GUNJAN!!!!!!! - Updt 5 - Page 6

Originally posted by: ght_sajan

I don't think gunjan's love lacks dept........all it lacks is expression...........sam is the more expressive one.....gunjan believes in letting go(she is not known to hold onto her love) while samrat is a complete opposite( now off course samrat also believes in letting go if it works for the better)..........gunjan has the tendency to bottle up things( confrontation is something that she detests) ..........while samrat believes in confronting things rather than running away from it( there have been exceptions though like in suhani's case) gunjan means the world to samrat..........like he said she is the one point focus in his life...his life starts & ends with gunjan & that's certainly not the case with gunjan'..... both samrat & nupur mean the world to gunjan...i agree gunjan was living in denial until recently ( i am glad she atleast realized she still loves him)...the devdas track provoked gunjan to confront her feelings until then she was afraid of confronting her feelings........in the prese'snt scenario she is torn between two of the most important people in her life.........samrat has never encountered a situation where he was torn between two people he loves ..........i think both of them love each other equally ''..its just that one believes in letting go while the other believes in holding onto their love'''just difference of expression...btw I loved your post.......its just that both of us seem to identify with different people

Originally posted by: surbhi123

Guys i am here to talk about sajan.........i am making a topic on them after many days due to forum conditions...........and i really hope everyone will try to co operate with me.........and please no sarcasm .........its a request.....

Guys i know and agree that accidents are never planned..........and sam suffered a lot........now gunjan actions are hurting him even more.......

but look at her words guys............She said that she loves sam and hate herself for doing that........

guys she never wanted to punish sam......she too knows that accidents are not planned......and that is the reason she never said to sam that you kill my sis because that is wrong,............just feels guilty........guilty of the fact that just car speed took her sis......who was no less than a mother to her ....away from her......gunur relation was really special one.......nupur loved gunji to core........it was not at all easy to take her death and move on for gunjan............her leaving from the hospital was not that he wanted to leave sam because she blames her............but she wanted to run........run from everything in her past...........just wanted her sis back.......she dint wish to remain happy....her wishes end ....knowing that she need to move on..........its was not as simple.............not at all..........she never moved on actually.....

She never wanted to punish sam.........but she is punishing herself .....she is fighting hard with her feelings.......fighting really hard......she dont hug sam because she want to hurt him.........but mixed feelings , her fight with her feelings broke in front of sam love for some seconds which made her do so every time .......she needs support and whenever she look for support......she finds sam standing beside her.......she never want to intentionally hurt him.......his tears , even his sadness add to her miseries.............i really dont know if i was clear in expressing myself or not...........i really dont know if i was clear in expressing myself or not........


Its not that people always do wrong ......but sometimes situations make them look wrong but they are right at their place.........

Originally posted by: yasri

Surbhi........nice to read comment from you about Sajan😊

@bold

It seems you missed many epis of season2..............but she did say that to him

@ red

Agree completely

@blue

perfectly said

thanks di......i am very happy that it has been taken in a good way.......
di yup i missed many episodes......and as there was no topic on forum about it......i thought she never said this directly to sam..........
thanks for agreeing to some of my points...........😛

Some great replies here ... let me try to put in my thoughts.

Of the three people who were affected by Nupur's death (or what they thought was her death) ... for two of them, their reactions were straightforward.
Mayank lost his wife ... a friend, however close, can never be a substitute, or even be compared ... to a spouse, that too a very dearly beloved one ... so no conflict of emotions for him ... he adored Nupur, Sam had been responsible for her death, he could blame Sam and distance himself from him fairly easily. Also later, when he saw Samrat's penitance, he was able to step back, realise that okay, it was an accident, Sam hadn't been deliberately responsible, and both he and Nupur had encouraged samrat to drive fast ... so maybe he shouldn't be so hard on Samrat ... he took his time to forgive Samrat, but there was never any question that Nupur came first for him ... there was never any CHOICE to be made as to whom to support ...

Samrat ... ditto ... for him, Gunjan came first ... she was his life, he was responsible for her sister's death, and he knew how close she and Nupur were, plus of course Nupur was his friend as well, and the wife of his best friend ... but primarily, Nups death affected him because it affected Gunjan ... it made Gunjan unhappy, and that was the prime mover for him

Gunjan ... I have always felt she was worst off ... because she is in a terrible situation ... a conflict between the two people she loved most in the world ... she loved samrat, no question about that ... but HOW can she be with the person who was responsible for the death of her sister ... to lose her sister was the biggest tragedy for her ... and it was the guy she loved who had caused that death ... every time she would look at him she would remember her sister, and she couldn't move on from that ..
BUT on the other hand, Samrat is not only her love, he's her best friend, her support system, the person who has always been there for her ... and she cannot stop loving him ... however much she tries ... also, she has always needed his support, and she still needs it ... even more so now.

so effectively she is in love with her sister's killer ... a sister who has been sister and mother to her.

Try living with that one ... I don't think depth of love, understanding or maturity comes into it ... it's a terrible situation for her to be in ... which is why she was running away from facing her feelingss for Samrat for so long ... and when she's forced, because of the play to face those feelings, she hates herself for not being able to stop loving Samrat ...
Is she justified in blaming Samrat ... for an accident? No, probably not, and if it was a stranger who had caused the accident, she would probably have been able to forgive that person and move on, because she souldn't have to see that person ever again in her life, and she would have had Samrat, her biggest support, by her side ... but being with Samrat would mean living with a reminder of the way Nupur died every day ...
So getting back together with Samrat is NOT going to be easy for her ... she wants to, but she doesn't want to ... the first stage was to accept her own feelings ... that they exist ... the next step is to accept that loving Samrat is not wrong ...

and maybe ... it will be clearer once the Nups track actually starts ... the search for nupur and Samrat stepping back as love, but being there as a friend, may help her to settle her feelings ... and to accept that they are not wrong.

I understand gunjan's pov in distancing herself away from samrat........we all know that samrat has not done it intentionally, and gunjan also knows and feels the same way.