Why Blame Her??? - Page 4

@TM , I understand that whatever i say in Armaan's defence will never change your views... I see from few other posts I have read that you have never particularly liked the character either... so just stating my POV here...

I don't think he blames her for what happened in his life....when he came back and they showed his monologues abt the situation, he never blamed riddhima... he only blamed himself... except for the first time he lashed out right after he found out abt SR... his dialogues after the blame today was abt her expecting him to keep smiling even when things weren't going great for him and also abt her kasam... true armaan needn't have honored the kasam... but for most part of the show Armaan has done what she wanted.. he wants to stop doing that... he wants to do what he wants to do... but at the same time he still loves her and while it might sound stupid to an outsider he would still honor the kasam!!!
and he never intended for R to find out abt his street fighting either... till the birthday party SR were not even cognizant of the fact that the guy is going through so much pain... but people who have gone through a break up will know how difficult it is even with all the good intentions to feel good looking at the love of your life romancing another man... I don't think his actions are intended at making R feel guilty or stopping R moving on or anything of the sort.... different people resort to different means to take out their pain when they are in such a situation... and for Armaan it is this... it may not be a healthy thing... but u are not always rational when you are in so much pain !!!

I don't blame riddhima for moving on... ( I have a lot of comments on the way the whole SR marriage happened, but like I have said in other posts that is water under the bridge and I won't talk abt it)... I don't blame her for loving her husband.... Sid is a really nice person... but I blame her for being insensitive to Armaan except when it suits her...I blame her for trying to interfere after having move on.... she being the so called mature person here should know that she is the last person who can help Armaan move on.... and she definitely shouldn't try exercising any right whatsoever on him... and she should be the last person to judge another person and always question their upbringing for anything that happens!!! for all these I blame riddhima! She should stay away from Armaan !!!

I don't hold Riddhima responsible for Armaan's pain except for the pain she causes by talkign abt 'if our love was true' you will do this... or tumhe meri kasam and you pain gives pain to me etc... which only makes him bleed all the more from within.... she needs to realise that once she moved on and chose her life there is only so much she can do for Armaan and any attempts at doing anything further will only cause him more pain... they cannot be friends till Armaan finally moves on... and Armaan is entitled to take his own time before he moves on... while riddhima was and is moving on did any one dangle ultimatums or threats in front of her to move on? she got whatever time she wanted to grieve over her relationship... and during the temporary phase where sid was not sure of riddhima's decision he also mourned the probable loss.... but Armaan ( I am not blaming anyone else here) lost the one person who was everythign to him in life ( I know you have a different view abt this... but this is again my POV) so obviously he is bound to take some time to move on... and the same way as Sr are not responsible for what is happening in Armaan's life.... Armaan is not responsible for what is happening in SR's life... it is upto SR to decide how they want to take their life forward and it doesn't make any sense what so ever to blame armaan for their unhappiness... Riddhima definitely needs to give space to Armaan and Shilpa.... Nor can Armaan be blamed for Shilpa's heartbreak... Armaan did not design things to work out in such a way that shilpa's heart breaks... it is just circumstantial....

One more small doubt - Riddhima herself had oragnized a fight for Armaan in the long gone Kash days of AR and during Kasu times when she finally accepts their relationship, she even wholeheartedly accepted everythign abt hi ( atleast supposedly) including the fights.... so now why such hue and cry abt the fights all on a sudden? he knows how to handle himself in a fight and he will move on too... he needs space.. and riddhima should stay away from him....

Originally posted by: docnuss

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Originally posted by: solembaum

@TM , I understand that whatever i say in Armaan's defence will never change your views... I see from few other posts I have read that you have never particularly liked the character either... so just stating my POV here...

I don't think he blames her for what happened in his life....when he came back and they showed his monologues abt the situation, he never blamed riddhima... he only blamed himself... except for the first time he lashed out right after he found out abt SR... his dialogues after the blame today was abt her expecting him to keep smiling even when things weren't going great for him and also abt her kasam... true armaan needn't have honored the kasam... but for most part of the show Armaan has done what she wanted.. he wants to stop doing that... he wants to do what he wants to do... but at the same time he still loves her and while it might sound stupid to an outsider he would still honor the kasam!!!
and he never intended for R to find out abt his street fighting either... till the birthday party SR were not even cognizant of the fact that the guy is going through so much pain... but people who have gone through a break up will know how difficult it is even with all the good intentions to feel good looking at the love of your life romancing another man... I don't think his actions are intended at making R feel guilty or stopping R moving on or anything of the sort.... different people resort to different means to take out their pain when they are in such a situation... and for Armaan it is this... it may not be a healthy thing... but u are not always rational when you are in so much pain !!!

