Marrying your brother-on-law

A man and his wife was living happily with their little son.They were indeed a very happy family.Their happiness was doubled when the woman got pregnant for the second ime.But who can change the luck.Their happiness was covered with a cloth of sorrow as the wife died while giving birth to her daughter.After somedays the man thought of re-marrying.But the maternal grandparents of the children thought that a stepmother can destroy their lives.So they forced their younger daughter to marry her brother-in-law.They thought in this way the children will never be deprived of mothers love since their aunt loves them very much.Seeing the circumstances the girl agreed to marry.But soon after the marriage she realized that he can never love this man as she considers him as her sisters husband and since she is so young there is a huge mentality gap between them.Now my question is:

Forced marriage is wrong. Also, people needs to think twice before settling down into a relationship with someone. As long as all sides are happy, I don't see anything wrong with it. Here, in your case, all sides could be blamed for their actions.

Originally posted by: -JONAKI-

5)What would you do if you were in this situation?

I do not have a sister.

In many desi societies if a mother dies, people feel that her sister is the best person to step into the role. This is because they worry that a step mother may not really take care of the children or be fair. While this may make sense at some level, it can be unfair and awkward for everyone involved too. Moreover, there are many stepmothers who do make excellent moms.

To answer your questions

1) No forcing someone into a marriage is wrong. It should always be a choice. One can help care for a sister's child in the role of an aunt too, without having to marry the father.

2) Of course. If two people do end up getting married in such a situation - both parties should be patient and give each other time to adjust.

3) That depends. If it works out - it can be good for the children. If not it can be very awkward. With modern social conventions it can be awkward for children even if the marriage works out.

4) Depends. If a marriage is mutual and people are willing to work on it, people will be happy. If not they will be unhappy.

5) Never. I can never see myself marrying my sisters spouse.

Does the brother in law really need to get married again? single dads can do a splendid job too.

if my cousin died i wouldnt marry my brother in law.

Obviously it is not the girl's fault that her sister has passed away and left her husband a widower, and neither should she feel obliged to take her place. In fact, a brother-in-law is like a brother, and it would be extremely horrifying to marry your dead sister's husband. The kids can be taken care of by the aunt without her having to enter a bond of marriage with their father. The father could go out and marry another woman who will openly accept his kids and treat them with love and care ... as much as movies may showcase it to be, not all stepmothers are evil like Cinderella's. A family should not force a girl to marry out of guilt and love for her sister and her kids. Its not only immoral and selfish, it the girl's life, her personal desires, and whatever her dreams might have been. Fortunately, I have only heard of such stories in movies and I think society for the most part has progressed to transcend such cruel practices.

Originally posted by: P1nk

I do not have a sister.

This is a CID case I smell a fish. 😆
To be fair they should consider the young girls happiness too.