The actual victim

Today's episode clarified the true victim in this serial. To begin with Pratigya was the victimised girl. To safeguard her, her brother too became a victim of sorts- situation. Krishna is wronged in life as is discussed in earlier other posts. Kesar is the proverbial maar kharahi bahu of the erstwhile Indian households. As she is probably brought up to believe the situation to be so, doesn't go against it in any way. Yes she is a victim but has accepted that as a way of life (the rights and wrongs of this is completely debatable. But the lady herself accepts this mode of life so it will take a long time to change her or maybe she will never change which is indeed sad).

Krishna's amma belongs to the generation of bahus who accept wife beating as a rightful law and in turn perpetuate it. Daadi ghantilaal is different. (This gene from her that of being different is seen in Krishna)

Coming to today's episode, Komal's way of handling the situation is commendable as it truly highlights her effort to change herself and yes win Adarsh's love for ever. But, when she is brought back, none in the professor's house see her smiling face and welcome her. Not even Nainaji who remembers every individual's efforts at home and has dealt with her mother-in-law so well for years. Didn't Komal keep her word and bring back her bhaabi no small achievement considering her mayka. Pratigya shown as an intelligent thinking girl in the beginning of the serial too doesn't acknowledge her bhaabi coming home. By this time a girl of her intelligence and emotionally balanced person would have learnt how to quickly respond to the kind of situation she is in – acknowledge her bhaabi's effort to get her home and return home herself.

None think of the effort Komal has to put in into this marriage. She is the one who is being judged and asked to understand everything without explanations, not being allowed to participate in household worries like Pratigya has(kesar's incident and many more).

Further neither Arushi nor Nainaji ever think of telling her pyaar se how to win Adarsh. Wasn't she brought in as the deal in a marriage? She is starving for the kind of love she has seen both her educated sis-in-laws get at home the kind any girl is proud of which she ha srealised she never has (any wonder her jealosy towards Arushi and Pratigya?)and her brother has for Pratigya. None like to start her on literacy when the entire house is teeming with literate people!

Now with the help she has given to her bhabi, Komal has lost her trusted footing in knowing what happens in that house. Her father has lied to her today and she is unable to digest it or know what to believe. Adarsh as a husband reacts to her in anger and treats her with a load of indifference coolly forgetting that this girl never asked him to marry her. It was his sole decision. So three people get married knowing very well the hurdles they would face and the fourth one Komal has no clue what to expect since day 1.

As a daughter who thinks the world of her father, her faith will be destroyed when she knows the double game he has played, and as a bahu she loses out as she is not literate or soft spoken or sophesticated.

Every step Komal loses more than she gains unless Nainaji takes a strong step to educate her bahu and help her change. Will this happen? My heart goes out to Komal who has got a raw deal.

I've always found her to be a victim of circumstances. She was forced into this marriage by various people, each with their own agenda.

Adarsh is most to blame as I feel he proposed marriage and therefore he should be the one who should initiates the relationship. He should not wait till Komal changes before he showers any affection to her. Is he perfect himself?

He should accept his wife as she is and with his guidance she will change for the better. Unfortunately, she is just a pawn for others when things go haywire.

I wish Adarsh looks at his own behaviour and improves it because in many ways he is not a good husband. Granted he does not physically abuse her but the disrespect and indifference he shows is a form of abuse in my eyes. His indifference is because she is not his type of wife (educated, soft spoken, well mannered) does not give him a right to speak to her as if she is a 5 year old child.

starlight123 I completely agree with you. That's why my heart goes out to Komal. Indifference is another form of abuse. Any wonder Komal reacts the way she does? Yes. Adarsh like most educated boys in India coolly forgets his responsibilty in a marriage that bridging the gap between his people and the wife. More so in a marriage like this. Komal is a soft girl but has learnt to be tough as she was born in an environment whivh doesn't respect women. Only when she comes to Saxena's house she realises that the world out of her house is very different. Little reactions from her have shown this. So when Adarsh doesn't do the needful, Nainaji who is shown as the one keeping things smooth and peaceful should take the initiative. Some earlier episodes had shown a little something on this line but tha twas never ever followed. Yes.whether girls like to accept it or not in India mother-in-law plays a major role in smoothing things out. So I feel Nainaji's character has this potential. Adn for a change why can't they show this daughter-in-law:mother-in-law pair becoming great friends? I have seen this happening in my family and in many across India. Afterall this serial is different from all the others so why not it truly show some good positive stuff like this?

Yes Komal is the one who loses no matter the situation I completely agree, fine Adarsh had certain expectations from his wife every man does, but the day he chose to marry Komal even after Krishna warned him he should have been prepared to reinvent his image of the perfect wife because no offense he is far from the perfect husband. I can accept he is a good son, and brother but in the husband section he falls short every time. He has no excuse for treating Komal with indifference because it was completely his decision to marry her no matter the reason behind it she had done nothing to him which could justify his rude behavior towards her. Komal needed some support from her husband in order to understand and cope with her new surroundings and was disappointed which resulted in her frustration towards his family members.

I can understand they expect her to change some of her ways such as language and her behavior, but Adarsh never even tried to understand the drastic change which took place in her life she went form the living with the Tachurs where her behavior was expected to the Saxena's where she was being scolded for the similar actions. Actually naina ji has done what Adarsh should have been doing she has tried to explain things to Komal in a nice manner, which eventually worked. Truly Komal's bluntness may seem harsh and her behavior is many times unacceptable but all she needs is a bit of affection before she understands her mistakes and is ready to change herself in order to please her husband. Adarsh though still does not seem to understand this simple fact he needs to start taking this marraige much more seriously instead of expecting all of the changes from her side he should also make some efforts in order to make her happy.

i think komal can become a good wife n daughter-in-law....but sad thing is komal was never accepted as a family member by sucksena's ..... komal deserve way better