I don't like toasty's attitutde

She takes all sort of abuses and accusations from her sasural but whenever someone in her own home gets angry with the chaturs, she yells at them.


... Its something my mother told me long time back when i lost my temper and misbehaved with her - she said, you would never talk like this to a friend or even a stranger. No matter how angry you are, you will control your tongue. Yet you don't think for a second before getting angry with your own family. Yes, you know they love you and will forgive you but that is all the more bigger reason to respect them rather than misbehave with them because you can get away with it.


Toasty, yells at her sis but has no problems understanding prachin and his troubles even when he pretty much called her the house maid. Toasy gets angry with her mom and threatens to walk out of the house every two seconds yet she has no problems understanding Tej's attitude or pashu's arrogance. Then she is all very understanding. How about understanding your own family ? How about understanding how livid her mom must be to see her daughter treated so badly ?


The chaturs crossed the line when throwing her out and then by continuously abusing her over the phone. How about just telling them that you have no right to talk to me like this

you are so right

I do understand what you mean - I personally dislike how Toasty defends the Chaturvedi's all the time, in the process telling her mom / sis etc that they are wrongly opinionated. It makes me feel bad for Toasty's mom and sis especially, its almost like Toasty would rather be with her new parivaar but happens to be thrown out so for now she is putting up with these people.

I totally agree...this is the thing that irks me most about her character...why the hell does she take it all from those dumb Chaturvedis?? especially now when even Tej isnt supporting her!

I did like the scene on monday however when she talked to her mother...its moments like those that make me like Toasty

Totally agree...! I dont know how can she call Tej on and on...inspite of him insulting her...she has no self respect

i understand your annoynace. how she is so quick to defind tej and his family and ready to attach her own.

I agree with Preeti and Julie. I think that Toasty is far more understanding and rational. I know Toasty sister and mom love her, but being mad will not fix anything. And Toasty still needs to earn the Chaturs trust. She doesn't have it yet. She is still a newly married bride. This show is about her transition. She is yelling at her mom and sister, so they don't let their anger mess it up. Notice how she never yells at her dad. cause her dad gets it.

Originally posted by: scinerd

I agree with Preeti and Julie. I think that Toasty is far more understanding and rational. I know Toasty sister and mom love her, but being mad will not fix anything. And Toasty still needs to earn the Chaturs trust. She doesn't have it yet. She is still a newly married bride. This show is about her transition. She is yelling at her mom and sister, so they don't let their anger mess it up. Notice how she never yells at her dad. cause her dad gets it.

But then isn't that exactly like the chaturs - As long as you understand us, agree with us, we will behave well with you otherwise we will yell and scream. So her dad agrees with her, so she is ok with him but her mom doesn't so she is subject to tantrums.

The trust issue is obviously there but toasty is eligible for minimum respect. Who gave them the right to throw out toasty from the home ? After marriage the girl considers her sasural her home ... No one has the right to evict you from your house ... If someone can do that, then it means it was not your home to begin with ... They didn't listen, didn't talk except make accusations and throw her out.

... And for that Toasty should be angry at them not her parents. The chaturs don't trust women. They are essentially punishing her for malti's past actions. Why should she jump around in hoops to earn respect and make up for something that happened when she wasn't even there.
These are not children. They are grown up adults. Why should toasty excuse their despicable behaviour in the name of understanding but refuse to understand her mother's anger or her sister's pain.

Toasty may say the right words now and then but she is essentially a typical doormat. She doesn't mind doing all the work, getting verbally abused as long as at the end of the day somebody gives a few scraps of kindness.

You want to be Mahaan for your sasural ? Fine ... go ahead! ... But that does not mean you get a free reign to rant at your mayka. If you cannot answer back to the people who misbehave with you then you have no right to turn around and yell at the people who defend you.

@bips. I totally understand where you are coming from. I agree she should talk nicely to them. But I think she gets scared that they will mess things up, so she thinking yelling at them will make them stop. I'm sorry but she needed to yell at Sudha about the court thing. I agree the chaturs are wrong, but how will having a court case fix anything. In the end even if they win it will be Toastys loss. Lalit told her her not to calmly and she still went and talked to the lawyer. Perhaps Toasty thought that yelling would make her understand. Toasty does love her mom, she even told her that, that she is very lucky. They are understanding and the Chaturs aren't.

Yelling and screaming fix nothing. This is something Pashu and Pitaji have to learn. Sometimes Sudha and dimple too. yelling at the Chaturs and saying that its all your fault now rot in hell, how does that fix anything. I know they are saying that out of love but they are thinking short term. Toasty and her dad think long term. Toasty doesn't want her marriage to break. I think if you watch Todays SBS segment you might see how Toastys method works. I don't want to say it in case people don't want any spoilers.

I understand you may disagree, we all have the right to our own opinions. There is no right or wrong way. I think Toasty is not a doormat. I know many people will not agree with me. I just think Toasty handles things differently than most people. Chaturs are wrong no doubt. But if you notice Toasty still has control over the whole family, even Pashu can see that. His whole family has turned against his decision. She knows how to handle them very well. Like a true leader.

Malti never got half the freedom Toasty did. Why? because Toasty never yelled and screamed for it. She just naturally got it. She knew she would with time. The mark of a true leader. Family life, should not be treated as a competition or how it is in the workplace. Think what would happen if our mothers acted like our house was their workplace. Our moms do everything for us, with little complaints. Imagine if they stood up and say you are treating me liek a slave. I cook and clean with little thanks you. I will not take this treatment, I am leaving. Wouldn't the family break? Toasty role in that house, is not of a daughter in law, it is of a sister and a mother. That's why I think Toasty acts like the way she does. Anyways this is getting to long and I am treating a fictional show likes its real life. This show offers such great discussions though. I wait for your response bips.