I don't blame riddhima for moving on... ( I have a lot of comments on the way the whole SR marriage happened, but like I have said in other posts that is water under the bridge and I won't talk abt it)... I don't blame her for loving her husband.... Sid is a really nice person... but I blame her for being insensitive to Armaan except when it suits her...I blame her for trying to interfere after having move on.... she being the so called mature person here should know that she is the last person who can help Armaan move on.... and she definitely shouldn't try exercising any right whatsoever on him... and she should be the last person to judge another person and always question their upbringing for anything that happens!!! for all these I blame riddhima! She should stay away from Armaan !!!

I don't hold Riddhima responsible for Armaan's pain except for the pain she causes by talkign abt 'if our love was true' you will do this... or tumhe meri kasam and you pain gives pain to me etc... which only makes him bleed all the more from within.... she needs to realise that once she moved on and chose her life there is only so much she can do for Armaan and any attempts at doing anything further will only cause him more pain... they cannot be friends till Armaan finally moves on... and Armaan is entitled to take his own time before he moves on... while riddhima was and is moving on did any one dangle ultimatums or threats in front of her to move on? she got whatever time she wanted to grieve over her relationship... and during the temporary phase where sid was not sure of riddhima's decision he also mourned the probable loss.... but Armaan ( I am not blaming anyone else here) lost the one person who was everythign to him in life ( I know you have a different view abt this... but this is again my POV) so obviously he is bound to take some time to move on... and the same way as Sr are not responsible for what is happening in Armaan's life.... Armaan is not responsible for what is happening in SR's life... it is upto SR to decide how they want to take their life forward and it doesn't make any sense what so ever to blame armaan for their unhappiness... Riddhima definitely needs to give space to Armaan and Shilpa.... Nor can Armaan be blamed for Shilpa's heartbreak... Armaan did not design things to work out in such a way that shilpa's heart breaks... it is just circumstantial....

One more small doubt - Riddhima herself had oragnized a fight for Armaan in the long gone Kash days of AR and during Kasu times when she finally accepts their relationship, she even wholeheartedly accepted everythign abt hi ( atleast supposedly) including the fights.... so now why such hue and cry abt the fights all on a sudden? he knows how to handle himself in a fight and he will move on too... he needs space.. and riddhima should stay away from him....

what is her fault.........her fault is not that she moved on in her life.......she has every right to take that decision and she did......................she married to sid...she accepted her faith.....she is correct...no blame on her............

but she cant expect ammy to keep smiling when everything in his life is going wrong......people has different nature..........she has accepted each and everything with calm nature and moved forward......she has chosen that path because her nature is calm......but she cant expect ammy to do same........

ammy has different kind of nature.....he is always like this.........he changed himself for ridz...but he lost her.....he has rights now to decide how to live his own life and how to get out of this dilemma on his own way...........its his life......he has his own rights to deal with situation.......

she wants ammy to move forward same as she did.....thts her fault....she wants like ammy will accept everything that comes in the life....thts her fault......besides moving on she wants ammy to live his life as per her choice.....thts her fault.................

let ammy deal with his situation.....you have moved on....dont interfere in his life now....go and enjoy yr life with yr husband....let ammy deal with his problem.......u cant just expect someone to behave as u wish after such a difficult situation.........................

if u have moved on really.......than just leave ammy alone........take care of yr husband .....and live yr own life...................

@ solembaum - Wow I agreed with mostly everything you have said. I loved it. 👏 You pretty much said everything I was thinking.

Originally posted by: ksgforever

what is her fault.........her fault is not that she moved on in her life.......she has every right to take that decision and she did......................she married to sid...she accepted her faith.....she is correct...no blame on her............

but she cant expect ammy to keep smiling when everything in his life is going wrong......people has different nature..........she has accepted each and everything with calm nature and moved forward......she has chosen that path because her nature is calm......but she cant expect ammy to do same........

ammy has different kind of nature.....he is always like this.........he changed himself for ridz...but he lost her.....he has rights now to decide how to live his own life and how to get out of this dilemma on his own way...........its his life......he has his own rights to deal with situation.......

she wants ammy to move forward same as she did.....thts her fault....she wants like ammy will accept everything that comes in the life....thts her fault......besides moving on she wants ammy to live his life as per her choice.....thts her fault.................

let ammy deal with his situation.....you have moved on....dont interfere in his life now....go and enjoy yr life with yr husband....let ammy deal with his problem.......u cant just expect someone to behave as u wish after such a difficult situation.........................

if u have moved on really.......than just leave ammy alone........take care of yr husband .....and live yr own life...................

@ bold i personally would love that and riddhima tried doing that than what happened People came and said she's heartless how can she she has no rights to enjoy her life when armaan is a living devdas i mean what do people exactly want from her??????

She doesn't care enjoys her life she's tagged Heartleass and God knows what else She interfares than she's coming in between and not letting him move on what do Everyone want her to do exactly is my question?

