposite sex!
Above all this if true love is there then nothing can distance a couple. They'll fight the odds and go over the hurdles and stay together, no matter how many so called "friends" come and go!Lemme know ur thots SGP-ians.. (in case ur awake reading my post and din get a headache already) 😳
See I told you my response would be long!😆
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