Is Abha really wrong?? - Page 5

Originally posted by: gp00

Dear silcop,

It does not require thunderbolts...it requires that buffoon Thakur's approval! 😆

And, there is no way Akbar would have accepted a "no" anyway.....the real one, not the Hrithik one 😃

Originally posted by: gp00

Perhaps, this is where my break is. I cannot bring myself to accept that when I get married, my job is to bring the families together, to solve their problems...just like I don't need to solve world crises or my neighbors' problems when I get married. Marriage is a start of a new relationship--FIRST and FOREMOST for the two people, as they will have to live and support each other until one of them drops dead. They do have a SECONDARY responsibility to bring families together, solve great and small family problems but ONLY if the families can be reasoned with. Otherwise, it is a royal waste of time and life resources.

I think our different perspectives on marriage shapes our acceptance or not of Abha's actions, and these perspectives are shaped by how we are raised--not just by our parents, but by the culture and society, education, temperment, intellectual pursuits, among other things. Hence, I think we will always have a divide, which we are all respecting.

It has been said before that it is NOT suhaag raat per se that has created my and others' annoyance with Abha. It is that, as soon as the pandit is done, the first thing she thinks about is getting the families together for Diwali, of erasing animosity that has survived DECADES, by what???That is Abha's new pasttime. Her new goal in life. Being a good daughter in law, a good daughter??? What if one means not being the other? Look as much as we love our families, it's probably a good idea to accept the fact that much of your happiness or unhappiness will come from your spouse. And once you get married, you should start living and enjoying and thinking about each other and your future. Abha, unfortunately, cannot bring herself to think about her future with Karan until she gets the stamp of approval. So until the fathers kiss each other and become best buds, Abha will tell Karan, her wedded husband, to keep his hands off of her and not get close. I'm sorry, but this does not make sense...It just doesn't! I'm trying real hard, but it's escaping me. You may disagree, but she is HOLDING OFF part of her married life for approval.