Counter Bhashan! Strictly not for entertainment! - Page 2

I like to see just once Shaitan Singh or one of his sons get a good hard bite on their wrists when they try to hit their wives. Even better, I want them get bit more than once so then eventually, they will not dare to mishandle their wives and it will make alot of men who otherwise mistreat their wives in real life fear to misbehave with their wives or any woman for that matter.

Most rapists and abusers are bullies. The whole world knows that bullies are cowards. The idea is not to make him understand his mistakes, but to stop him in his tracks and let him know in unambiguous ways that you will not tolerate humiliation. What other language but the physical does somebody like Shakti understand?
Moreover can you imagine a situation if Aarushi had kept quite after facing such a great affront? Do you think it is easy to live with yourself after you have been violated like that, if you did not at least lash back in defence and anger? Do you think Aarushi could have gone back and hugged her family like that if she felt that she did not even put up a fight?
In rape and abuse, it is not the Physical act that is the greatest part of the torture, it is the feeling of helplessness and lack of power, the guilt on feels when one has not had the courage to fight back that scars a human being. Being absued is about becoming a 'victim' feeling like a 'victim' and living with the shadow of the feeling of helplessness, and it is up to the woman to choose not to be one.

Dyehard

Dyehard

I completely agree with you the worst feeling is one of regret at not being able to protect yourself or reacting when necessary. I am not against Arushi's reaction at that time it was not only appropriate but extremely necessary to show Shakti his place. But, according to me the problem was the fact that she kept quiet a women should not be afraid to speak up as soon as an injustice is done to her and she would not have needed to face so much if she had chosen to speak up at the correct time in other words before Shakti actions became even more offensive. Yes she was worried about peace of the house and her sisters well being but that is not more then her life. It is important for women to speak up and fight against injustice, unfortunately Arushi waited for too long and things got out of hand.

I dont dare say anything between you good writers but i must say that the show pRatigya has teached us alot...whether being right or wrong or getting abused and how each situation is to be handled correctly....

Dyehard 🤗

Thank you so much for this post, will write more on this in little while.

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Hi Limits 😊

BUT first, she should be strong enough to stand up for herself by her own! Coz, help might not be available all the time

I agree in fact that was what I stated women should be strong enough to stand up for themselves and never show fear in the face of a crisis but if they know their reaction at a specific time will only bring about the worst consequences and help is not available they should not react with anger but with intelligence it's not weakness to move back when you know your life is in danger. Here I am talking in general not related to the show.

Ofcourse it wont have ny effect on Shakti - WE, who watched him since the beginning and know of his disgusting ways are sure about it BUT it was a SHOCK for Aarushi to be harassed by her B-I-L! She needed time to overcome that shock and confusion about wat to do in such a situation like ny of us, who never went through or expected such a thing would! No one expects their B-I-L to be a monster... So, after Pratigya's speech to her, she gets the courage to stand up and protect herself.

Limits Shakti was truly disgusting but his intentions were not a complete surprise to Arushi. Though I agree she does not know him well enough to understand he can have such cheap thoughts about his sali. But she has faced his harassment several times before actually she has been tolerating his behavior ever since she first met him. Okay I can understand these incidents can be overlooked though even they were sick because she would eventually go to the safety of her home. But, still his actions were not a complete surprise neither were his intentions she has felt uncomfortable around him before and her shock about the situation was gone the day she asked prats if she could go to the temple with her because she had understood the consequences of staying in the house alone. you know me limits I loved prats speech even Arushi's to shakti it was well deserved though men like him never learn. Truthfully I agree with you we should not be expecting logic from shows though this show has been successful in bringing harsh realities to light its overall goal is entertainment.

Originally posted by: serialinput

Being abused is about becoming a 'victim' feeling like a 'victim' and living with the shadow of the feeling of helplessness, and it is up to the woman to choose not to be one.
I totally agree with it...never take bullshit from other but think and react...
Do you think it is easy to live with yourself after you have been violated like that, if you did not at least lash back in defense and anger?
OKay lash back in defense...i agree (provided she did it when he was abusing her)
lash back in anger ....totally disagree ( a fierce lash back from Shakti is awaiting her)

All she got is momentary satisfaction....and more trouble..
You ask me how to deal with Shakti...
First of all he didn't come to her house and abuse her or abuse her on street..
She could have avoided it but just slipping out of haveli...

