How do you feel when you get slapped? - Page 2

Originally posted by: tanthya

My first reaction on hearing this question was Incredulity tinged with pity .....then a cautious happiness ...Chalo , Ab tho he is realizing that there must be something wrong regarding the wife beating and is conducting a survey to find answers' [Thank God ! He did not ask Amma !! ]

My thoughts exactly.


So there does exist a conscience in our child-man .....Ummmmmmmmm...a teeny weeny beginning ,but neverthless a beginning towards his redemption ..Now he has began to question ,and although he still is not accepting the unpalatable truth ,time will come when he has to swallow this bitter pill too and acknowledge his mistake and do the proper thing .

Hope the time comes soon.

Digression:

I loved the casual interaction between the Brother in law and sister in law yesterday ...😊 Me too!

Originally posted by: sweety82

Hi opti great to see u here 😊

As usual wonderful post.

Missing Kayamath and Michi😭

Originally posted by: Opti

...that is what Baba asked Kesar yesterday. I found the question both funny and ridiculous .


What answer was he expecting to get? That she just loved being slapped by her hubby because his fingers came into contact with her cheeks and aroused pleasant feelings in her? If I were in Kesar's position I would have turned around and asked him back if Pratigya were to slap him how would he feel.


He apparently thinks that women are made differently not only in physical terms but also in emotional terms. Cant blame him for it for he sees daily examples of his mother and bhabhi being whacked around by their respective husbands and not complaining. Yes, women are more tenacious and can bear with a lot but that does not mean that they are numb to pain. They feel the same pain when slapped just like their male counterparts but many take it too. Some don't and they shouldn't, especially when they are being slapped for no fault of theirs, as Pratigya was.


I guess, Krishna is feeling guilty for slapping her for he knows that he was at fault. He repeatedly keeps getting flashbacks of the slap and feel positively uncomfortable whenever he does. He is trying to justify it by seeking the views of his friends and his bhabhi but is too proud to accept their opinions. Maybe he hoped that they would say that he was not wrong in slapping her and that Pratigya should not have made a big deal of it. That, in turn, may have put his own guilty conscience at ease. However, neither his friend nor his bhabhi feel what he did was right. Nothing to assuage his male ego. I hope the guy dwells more on what people have said and takes the first steps to reform his wild behaviour.

Originally posted by: pragati.tankha

hey,opti first i wanna say that baba was not trying to make his guilt at conscience at ease by asking that question from kesar,it's just that he has always seen his mom and bhabhi never objacting to such abuse so he was expeccting the same thing from his wife.i would say that he was not wrong in expecting this considering his enviourment.secondly he was not trying 2justify his actions but whats to know as what big he has done which made prats so angry, he was not able to understand the reason of her anger.

Originally posted by: pragati.tankha

hey,opti first i wanna say that baba was not trying to make his guilt at conscience at ease by asking that question from kesar,it's just that he has always seen his mom and bhabhi never objacting to such abuse so he was expeccting the same thing from his wife.i would say that he was not wrong in expecting this considering his enviourment.secondly he was not trying 2justify his actions but whats to know as what big he has done which made prats so angry, he was not able to understand the reason of her anger.

Originally posted by: SAM2U

I would slap back as hard as I could.😕

His ignorance of physical abuse and its consequences is not an excuse to practice what his father or brother do to their respective other halfs. These are the very reasons why Pratigya is behaving the way she is behaving. In general husbands who retort to physical abuse so frequently have to pay the price one way or the other. Krishna is paying the price for his abusive ways to an educated woman who sees this as an insult.

Here in this show, that is exactly what is happening. Thakur women have excepted such abuses as part of their lives and are not raising their voices. Whereas Pratigya have opposing views to such an insult, She will one day change this practice by her firm stance and will help others out of this misery too.

Originally posted by: Opti

Agreed except that I doubt whether all Thakur women would accept such abuses. For instance, if Komal was slapped by her husband (and she gave reason for being slapped for her crude and indecent behaviour but Adarsh was too decent to resort to such violence) she would have slapped him back.

Originally posted by: SAM2U

Komal is SS's daughter hence a different rule applies to her then his wife or daughter in-laws. Komal is one ray of hope that we all can count on.

Originally posted by: Opti

Yep, she is one ray of hope but yesterday she too seemed quite peeved by her father as she went without a protest. I think she wanted Adarsh to shout out like Krishna that he wants his wife back. Lets see how long she will stay at her maiyka though. want her to pay the entire Thakur clan in their own coin, telling them that she was treated much better by the Saxena's than her own family.