Joint vs Nuclear family-which one for AbHer?

Hi friends,
Have been wondering about this for some time now... since we have 3 days to plan AbHer's life, even if they seem to be a bit slow in that dept, 😆-

Have you come across any daily soap where the lead couple start life as a nuclear family? Why all families are joint families on TV? Now soaps are set in towns/non-metro cities. But even during Ekta days when soaps were set in cities, I hear all families were joint. Which is why you have saas-bahu drama, 'cos they stay in the same house😆

My vote- for AbHer, a nuclear family. Can't trust Booda and TN!

And personally, when a couple start their life together, they should live alone so they can understand each other.

Would like to hear your opinions on which arrangement you prefer and why, personally, and for AbHer.

lovely topic gaayu..

Interesting topic, Gaayu ..

Very nice topic Gaayu...
Kektha mayi showed joint families as we know is only bcos the saas, bahu, nanad, dewar, bhabhi everyone can add to the spice, more the merrier ( in terms of melodrama)😆...also guess to portray the Indian values and traditions and giving the impression that they are promoting this age old joint family tradition.
Personally, I would like to see AbHer fight the world on their own, and show the world that their love can withstand any kind of difficulty thrust on them by the society, life in general. Guess that is wishful thinking, since bua is already here, and we know she is going to bring AbHer back to the Vajpayee house. I would like that this entry of AbHer into V house is delayed for a bit, if it is inevitable, and show some exclusive AbHer moments, where they ponder over and deal with their problems. This will enable to strengthen their relationship. Also, hope to see the lovely AbHer moments, the nok-jhoks etc.😃
Once they enter the V house, as Eks had said guess AbHer will fight out the evil together, unlike other saas-bahu dramas. I would like teh CVs to stick to teh title and show that AbHer fight for their love but never fight amongst themselves, they have enough people around them to create problems for them. I think this army of antagonists is a blessing in disguise for AbHer, since the more the world is against you, the more u become protective about each other.
Personally, I prefer a nuclear family , I do not mean one should forget about relationships with ur in-laws, but meeting with them regularly and keeping in touch with them would definitely keep the love and affection for each other intact. It is better to stay outside than live under the same roof and lose respect for each other bcos u do not share similar views on almost most of the issues. I gathered this based on experiences of my dear ones, bcos I never had the opportunity to live with my in-laws, except when I go on a vacation to India....so maybe I am wrong😊

Nice topic Gaayu. For AbHer, I prefer they live alone for few weeks/months, until Abeer finds a job for himself. I would hate to see him entering VP house jobless. The reason he left the house was less to do with Lehar and more to do with his independent identity, as said by him to Sudha. So if he enters the house without earning a penny, he did prove TN right to some extent. What I would ideally prefer is, Abeer taking loan from Bansi kaka or anyone friendly to him to rent an apartment in Ganeshgunj, finding a job for himself, paying off the loan, both Abeer and Lehar completing their education, and just when things start becoming normal for them, TN and boodha approaches AbHer to move back to VP house as Abeer has proved his point, he made his identity without TN's help. Even after moving back to VP house, Abeer can still pay separately for his and Lehar's expenses, thus showing that he still has not forgiven his dad and dadi, but is moving back since they want them to (probably Lehar insisted) and most importantly, for his mother's sake.

I dont want AbHer to stay outside VP house permanently, just because of Sudha and for the purpose of the story. Sudha deserves to live with her son and bahu. She should not be punished. What I would love to see is Abeer making his independent identity before he moves back to VP house with his wife.

What I would absolutely hate to see is AbHer moving back to VP house, while Abeer is still jobless and totally dependent on his father financially.

Gaayu - may I call you that?😊

No option. Only nuclear as i dont want leher to suffer anymore.

Nuclear family. No other choice....

Originally posted by: Anvi2009

Nice topic Gaayu. For AbHer, I prefer they live alone for few weeks/months, until Abeer finds a job for himself. I would hate to see him entering VP house jobless. The reason he left the house was less to do with Lehar and more to do with his independent identity, as said by him to Sudha. So if he enters the house without earning a penny, he did prove TN right to some extent. What I would ideally prefer is, Abeer taking loan from Bansi kaka or anyone friendly to him to rent an apartment in Ganeshgunj, finding a job for himself, paying off the loan, both Abeer and Lehar completing their education, and just when things start becoming normal for them, TN and boodha approaches AbHer to move back to VP house as Abeer has proved his point, he made his identity without TN's help. Even after moving back to VP house, Abeer can still pay separately for his and Lehar's expenses, thus showing that he still has not forgiven his dad and dadi, but is moving back since they want them to (probably Lehar insisted) and most importantly, for his mother's sake.

I dont want AbHer to stay outside VP house permanently, just because of Sudha and for the purpose of the story. Sudha deserves to live with her son and bahu. She should not be punished. What I would love to see is Abeer making his independent identity before he moves back to VP house with his wife.

What I would absolutely hate to see is AbHer moving back to VP house, while Abeer is still jobless and totally dependent on his father financially.

I agree with most of you who said that in the circumstances they got married AbHer need to stay on their own and figure out their life together before moving into VP house. Though the marriage and the love story itself is not ideologically driven, Abeer mentions during the wedding that its not just about them and their wedding but also the larger issue of non-acceptance of inter-caste marriages in society (he asks whether a Brahmin cannot be a good damad or a kayasth a good bahu or something like that if Im not mistaken). I don't want it to become a social drama as much as I don't want it to be a saas-bahu one but it'd be great to see them fight the psyched society together on their own and give out some relevant message to the scores of young people watching the show. I think it is possible only when they live on their own without any kind of financial assistance from their respective families. It'd be cringe-inducing to see them move back into VP house jobless and penniless like Anvi2009 said. I hope the CVs will stay true to the essence of the show and keep their pyar strong and growing as they complete their education and get a job (I hope they show the girl also working) before raining more kharelu trouble on them!!