Joint vs Nuclear family-which one for AbHer? - Page 4

Eks, I guess we are both seeing it from our personal experiences and encounters with ppl whom we have come accross.

I haven seen ppl so crooked that the more love you give them the more and more crooked they become (personal experience). It's as if your love fans the fire of their hatred. Yes when money comes in that hatred changes to flowers in an instant and those very ppl who once spat upon you, to the extent that they wanted to destroy you, now want to even donate their kidneys for you. I am not saying this to prove a point, but I have seen this in real life with my own eyes. Trust me, such ppl disgust me. The best part is that such ppl are usually family only. The very ppl who say before how much ever love and respect you give them, that pls dont talk to me my wife dosent like it, but when money and power comes in they say, oh pls can me and my wife do something for you ? can we cook the food for you today ? you are like our own son.

I beleive good ppl are inherently good and evil ppl are inherently evil. Very few times there's a transformation into the opposite side because of experiences. Look at lalla, he's been good even though he's TN / Dadi's son. Yes Sudha was an influence, but still there was inherent good in him. Our traits are written in our soul. Ravana was the most evil emperor on earth, but his father / grandfather were the greatest rishis and noble souls who always condemned his ways.

For AbHer, at the moment, I feel they should live as a nuclear family away from all the hateful members of their respective families, except Sudha of course. They need a lot of together time to work thru their problems together with Abeer's love and Leher's practical approach. They need to get over the hurdles together so that it will strengthen their bond so that no TN, Boodha, Bua or Kulcha can separate them.