nandani's anti marriage logic

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Julle

@second_chances

Sparkler

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Posted: 14 years ago

her reasoning about raising a daughter and then pawning her off on some stranger had so much truth to it.

i dont understand how parents are so protective with a daughter and then upon meeting a family of the guy, they are ready to pawn her off.

i knew geet would put a positive spin on things whch is why i forwarded her speech.

i live in constant fear now since my mom stirred the marriage pot. i dont trust her family nor her when it comes to making decisions for my life. why cant nandani and i have space ? why is it pushed down our throat?

her BJee didnt really give her a reason , just told her to get ready. and wht is nandani?a piece at the museum that everyone came to look at?

i was surprised nandz didnt bring up the whole dev and geets marriage nightmare. a perfect example of pawning off ur woman.

i am sorry i probably offended alot of people with this anti traditional language but u must understand i am not against the tradition of arranged marriage. i am against the idea of making desicions for the girl and shoving it down thier throat. at the end of the day, its the woman's life that will be miserable. more miserable then being older and single.

it almost makes me feel like i am with my parents on borrowd time and its not fair

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Posted: 14 years ago

My mum says 'IF YOU EVEN THINK OF GETTING MARRIED BEFORE YOU GET A CAREER, YOU'RE NO LONGER MY DAUGHTER' I love you Mom.

I agree with you completely, I know may people who have been forced to get married at a young age. What is the point of education if you don't get a chance to show your skill to the world?

They raise their daughters with affection then ship them away in a day. Just look at Nandani, her marriage has been fixed on their first meeting. She doesn't know a thing about the boy and his personality.

If you don't want to get married soon, talk to your parents I'm sure they'll understand. Marriage is one of the biggest steps of your life, and you have to be careful.

Edited by blahblablah - 14 years ago

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Anita Patel

@Anita1118

Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

Listen...I completely understand your fear and POV...but yaar ek baat samjho...parents always want what is best for their kids...I am not talking about Daarjee or Beeji...these guys ka tho dhimak kharab hai!!!!!😕

But no parent will knowingly put their daughter in any bad relationship...if u have a fear...I would suggest u talk it out with your mom...or even your dad...dad's always seem to understand daughters more...😉

Otherwise tumhari badi behen yahan bethi hai...jab bhi baat karni ho...I am here to talk😊

Even in Nandini's case...she should be given a say...not thrown into it...arranged marriages are not bad...but should not be forced upon anyone...

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Anita Patel

@Anita1118

Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: blahblablah
My mum says 'IF YOU EVEN THINK OF GETTING MARRIED BEFORE YOU GET A CAREER, YOU'RE NO LONGER MY DAUGHTER' I love you Mom.

I agree with you completely, I know may people who have been forced to get married at a young age. What is the point of education if you don't get a chance to show your skill to the world?

They raise their daughters with affection then ship them away in a day. Just look at Nandani, her marriage has been fixed on their first meeting. She doesn't know a thing about the boy and his personality.

If you don't want to get married soon, talk to your parents I'm sure they'll understand. Marriage is one of the biggest steps of your life, and you have to be careful.

I completely agree with you and your mom!!!! Hats off to u mom!

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Lily201

@Lily201

Voyager

Posted: 14 years ago

Yup!! fully agree with you,this does prove how contradictory the daughter's status can get in a family. Guess somewhere or other conservative belief of elders like Darjee or Beeji needs a check as in Geet's case that one "mistake" proved detrimental for her life. Thus daughter's choice should be counted in.😊

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serendipity2

@serendipity2

Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

My advice is talk to your parents and discuss with them what u would like..nothing in life comes with a guarantee..be it a love marriage or arrranged...u have to work equally hard at both. but first i believe every girl should be independent and not dependent on anyone!

All parents want the best for their children but i have also seen situations where parents lose focus of what their children want and it becomes more about what they and the society want and expect and lose focus of what's important... what their children want!

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