Momentary satisfaction u say... Didnt u see her crying??? Does people who r satisfied by their lash back cry out of their beautiful momentary satisfaction? She was scared and hurt even after she slapped him!!!

So, dont visit ur sister since there is a molester living in her house? Thats ur solution? Stop going outside coz goons and stalkers are waiting for u... U might be a prisoner in ur own house but thats lot better than slapping a goon and standing up for urself to protect urself and make enemies out of those stalkers!!!

Siblings cant visit each other while the goon gets a free pass to harass nyone who comes in his house! NO WONDER it has become sort of a law to ignore eave-teasing rather than facing it and stopping it!!!

Feeling Victimized and taking revenge is not the right thing...
Grow stronger and avoid situations like that from the beginning .... be more vocal about it..

WHO needs to be strong from the very beginning??? IF Aarushi was NOT harassed by Shakti, she wont have ny reason to be strong or avoid nything!!! It was Shakti's harassments that forced Aarushi to get out of her shell and stand up for herself!!! Avoid situations like that - Aarushi dint INVITE such situations and no girl in their right mind would!!! She just went to visit her sister and one does not need to gear up with all sorts of defense mechanisms to just visit her sister!!! IF the Thakurs are abnormals and Shakti is a disgusting lowlife, instead of expecting Shakti to turn into a human, u expect Aarushi to leave the house to avoid his harassments, as if that would put a stop to Shakti's molesting!!! What would happen if one of Pratigya's girlfriend comes to visit her and Shakti starts with his antics? I know what - Pratigya's friend is also supposed to leave that zoo to save herself... So, when would Shakti ever STOP???

Prathigya's bhashan is like beating drums in front of a deaf person...totally wasted..
they could have put in a way that would make takhurs think...providing examples are whatever
Lolzzz... I understand that the Thakur's suffer from inferiority complex and they would rather hear a dog barking than listen to Pratigya's educated and modern ways, so I totally understand why Pratigya's dialogues would sound as bhashans to them... Well, they r her elders and she could hardly smack their faces and tie them up to show them demos of her lectures...😆, I mean, if they refuse to listen to her educated thoughts, what r the possibilities that they would actually sit around to watch her live demos/examples b4 killing her off??? 😆

To some educated viewers, who already know of these women rights, yup, it can definitely be like beating drums in front of a deaf person... BUT, to some educated and other uneducated people/viewers, Pratigya's bhashans are really encouraging coz like DYE said in her main post, Pratigya's lectures acquaint those who r unaware about their alternative ways to tolerating abuse or injustice!!! So, even if Pratigya's lectures suck for certain viewers, it is very useful and encouraging for those who actually go through such abusive situations!

Originally posted by: Binny1247

Hi Limits 😊

Time for me to go to sleep so I will reply tomorrow 😊

Originally posted by: Binny1247

Most rapists and abusers are bullies. The whole world knows that bullies are cowards. The idea is not to make him understand his mistakes, but to stop him in his tracks and let him know in unambiguous ways that you will not tolerate humiliation. What other language but the physical does somebody like Shakti understand?
Moreover can you imagine a situation if Aarushi had kept quite after facing such a great affront? Do you think it is easy to live with yourself after you have been violated like that, if you did not at least lash back in defence and anger? Do you think Aarushi could have gone back and hugged her family like that if she felt that she did not even put up a fight?
In rape and abuse, it is not the Physical act that is the greatest part of the torture, it is the feeling of helplessness and lack of power, the guilt on feels when one has not had the courage to fight back that scars a human being. Being absued is about becoming a 'victim' feeling like a 'victim' and living with the shadow of the feeling of helplessness, and it is up to the woman to choose not to be one.