Story of a couple, or story of a girl?

When I first read about the miscarriage I was 100% on board with the CVs' decision - there's enough drama to keep everybody happy with the possibility of a beautiful husband-wife relationship unfolding. The way things are going, I have to ask - what the heck was the point of the miscarriage if all we ended up with is a pile of stupidity and crap?! Maybe something good will come out of it (the CVs will drag it to its death), but how long will we keep making excuses for them in the anticipation that something "will/may/whatever" come out of this? Any person watching this who has a brain cannot say that's whatever's happened thus far is anywhere close to a realistic portrayal of life.

First of all, the CVs' portrayal of Akshara is absolutely pathetic:

First she has the miscarriage which breaks her heart; then Bindiya comes and constantly makes her look bad and reminds Akshara of her miscarriage (thus making her feel worse); then she goes off on Naitik (mostly because of internal frustrations); now she's worried about Naitik/Gayatri being mad at her which is eating her brain - when will this girl get some peace of mind?! When will the CVs let her be free of all these internal frustrations and let her be happy?! How can one person constantly take SO MUCH crap from every direction and not feel the need to let off some steam?! If I were Akshara and lacking this much peace of mind I'd probably be going through serious psychological issues and severe depression right about now. The way CVs' have moulded her character is not in any way consistent with their primary storyline - that of a couple's journey through marriage as they find love after marriage (because if they were, then there would be communication between the couple, but that's my next point). If the CVs focused more on their primary storyline as opposed to the need for constant drama/Akshara's tears/saas-bahu stupidity, then I would be satisfied. I'm now left with a bittersweet feeling - sweet because Naitik is the only thing that makes this worth watching, bitter by every other crap being shown.

The logical progression of the events taking place in my opinion, would have been for Akshara to turn to Naitik (which would have kept with their "story of a couple" theme) - the one person on this planet that loves her unconditionally, never judges her, and is so head over heels in love with her that he would sacrifice anything JUST for her! But what does he get in return?! A wife that doesn't even know the meaning of communication. I really don't understand what the CVs are attempting to show when the girl can't even communicate clearly to her husband exactly how she's feeling! All the crap that she gets from Bindiya every day is reason enough for her to sit down with Naitik and pour her heart out. Okay, she doesn't have to backbite/gossip about Bindiya, but at least turn towards him as a source of comfort. Husbands and wives are supposed to be a comfort for one another - in YRKKH Akshara never gets any source of comfort because she's so mahaan she doesn't need anybody's help. If she just sat down every night with Naitik and just let out everything that she's feeling, then Naitik could have helped her - maybe given her advice on how to deal with Bindiya, on how to deal with her emotions, or even just being there - what else does she need?! Your husband is the most important person on this planet - he's your best friend and your confidante - if Akshara can't even communicate well with Naitik, then we shouldn't ever hope for her standing up for herself in front of Gayatri/Bindiya. Naitik is good with communication - how many times has he asked Akshara - "Is everything alright? Is there something on your mind? Tell me what's wrong." - does Akshara ever open her mouth then?! NO. The one time she FINALLY feels like she needs Naitik is the one time he's busy and then she tells Varsha that "All I want to do is be with Naitik". RIIIGHHHTTT. Because you've really shown that much concern for him in the last week when he attempted several times to be with you. How contradictory! I can't say that Akshara never told Naitik anything about Bindiya because she had no hard feelings against Bindiya because she clearly did - she is not some superwoman without feelings of anger; she was getting irritated by Bindiya, so why couldn't she tell Naitik this?! Is this how a marriage is supposed to be? I'm not married so I can't say from first-hand experience or anything lol, but I can say, if I am lucky enough to end up with a husband like Naitik, what else do you need in this world?! Shankara Tai's words were perfect: "Jab pati ka saath ho, to aurat aur kya chaiye?" Will the CVs ever let Akshara understand this? A significant part of this "saath" is communication - when two individuals are so at ease with one another that they can share everything that's on their mind, thereby being a source of comfort for one another and helping each other to get through the difficult times. THIS is what I expected from the miscarriage - that NaKsh's communication would improve, that they will both work through this difficult phase maturely, and most importantly that Akshara will STOP sulking as though her whole world has come to an end and learn to express her love for Naitik. You can say that Akshara loves Naitik just as much as he loves her only that she's bad at expressing herself... but I beg to differ. Yeah, I'm sure deep down somewhere she does love him, but how does she express it? Only when it's time for SMP, only when she needs him (which is like once in a blue moon). Love is not only SMPs and making food and ironing clothes, and giving hugs and acting cute in front of your husband once in a while - that was all fine and dandy in the first year of your marriage. But for God's sake, it's been TWO YEARS of your marriage already - when do you start to realize that you actually need to trust and rely and understand him? That it goes beyond giving him dood at night and giving him his rumal. Why can't you sit down and talk to him like a mature adult (isn't that what the night is for? the two of you having alone time and talking to one another)? Why can't you give him the time of day that he always gives you? If the whole house is allowing you to go outside with your husband, WHY are you being such a pain about it? Why doesn't that make you happy? Your beloved Maa gave you permission - at least this should make you happy if nothing else! UGH! Sometimes I get these urges to slap her into reality and to open her eyes and see the gem of a husband she has in front of her!

