Is it possible to crush on someone you hate?

It is a very common, yet unusual to hear of, phenomenon. People getting attracted to individuals they detest otherwise. A friend of mine has a neighbour who she describes as "arrogant and cocky", besides being rude and inconsiderate. But at the same time, she admits she's got a strong undercurrent of feelings for him.😆 My question to everyone is:

Originally posted by: sayali_babes

It is a very common, yet unusual to hear of, phenomenon. People getting attracted to individuals they detest otherwise. A friend of mine has a neighbour who she describes as "arrogant and cocky", besides being rude and inconsiderate. But at the same time, she admits she's got a strong undercurrent of feelings for him.😆 My question to everyone is:

Do you, think, that you could have a crush on someone who you hate?😃

No, suppose, it is something like this...you view someone as arrogant, self-righteous and dismissive. At the same time, he/she has some good traits too, but their general demeanour makes you think that they are perpetually riding the "high horse", though sometimes with good reason. Can it so happen, that i can both like and hate this same attribute? I.e., i hate their way of being dominant and assertive of their power, yet secretly i find myself attracted to those very traits?

I'll tell you what, when we say we 'hate' or 'love' somebody, we tend to exaggerate the degree of our thought and emotion. Your friend may not hate her neighbor as much as she guarantees. And otherwise, one is always likely to have this kinda gravitational pull or something towards the forbidden fruit kind of thing. Like if you dislike them, out of intrigue as to why they are how they are et cetera will pull you towards them really bad!

@ Kanky---precisely! That "intrigue" is the word here, is what i'd think too. Along with that, i think there is something called "negative obsession". E.g., there are people who cant really think people to be totally "bad" from the core, and that is why when they come across someone who their instincts find particularly repulsive, they try to find a 'reason' behind it.

Originally posted by: sayali_babes

No, suppose, it is something like this...you view someone as arrogant, self-righteous and dismissive. At the same time, he/she has some good traits too, but their general demenour makes you think that they are perpetually riding the "high horse", though sometimes with good reason. Can it so happen, that i can both like and hate this same attribute? I.e., i hate their way of being dominant and assertive of their power, yet secretly i find myself attracted to those very traits?

Yeah, I get it. You are asking if it is possible to love and loathe a specific (or some) trait(s) of a person at the same time? Yes it is possible. For instance, dominance is seen as an undesirable trait (for obvious reasons) but the same person may also find comfort in a dominant, aggressive person.

Just curious----has this sort of a thing happened to anyone here? 😆

Originally posted by: -Kanky-

No, it is psychology. What you are not ought to have is what you'd run after. Over here, your friend's thought process goes on 'stay away from the jerk', or rather miles away literally. But she's gotten no control over her hormone, and maybe at some point - either of her intrigue or the lad's good traits overshadow his indigenous demeanor, as your friend puts it!

Your name's Sayali, right?