DOTW: Immature or Irresponsible??? - Page 2

i just want to comment on the second last question.In my opinion,Suhaana needs to put herself into others shoes and think their way once a while.its not a question of immaturity or being spoilt.its a question of basic human decency and common sense. Rajni-Disha should have informed her that they were planning a surprise for her friends i agree,but since they had worked so hard,she would have at least credited them by trying out some of their dishes.having home cooked food for 1 day wouldnt have had killed Suhaana or her friends.everyone has to take initiatives for adjustment in a new family,not just Badi Maa or Rano.i dont totally blame Suhaana for ordering food,but she should have given the family some time to understand her tastes instead of springing nasty surprises on them this way.it wasnt the right time for inviting her friends home,since her friends view their sasuraal as downmarket anyways,she should have taken them out to some restaurant instead of inviting them home.

as for the discotheque part,that was plain irresponsible.i dont see where she is coming from,i have been raised and pampered sufficient enough to be labeled "spoilt" but i wouldnt abandon family/people i have taken out for a dinner to join my friends to hit a club.this was tad too extreme.even if she had to humor her firends she could have spent 20mins as she had promised and had returned back to join Rajni-Disha after that time,but she didnt have enough conscience to see where she went wrong.the first incident can be condoned,but the second is way too much

What are your reaction/your opinion on Suhana's behavior?

It is totally irressponsible behaviour.. no doubt I love Suhana from the core of my heart.. she is cute.. sweet and all of the above has a heart of a child.. but then she is not a child.. she is (I guess) around 20-21 years old.. which, I think quite a mature age to understand the atmosphere..

Do you feel Rajni ' Disha are justified if they decide to teach Suhana a lesson? Whom will you support in case it turns out to be Rajni, Disha VS Suhana?

Everyone in the family Inder, Ilesh, Badi Ma, Rano...all keep trying to pacify Rajni' Disha by saying that Suhana should be given time to settle down. How far is that right? How long are Rajni ' Disha supposed to 'give time' to Suhana?

I m merging my answer for both the above questions..

They are much justified on teaching a lesson to Suhana.. though I m feeling bad how Suhana is feeling sidelined but I will definitely support R.D. on this issue… family is expecting them to have patience.. but how much.. every incident comes worse than previous one.. and the latest one.. the hotel incident.. For Elesh and Inder, it is easier said than done.. coz they have not faced all the humiliation.. counting a single coin to pay the bill, what would have happened if they don't have enough money.. and later the drunken man incident.. (me despite being a delhite born and bred up here, would say Delhi is not safe city.)

And don't forget Rajni & Disha are not so feeling good for doing this but as they said she cant go always like this.. she needs to know the importance of family and realtions.. it is not her all the time.

She says that she needs to know her mistake.. now come on yaar she is not that small baby who does not what wrong she did.. even a small baby knows she made a mistake.. taking someone out for dinner and get disappeared.. and she has idea that they enjoyed…

She says that she is trying to do adjustment.. no I don't know what adjustment she is making.. sitting with family.. well on that I will say she is not doing adjustment but she is doing this coz she is liking this herself.. coz she never has this kinda family bonding before.. so never knew the meaning of it.. but now she enjoys sitting with family and eating with them.. but has she ever tried to help other females in their household chores.. every morning either it is Radha Bua or any bhabhi getting her juice or coffee ready for her and behaved really rude when coffee or juice is not upto her taste.. but has she ever asked anyone for a cup of tea even.

Suhana has her heart in the right place no one can deny that. But is that enough? Her 'heart of gold' seems to overrule all her senses. Is she immature or insensitive or selfish or what?

No doubt about that that Suhana has heart of gold.. well in my opinion she is a mixture of immature and selfish (though not intentional but yess her act is little selfish) I don't think she is insensitive.. coz if she is insensitive then, she would have not felt bad when Meena hurt her finger.. or even she never retaliate when Badi Maa told her, her mistakes, she realized them and apologized but whats the use.. next time she comes up with a new mistake..

In your opinion, which incident is worse - the food one or the hotel one?

Without a doubt hotel one.. in food one incident whatever happened, happened in the safe and protective atmosphere of home and top of that atleast family members knows the whole history. But the hotel incident was horrifying and can be even worse than that.. and top of that Rajni Disha (esp Rajni) got all the scolding despite not being their fault.

Lastly, how should the family deal with this? And especially, how should Ishaan deal with this?

I don't think it will happen in one day only.. so family is dealing well as they can… all I can just say Suhana is very lucky to have in-laws like that..

Above views are just my personal opinion.. nothing to hurt anyone's sentiments… plss don't get upset and yess one thing I love Suhanaa very very very much.. I don't like to see her crying her and I want bhabhis to give up.. and solve this issue and also pray that this wil be Suhana's last mistake.. she wont come up with another stupid but unintenational mistake.

Time for a new DOTW!!