My sympathy for Akshara is quite limited right now. You can say she's a selfless person, always concerned about other people's feelings - yeah, she is most of the time. She is a selfless person by nature, but she's so for all the wrong reasons! Either she is very dumb or she just doesn't understand things properly. During her accusations of Naitik she tells him: "Kya is ghar ki sabko udaasi dekha? Mujhe lagta hai sab meri wajah se hua hai. Mein yeh khushi nahin de paayi." It sounds very selfless that she's concerned that everyone's depressed because she couldn't give them a baby. But no, they're sad because you're always in a mood and always depressed and they have no idea how the heck to make you happy! You! Because everything's about you! Why doesn't she get it?! How she can be so oblivious to everything is beyond me. Naitik seriously should not forgive her so easily - the girl needs to understand. She needs to maturely think things through and realize her mistakes. If you can't understand your husband in two years of marriage (not that I know how long it takes or anything) and you both can't deal with each other before you have kids, then how will you deal with each other after you have children?!

Whatever comes out of this roothna-manana crying-apologizing crap is that Akshara still won't learn. As a wife, Akshara's character has really disappointed me. I feel like all my hope for this track was clearly in vain - she will never learn. It never had to get to this point if she just sat down with Naitik and had a nice conversation with him. Now it's just going to be a bunch of stupid "sorrys" and "I love yous" with no depth and lots of tears and then a huge SMP and then voila! everything's back to normal: Akshara goes back to her usual routine of Gulaabo-giri and Naitik running after her. Is this real life?

BUT OF COURSE, this is a serial. I'm writing this as though this were real life. Sigh. Okay, so maybe my expectations were a bit too high but I never thought it would deteriorate so much to this point. I just want Akshara to share her feelings with Naitik. I just want there to be COMMUNICATION between the two. Communication is such a big part of any relationship - why don't the CVs understand this?! Therefore, I come to my initial question: Is this a story of a couple and their journey together through love after marriage, or a story of girl with serious issues that need to be dealt with? I'm seriously starting to believe it's the latter, though the former is what initially attracted me to this serial. Can't say if that same attraction remains today (I mean, Naitik wasn't even properly shown in half the episodes in the past week!).

I am so sorry for boring you all with this super long thesis I've written. This is just what happens when you don't write on the forum everyday and let all your frustrations build up until you can't take it anymore so you have to let it all out in one go. I think Akshara's issue may have rubbed off on me. 🤢

Interesting perspective. As selfless as she is, things always end up becoming about her (even if she doesn't want it to be most of the time). What I mean is, she might not ask for attention sometimes and she doesn't want everyone to constantly worry/think about her, but somehow, because of the way she is and the way she handles things, it does end up becoming about her. Problem is, she doesn't know how to handle these situations very well, and ends up getting flustered/frustrated/hurt/in trouble. I'm not sure if that makes any sense (it's making sense in my head; I'm clearly not articulating as well though, unfortunately...).