Shaz dear, I hope I can call you Shaz...😃 Heavy dicsussion topic indeed....and it really has eben discussed so much...with so many different and varied POV's..but then thats the best thing in life and here too....😆😆😆😆
Hum.....I may feel sorry for her but I truly cannot sympathize or even empathize with her. I know thre is a group of ppl who say shes been dealt a bad blow...etc by fate...but then so had Khanak...losing her husband the very next day of her marriage and even Shaan...for being the one responsible for the casue of a Man's death even though it was not intentional..but an accident which occured due to his carelessness...so all three ppl could have creied all their life bemoaning..the fact that its was not their fault...to be dealt which such cruelty by life...or by fate.
She truly is a nice human being...grantted..b ut then being nice does not make one smart does it...she loves being the victim...she is the only one to blame for her still being stuck in limbo....and not moving on. Her first bad move was moving in with her married ex-faiance cum boyfriend...The question is...if she was so sure of her love for him, would she need to take such a drastic step as moving in with him...to what keep and eye on that person and reminding that very same person of how much she loves and cares and trusts him...now that wa indeed a joke...as when one trust someone completely...one does not need to be there 24/7 to monitor him. One does not ned to tell oneself to reassure ones mind or ego..that I truly love that person and trust him. She could have given the person she loved and who claimed to love her time to deal with the issue...and then get back to her...and the time she had on her hand..she could have used it constructively to give her self a much needed breathing space to think...about her own life.
Fine we had her move out over a fight...her even leaving a letter asking that very person she loved not to follow her as she needed space to think...and time to herself...but...being the insecure person she was ..and a control freak too ...as when someoen is insecure in a relationship they tend to be control freaks too..wanting to control each and every sistuation...wanting to be the attention seeker, etc and she was...she alwasy expected Shan to grovel adn make up with her wiht flowery words etc..
The first blwo of Shan changing came when he followed his wife....his responsibilty for the remaining few months till the divorce for the business and family...her he tried to do the rght thing...then we again saw a change when instead of her making the decisio to remain friedns as she thought up...he sprang the suprise on her by beating her to it...and asking her that till his divorce is finalized they remain friends..again...losing control of the situation...thus..leaving her feeling insecure and lost again.Even after agreeing to be friends and meeting only at work...she ladns up ...in the wee hours of the morning knowing that the person she has come ot meet does not even wake up then...just to gift him a shirt???? The again we have her land up in the same place late at night ...on a call from a complete stranger... agai to what???
This shows us that she herself is her biggest enemy...she herself does not follow what she has been saying so many times to Shaan from the time he marrried...we need to give each other sape, be friends only etc.
Again after the whole confrontation an the big "I Love you Khanak" dialogue...she tells Shaan or more like request him to only talk to her when he has an answer to her question...thats does she mean anything to him in her life...and when we do hae Shaan wanting to talk to her...whats does the woman do...she cuts his calls, does not want to talk or even face him...becasue again her insecurities and wanting to be in control are taking over ..she knows what she will hear and is stpping the inevitable from happening...that is lettin go and moving on with her own life...letting go of the past with dignity.
The talk that she had with Madhvi adn Khusboo was good...seh knows in her heart and nind that Shaan has completely cahnged...but then again she listens to the feeders of her insecurites and we ahve her in the coming up talking to Shaan on helping him with a project...why not talk to him about the main thing she wanted answers too...and then work on being friends or even collegues as she herself said she wont talk to him till her questions were answered.
Thus can one sympathize or even empathize with a person who is her won enemy and hell bent on destroying herself...by losing her own self respect and dignity???
One can only feel sorry for some time..but when a person keeps doing the same thing again and again....then the time to feel sorry is out and making her face her fears and reality is in..she really needs time out to herself to think in peace away from her past...about her future as life doesnot end...with one cruel blow from it..but makes us more stronger after going through it pain and all to face many more such situations in life with inner strength and dignity...and a smile on ones lip and heart...as they say Pain can only make you stronger ...but then depends on the person itself...what they chose to do..in life...remain in the pain and be a victim..or move on and live life.
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Oh my God...I have rambled indeed....hope my ramblings made sense.