Beautiful post Fary seriously i am out of words Riddhima is the last person i wanna blame right now....what she has been through no one can even imagine of going through that..She has seen all the hardships of life..She found out that she is the step daughter of the ppl she loved and thought she owned... she was broken ... then she almost lost her lover when he lost his memory she was broken once again...then she had that accident and after that she found out that armaan does not wanna be with her..She was not even ready to face the world or any memory associated with that guy...and then when she found out the reality she did all she could [almost died] and tried to find Armaan but then again he left her ...Now when she finally accepted some other guy in her life..her past came striking back ..and when she knew who she wanna be with she was trapped in guilt

.Even if she is a little cold these days dont you think hard time can make anyone bitter?? ...Ok she did shout at Shilpa but from day 1 what has Shilpa done to make a good impression??Ridz holds herself responsible for whatever happened to Armaan ...does not that prove that she is one respectable women? At this time the last thing she wants is someone for Armaan who could be the second reason for ARMAAN's destruction...

Originally posted by: solembaum

@TM , I understand that whatever i say in Armaan's defence will never change your views... I see from few other posts I have read that you have never particularly liked the character either... so just stating my POV here...

I don't think he blames her for what happened in his life....when he came back and they showed his monologues abt the situation, he never blamed riddhima... he only blamed himself... except for the first time he lashed out right after he found out abt SR... his dialogues after the blame today was abt her expecting him to keep smiling even when things weren't going great for him and also abt her kasam... true armaan needn't have honored the kasam... but for most part of the show Armaan has done what she wanted.. he wants to stop doing that... he wants to do what he wants to do... but at the same time he still loves her and while it might sound stupid to an outsider he would still honor the kasam!!!
and he never intended for R to find out abt his street fighting either... till the birthday party SR were not even cognizant of the fact that the guy is going through so much pain... but people who have gone through a break up will know how difficult it is even with all the good intentions to feel good looking at the love of your life romancing another man... I don't think his actions are intended at making R feel guilty or stopping R moving on or anything of the sort.... different people resort to different means to take out their pain when they are in such a situation... and for Armaan it is this... it may not be a healthy thing... but u are not always rational when you are in so much pain !!!

I don't blame riddhima for moving on... ( I have a lot of comments on the way the whole SR marriage happened, but like I have said in other posts that is water under the bridge and I won't talk abt it)... I don't blame her for loving her husband.... Sid is a really nice person... but I blame her for being insensitive to Armaan except when it suits her...I blame her for trying to interfere after having move on.... she being the so called mature person here should know that she is the last person who can help Armaan move on.... and she definitely shouldn't try exercising any right whatsoever on him... and she should be the last person to judge another person and always question their upbringing for anything that happens!!! for all these I blame riddhima! She should stay away from Armaan !!!

I don't hold Riddhima responsible for Armaan's pain except for the pain she causes by talkign abt 'if our love was true' you will do this... or tumhe meri kasam and you pain gives pain to me etc... which only makes him bleed all the more from within.... she needs to realise that once she moved on and chose her life there is only so much she can do for Armaan and any attempts at doing anything further will only cause him more pain... they cannot be friends till Armaan finally moves on... and Armaan is entitled to take his own time before he moves on... while riddhima was and is moving on did any one dangle ultimatums or threats in front of her to move on? she got whatever time she wanted to grieve over her relationship... and during the temporary phase where sid was not sure of riddhima's decision he also mourned the probable loss.... but Armaan ( I am not blaming anyone else here) lost the one person who was everythign to him in life ( I know you have a different view abt this... but this is again my POV) so obviously he is bound to take some time to move on... and the same way as Sr are not responsible for what is happening in Armaan's life.... Armaan is not responsible for what is happening in SR's life... it is upto SR to decide how they want to take their life forward and it doesn't make any sense what so ever to blame armaan for their unhappiness... Riddhima definitely needs to give space to Armaan and Shilpa.... Nor can Armaan be blamed for Shilpa's heartbreak... Armaan did not design things to work out in such a way that shilpa's heart breaks... it is just circumstantial....

One more small doubt - Riddhima herself had oragnized a fight for Armaan in the long gone Kash days of AR and during Kasu times when she finally accepts their relationship, she even wholeheartedly accepted everythign abt hi ( atleast supposedly) including the fights.... so now why such hue and cry abt the fights all on a sudden? he knows how to handle himself in a fight and he will move on too... he needs space.. and riddhima should stay away from him....

i don't know much about riddhima organizing fights so i won't go there but u saying she should be the last person i disagree why just because they broke up? aren't they still friends? being his friend she thinks she's able to find the right match and bring happiness back into his life and that's what she's doing isn't this what armaan did few months ago with the whole khnh track? than if we are talking this way than the same rules apply to armaan too he should be teh last one trying to find riddhima's happiness as he's her ex too