Note: Before people start jumping on me for this post, I just want to clarify that this is strictly my opinion and I may be wrong. Also, it doesn't have to do anything with what is happening in the current track. This is what I have felt as an AR fan throughout the course of the show and the current scenario just confirms that. I am an AR fan and not merely a KaSh, KaSu or KaJen fan'so I hope to present a fair and objective opinion.
Armaan, was introduced to us as this young charismatic doctor who is "self-confident, cheeky and occasionally even smug". But as the show progressed, we got to see a lot of different sides to him. For me, Armaan is a self-made man. For a child who grew up with neglecting parents, he comes across as someone who was determined to succeed in life inspite of his parents. Although he had no family background in the medicine field, he chose to become a doctor. That says a lot about a person. He has always been someone who has tried to cover his hardships; and someone to display charm and an inflated ego instead. Even when he entered Sanjeevani, who would have thought that two men like Atul and Armaan could ever be brothers? But we came to see that side of him eventually.
Ridhima, on the other hand, was introduced to us as a kind and good-natured girl who is "modern in her outlook to life, and yet respects and represents all the core Indian values". The character of Ridhima has always been such that it portrayed many different shades. Although she appeared to be kind and polite to everyone around her, she seemed to be a total different person in the presence of Armaan. With Armaan, she became someone who screamed, fought battles and then cried. Something that I always noticed throughout the show was that Ridhima never shared anything with any of her friends. Whether it be problems about her dad, or having had fought with Armaan. She always kept it to herself. While Armaan, always confided in his friends (be it Atul, Rahul or even Muskaan sometimes). It is ironic because Ridhima comes from a happy family and should have it easier to share her problems but it is Armaan who comes from a neglected family and seems to trust people more. In a way, I believe that the character of Ridhima is quite arrogant in many ways. She may not always show it, but many of her actions do...which I will talk about later.
Now, why do I think that Ridhima has never been worthy of Armaan's love? Well, let's start with the beginning of their relationship.
All of us are familiar with the torturous KaSh days when Ridhima appeared to be totally confused and adamant when it came to confessing her love for Armaan. But when she finally did, it was after Armaan had confessed his love to her countless of time. Ridhima comes across as someone who is very insecure and I do not think that has anything to do with her adoption. I think that's just her as a character. She is insecure and has a hard time trusting people. Or maybe I should just say Armaan.
In their relationship, they always took different ways when it came to doing anything.
For example, let's take the fights. When it came to small fights, it was usually always initiated by Ridhima and always had Armaan asking for forgiveness. And the big ones had similar results. When Ridhima got mad at Armaan for the Bubbly track or for the Muskaan track, her way was always to ignore and cut off Armaan from her life. While when Armaan got mad, if ever, he ended up going away from her to somewhere far away...boxing and punching a few people...having Ridhima run after him and apologise for a few hours...and then forgiving her. THE MAIN MORAL: Ridhima was always harsh and demanding when it came to fights while Armaan was always seeking to get things right and forgive even if it wasn't his fault.
For example, let's take jealousy. When it came to any girl with Armaan, some serious ones like Muskaan and Bubbly, Ridhima never trusted him. She always ended up breaking their relationship without talking about it. I remember she asked this question to Armaan, "Agar maine unhi haalaton main kisi ladke ke saath raat gizzri hoti, aur tumse chupaya hota, to tum kya karte?" 'I'm sure pretty much every AR fan knows what Armaan would have done. He would have gotten jealous, possessive and then would let it go. Which is exactly what he did during the Rahul and Abhi times. THE MAIN MORAL: Ridhima always had trouble trusting Armaan while Armaan seemed to not even think of EVER doubting her. Throughout the whole series, I never saw him suspecting anything wrong when it came to Ridhima.
For example, let's take romance. How many times did we see Ridhima do anything romantic for Armaan? Often...nah! Rarely...Yes. And Armaan? The man's every moment was to come up with romantic ideas for his lady love...a gift, surprise on special occasions (her birthday, New Year's), dates, fire escape getaways. THE MAIN MORAL: Ridhima always acted like a queen...she preferred getting romantic with him ONLY when Armaan initiated it.
For example, let's take understanding. It was always shown as if Armaan required Ridhima in his life because she brought some kind of peace and understanding in his life. I fail to understand how. When did we ever see Ridhima trying to solve Armaan's problems? Whether it was during the Shashank misunderstandings or during his parent's track...we never saw her do anything to help him. In fact, she usually ended up doubting him...sometimes sending him to jail, countless times being ignorant and ranting off lies to Shashank in order to get him suspended (holi and many more). Whereas Armaan almost was ALWAYS the only person to care about her problems....be it adoption, Shashank financial troubles...and so much more. THE MAIN MORAL: Ridhima always appeared to be weak and not caring at all. Half the time, she seemed to be crying about her own problems rather then ever caring about Armaan's. And the less said about Armaan's beautiful understanding about Ridhima, the better.
An SR fan said something so true. Ridhima always treated Armaan like crap because he let her. He was always eager to get done with any sort of misunderstanding in order to have her back. And I believe this is the way he is because of his parents. He's someone who never saw the love of his parents, and that's why he tries so hard to keep the love he has. He's always scared to do anything wrong in front of her...and desperate to do the things that she deems right. I don't think that's a flaw in him...I think it's his hurt that literally makes him be a doormat. A symbolism that the creative showed through his character (and miraculously continued it throughout their relationship) was the way Armaan reacted whenever Ridhima put her palm to his cheek. Whether it be the time when Ridhima did it on the terrace on New Year's or when she did it after a fight...it symbolized Armaan's comfort in the safety of her love. He treasured the moment she laid her palm...and he ended up sinking in all his pains and fears in that hand. Even when it comes to Armaan's childishness and possessiveness in dealing with Ridhima...it keeps going back to his parents. He's still a child who does everything in a straightforward manner...for example, even with the Muskaan fiasco...he helped her because like a child he thought that's the most straight-forward thing to do...without thinking of the problems that could come up in a relationship. And his possessiveness to keep her shows how much he fears a loved one being lost again...like his parents. His need and want for love ends up making him weak in front of Ridhima.
The same SR fan had said that Ridhima treats Armaan like crap because he lets her...but Sid doesn't. He gets up and gives it back to her which kind of shuts the woman up. Which is true. I think, in a way, Ridhima is very arrogant. All the above reasons should have proven that. Maybe even because both Sid and Ridhima come from families of doctors, they have this confidence and arrogance of not taking crap from another person. Whereas Armaan comes from no background and has no smugness. Honestly, I truly think that Sid and Ridhima are very alike. Whereas Armaan and Ridhima are total opposites. Which definitely is much more exciting and fun.
So basically, I just think that Ridhima is not worthy of Armaan. Not that they don't have good points...but I'm not here to state those. Now some may ask me if I am an AR fan...and the answer is "Yes". And that is because this is a show...and not real life. If it was real life, I would have wanted the man to leave the insensitive women. But because this is a show, I enjoy the good points of AR and hopelessly pray that someone like Armaan exists. And I even want them to get together because I know that she is still Armaan's happiness...and maybe somewhere I have hope that she will start caring.
P.S - This is honestly not a post intending to bash Ridhima...it's just what I have observed and analysed from her character. Please don't start fights...debates and opinions presented in a respectful manner are always welcome.
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