Counter Bhashan! Strictly not for entertainment! - Page 3

Originally posted by: skanthan

I like to see just once Shaitan Singh or one of his sons get a good hard bite on their wrists when they try to hit their wives. Even better, I want them get bit more than once so then eventually, they will not dare to mishandle their wives and it will make alot of men who otherwise mistreat their wives in real life fear to misbehave with their wives or any woman for that matter.

What an appealing idea!😆 Chalo, My fangs are ready! 😈

Thank you everybody for ready this post, I know that it is not pleasant to think about abuse in any intense manner, but it is occasionally necessary. Thanks everybody who has like the post and agreed with it. Thank you also to those who have tried to counter it reasonably.

I just have this to add in reply to the points made by Binny and Gaurimisha:

@ Binny:

Pratigya is a daily soap; it works under a million narrative, logistical and market-driven constraints. When they offered us a serial based on "reality" (which is a word that is bandied about on this forum as if there is a rulebook on what constitutes reality!) it meant that the issues shown in this serial and the larger context and situations will have their base in real life. Not that each and every character will act and behave as per some pre-established rules of conduct for 'Educated persons' and 'uneducated persons'.

When they show the track of incest between BIL and his young SIL it is to be viewed in the larger context of all those young girls who are sent to look after their pregnant sisters' households, who suffer in silence for fear of rocking their sisters' lives and getting a bad name. This JiJa –saali parampara which was mentioned is not some small insignificant detail but a very wide spread form of abuse that has been perpetuated in the male-dominated societies around the Cow-belt.There is no point in saying Aarushi should have run, spoken sooner, walked out at 5.30 on day 2 instead of getting annoyed at 7.30 on day 3. We are viewers, we are not writing the script, the creatives are! They are using the Aarushi incident to portray a larger reality. When thousand of girls get caught in this trap all the time are we going to go to each one of them and tell them how and when to escape? Or are we going to give them the general idea that they need not suffer in silence? Aquamarine also made the excellent point that going to your sister's house SHOULD NOT be an act of torture for a young girl. It is the SYSTEM that has to be changed and not the girl's skills of hiding, skulking and avoiding contact with the outer world.

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Gaurimisha, make a point that there are several educated, intelligent ways of dealing with abusers which does not involve verbal or physical protest. I am genuinely interested to know what these are.

From what history has taught us, we know that the strongest people are never the most physically powerful ones. We know that real power is a mental game, a faade, a question of what you believe of what you project. Every dictator in the world be it Napoleon or Hitler, or a household dictator like SS rule only due to the power the project and their ability to sustain the fear of their subjects, and not really due to any true physical power. Every dictator's fundamental fear is of MUTINY. Because the minute somebody exposes that fact that they are not invincible, then the dam is broken for ever!

Like Soap Bubble, rightly pointed out, SS does not want to kill Prats only because he hates her, but because she is a very real threat to the system of fear that he has established. The minute someone like Kesar realizes that a voice can be raised his last barricade will be breached. That is the reason he was so keen in yesterday's episode to hush the matter of who called Aarushi, because he was very afraid that Kesar would speak up. If she did then it would seriously undermine his standing. Kesar is his poster girl to portray his dominance, he cannot afford to lose her at any cost!

DyeHArd-

Originally posted by: Dyehard

What an appealing idea!😆 Chalo, My fangs are ready! 😈

Hahaha I would never ask a woman to lie low and take shit from others

All i was saying is deal diplomatically...rather than getting ready for war..
Cut the the crap out at the beginning....the very first signal...
Do not wait...The more you wait, the more power you give to your abuser.
What Arushi did was totally wrong...she dig her own grave..

I guess thats what the serial wants to teach...
Do not hide...do not wait...unfortunately Arushi couldn't learn from her sisters mistakes..
Dont behave emotionally ...think and act...do not slap a goon and invite more trouble...
Deal with brains and not with emotions....

I don't think Prathigya symbolizes woman protagonist..
She is nothing with out Krishna...
Few good things about Prathigya is she doesnt take crap from her inlaws...she talks back,...which is really good...unlike other serials...We are always thought to just lie low and take it in due respect.(totally wrong)..
I really felt that the serial should have started when i got married 2 yrs ago...hahahah


Second thing i like is she gives calot of importance to her Maika...we are always told once married Sasural is your fate ...you just take their orders blindly like Shaktis wife. I like how Prathigy gives importance to her maika

other than that i don't think Prathigya is any good...
She is educated ..what she does is gives bhashans...to a bunch of uneducated people.If they wanted to show her as woman empowerment..she should have demanded from day one that she is entitled to work or at-least do social work..make use of her education...That should have been the deal before getting married to Krishna

They show SS is more sensible than Mr.Professor...because he mends his ways according to situation...he doesn't act like a murakh..like the professor..
The serials how Saxenas family as educated fools...like Prathigya marrying Krishna for revenge...heheheheh very funny.. more later gtg

Hi everyone, this is a great topic.... I read both sides of the arguments and there are valid points on either side.....

Hi everyone, this is a great topic.... I read both sides of the arguments and there are valid points on either side..... They keep quite for fear of creating a scene, of not knowing if they have a right or if they are overreacting and the "paramparas" mentioned. If they showed Aarushi as someone who is reacting with supreme logic, confidence, guile, strength and also with psychic powers ie if they showed her never coming to this house because she already knew what a jerk Shakti was and so never wanted to get into his radius, how on earth are the poor creatives ever going to bring up the issue in the first place?? She has to behave like an ordinary person who exhibits a little out of the ordinary courage.
Instead of expending our energies in berating her for her lack of fore-vision and initial guts and her sister for speaking to the unconvertable, how about diverting a little of this rage to the real evil that is being portrayed?