Love before marriage or after? Does it matter? - Page 14

In the most ideal situations you ought to have love before and after marriage. Now I am not talking about cheesy romantic love that we see in the movies, but love in a more practical down to earth sense.

Marriage is a commitment. You are making a commitment to share a life together and have a family together. You ought to know who you are marrying. You ought to understand each others values, beliefs and interests. You ought to know that you can spend a life together and enjoy it. Whether you are seeing someone or your parents are choosing a spouse for you - before you enter marriage you ought to have a genuine desire to be with that person - otherwise you are entering a life of lies.

Although if I were forced to choose between love before or after marriage - after marriage would be better (that is assuming love with the person you are married too). There is no point in being in a relationship without love. In fact if there is no genuine love between the two people - it is no longer a marriage - it is just a domestic contract between two people.

Ideally, you would meet someone, fall in love, marry him/her, and continue loving him for all the years to come. But of course, the world is far from ideal, and not all relationships stem the same way. However, in either case ... love after marriage, as in loving the person you're married to, becomes a huge part of the deal. Marriage is a commitment and in order to engage yourself into this lifelong commitment, you need to love the person enough to want to spend the rest of your life with them.

Of course, I'm confused as to what love before marriage signifies ... does it mean that if you love someone and then marry them, your love will not persist after your marriage?

And another thought, ideally speaking, if love were to continue before and after marriage ... wouldn't we all, having a choice, pick falling in love with someone and then marrying them solely because it allows you to know that you really do want to spend the rest of your life with this individual ... as opposed to marrying someone you know almost nothing about?

Originally posted by: my_view

lol... As SRK said in KKHH "zindagi mein pyaar ek hi baar hota hain" so I would pick love after marriage as it could be decades of living with the same person and could be a drag if there is no love after marriage..

Although SRK says in KKHH that "zindagi mein pyaar ek baar hota hai ... aur shaadi, shaadi bhi ek hi baar hoti hai" (something along the lines) ... you'll notice that he not only falls in love twice, he marries twice. What does that, then, imply about the message? Can you, or can you not, fall in love (true love) twice? If not, was it Rahul's love for Tina that was not "true" or was it his love for Anjali that wasn't "true love"?

(Sorry, I overanalyze everything - don't feel obliged to respond 😆)

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Although SRK says in KKHH that "zindagi mein pyaar ek baar hota hai ... aur shaadi, shaadi bhi ek hi baar hoti hai" (something along the lines) ... you'll notice that he not only falls in love twice, he marries twice. What does that, then, imply about the message? Can you, or can you not, fall in love (true love) twice? If not, was it Rahul's love for Tina that was not "true" or was it his love for Anjali that wasn't "true love"?

(Sorry, I overanalyze everything - don't feel obliged to respond 😆)

I don't think you fall in love only once. I don't even think you can fall in love only twice. As long as I've got a heart, and chambers in some part of it, I find myself capable of loving over and over again. 😆


Marriage is another thing, it's a commitment. A promise given to someone in every which way. Though yes, I'd never marry for any other reason than love, and I honestly would vow to live up to it in every which way.

Hindi movies are well known for depicting mediocre representation of many ideals in a few cases anyway. Though I absolutely adore SRK, we both know that 😳, I still can't figure out why in the whole damn world would Maya have left her adoring husband for SRK in KANK. If someone loved me as Abhi loved Rani in that movie, I wouldn't have seen anyone else.

Yes I do believe true love happen only once...otherwise fake love/attraction/infactuation will happen many time...many ways......kisi shayar ne kaha hey na...chandni sirf chaand se hua ho...sitaro ka kya hoga...mohabat sirf ek se hua tho baaki hazaroo ka kya hoga takoooorrrr!!!!😛 😉

Originally posted by: shalini1323

Love before marriage or after??? Does it matter?

The end product is the same after all...

So what do you all think?