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My fellow members.
Please don't be offended after reading this post. And moderators, I am not writing this post to bash anyone. I just want to address number of posts that have been opened because of the changes that is coming from our beloved DMG.
Girlfriends / Boyfriends / Arranged Marriage
I respect Indian Culture a lot. especially the way they try to give the "sanskaar" both to girls and boys of the family. I like the fact of arrange marriage. However, I think, it is totally wrong of anyone to besot with something he/she doesn't know. marriage is a person's identity, a person's entire life and we have to accept the fact that we can make a mistake. The most perfect person also make a mistake, so why should we take the risk of making such an error which we will repent later. I believe, with arrange marriage we have to give the opportunity for them to know each other well before they are being tied up in marriage.
I know, sometimes the Indian telly world exaggerate some things, while the other times they show the naked truth of Indian community. But we as viewers also sometimes go beyond the fact of understanding the real world, logic of life and peoples emotion when we talk. And when such issues are addressed in serials / movies, we bash on creativity rather than trying to understand a complicated equation. Why can't we accept that such things can happen, when we bash on the creatives and actors / actresses.
We cant seem to accept the fact that emotions doesn't just change from one click. The moment, Sid / Ridima married, people expected Ridhima to be the dutiful wife. Some could not understand that in reality it cannot happen, because there were dozen of questions unanswered. And this will be the reality of life too.
Extra-Marital Affair / Divorce
As kids, we always hate to hear the word divorce / extra marital affairs. Sometimes we tend to show that hatefulness to some innocence colleagues, friends who are the victims of these events. And among every 10,000 there will be 99.00% who will promise "never to have an extra marital affair / divorce". These things should not happen, but in vein it happens. We can't always understand why it happens as we can never understand human emotion and mind. Hence our minds and decision changes due to circumstances and by things beyond our control. Human emotions are never controllable. even the most religious person cross the boundary or else we will never hear stories of children abuse's by parents. Who can believe a parent can hurt their own child?, but even if it is unbelievable it happens in our everyday lives.
Question is why we viewers start on bashing when Television / Movies address these issues. Television is a part of human development in today's technological world. We can learn everyday from it. I believe if they do not address these issues, than how as we a society learns to grow. Why we viewers can't accept that these are not taboo topics, and it should be addressed in the society in-order to prevent things.
I am not defending divorces. It should not happen. However, as said it happens, but when it happens why should we disgrace that person. Divorce might be necessary for the survival of the rest of the other. We cant tolerate violence in a marriage at the same time, it is not even healthy if parents do not love each other, but are together for the sake of their child. I am a victim of it. I am happy that my parents did not divorce each other despite their differences. But, as a child and now as an adult, i think we kids might have been much healthier and happier if they have got divorced. Because now as we all are adults, their verbal spats open, and we have become the mediator between them. So you still think that Divorce is a taboo topic and it should not happen?
Affairs also inevitable. Human mind always doesn't work according to ethics / moral / religion. They work according to their emotion. But if that happens, the punishment doesn't always have to be barred from society. it might sometimes rectify that person mistake, but the other 50% i am sure that because of such things, are afraid to accept their mistakes which leads to fall apart lives of other people. Because we some times cant help who we love.
I am a victim of both. I am speaking from my experiences. I am not defending what i did. But I think, such social issues have to be talked boldly so that in future such things doesn't aggravate in our society.
Health and Fitness
Arjun
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