Archu the expert on women and marraige

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Ok , I can't resist . What to do , such episodes set me off . ; Archana somehow thought that she was very , very qualified to give expert advice to Varsha on marraige and women in general . It didn't strike her that since her divorce was going on and her life was a mess of the rarest kind , she should be contrite and rather silent on the subject and tell her sister merely that everyone's case is unique , that everything would work out if she was LUCKY coz in a sense , each marraige was a lottery . . Now I know that this advice is far too much for TV serialwallahs to handle , so ok , I don't really insist on it . But I do strongly object to delusional , outdated Satyayuga advice in Kaliyuga . Especially when in Kaliyuga women are being burnt if dowry isn't provided . Now in such an age if women step into matrimony thinking they are 'shakkar ' that is going to be dissolved into the doodh [ milk] of matrimonial life comprising of its two main ingredients ........Savita the mother in law and Manav the lallu husband , the result is going to be too sweet for any normal stomach to digest . ; We are shakkar , we are salt , she wept .{ ok the salt is my addition .] We should dissolve in the milk of married life [ meaning give up our identity ] and sweeten the husbands life .[meaning tolerate his second wife and abusive mother ] This is only our strength . ; The age in which this was done , in which exactly this example was given , in that age , people entered the state of matrimony with a spiritual goal ...........self realization . Grihasthashrama was the only rare state in which two people could together walk on the road of self realisation . All other roads , the unmarried state , the sanyasa state , one walked alone . ; That age , like the dinosaurs , became extinct with the passage of time .Today we have only fleeting references to names and some literature that has somehow managed to filter down to this age due to the sheer brilliance of their nature , somehow , anyhow , inspite of the passage of time . Matrimony is a state of convenience today , not a state to achieve a spiritual goal . We enter marraige to have a hubby , children to look after us in our old age , to pass time in life as staying alone becomes boring , dangerous , unbearable . We categorically DO NOT enter matrimony to realise GOd .
Today if women become shakkar or salt , mother in laws like Savita , Rasika and that heavily buttered bun face Bhavna { and here i mean a bun that is edible please] will literally trample on them , chew them and throw the cud to roadside dogs . Savita has already reduced Archana to cud .........there really isn't any thing left to chew anymore , is there ? And Bhavna is already planning in that direction ...............is there any noble reason why she is hobnobbing with Rasika all the time inspite of knowing very well that Sulochana's relations with Rasika are strained ? Agreed that Varsha was unknowingly rude to her on two three occasions , but Bhavna did give permission to this marraige with , right ? Well once the marraige is accepted , she owes it to her son to make a genuine effort to accept his wife , not to sneak behind his back and bitch about her daughter in law who hasn't even entered the family till now .
What is so admirable about losing your identity and drinking the water with which your husband's feet have been washed and asking his 'ijaazat ' or permission to go to meet your own biological mother , or to put sindoor in the maang for a function , or to pee ? Anything wonderful there if we cannot make even basic , day to day decisions on our own ? Manav main aaj Aai ko milne jaoo? Manav aapki ijaazat ho to sindoor daloo ? Manav mujhe bahut emergency se pee ko jana hai , main jaooo? Is this how a woman should honestly behave ?
Yehi aurat ki speciality hai , says Archana , weeping, of course , as the oooooooooaaaaaaaaa starts unceremoniously in the background , making me drop my coke on my lap. Yehi reet hai . And of course then all the 3 sisters weep copiously to the ooooaaaa. { As if aurats have no other kaam dhandaa yaar . Seriously , if this is what being an aurat entails , it is infinitely better to be born even as an eunuch in comparison . At least they look gloriously happy as they clap their hands and shamelessly flick money from people in cabs at the Bandra crossing . Aurat is only equivalent to weeping it seems , these guys r so divinely cheerful .]
What I was expecting [ foolishly of course] was seeing two diffrent marraiges ...........of one sister and another and how they both handle their common problems.............mainly , mOTHER IN LAWs . I liked it when Varsha bluntly took Satish aside , showed him how his bitchy mom didn't take juice from her hands , and told him that she WOULD adjust only to a certain point , not compromise her self respect . I wanted to see Varsha setting Bhavna straight [ that wud be a treat ] , and EVEN INSULT RASIKA when Rasika visits Bhavna's house . Its hi time my dears , that Rasika is insulted a little . She is just too much .
But with Guru Archu's advice , the beginning of butchering Varsha's character has begun . Creatives , our advice is not to do this mistake .TRPs will increase if we see two diffrent wys of handling marital problems .
Now for the other Guru .......Guru Shravani .😆 This girl gives me Immense satisfaction as she actually dares to have a dialogue with her husband and opine on her own , right or wrong . Bluntly she asked , kis rishtey se aap jaoge to Varshas engagement . Atta girl ! Manav seems to have conveniently forgotten that he had told VArsha not to call him jeeju even . Everyday this girl , the most hated character , asks at least one normal question in the full serial and makes my day . Yesterday she asked him bluntly cudn't he phone her today she bluntly asked him why is he even going inspite of the divorce . Of course Manav gave her some complicated rigmarole about rishtey and cloaked it with his favorite word " INSAANIYAT" but I was happy she asked . VERY HAPPY.
Shravani haters .......She did NOT throw a tantrum and prevent MAnav from going to the function but actually pondered and understood and gave him the permission . Confirming that TILL THIS POINT she really isn't a bad character at all ...........just NORMAL. And refreshing . But dont worry , creatives will butcher her too.
And of course , the return of my darling character : AJIT THE CREEP. He obviously had a plastic surgery in Bangkok so that the pimp here doesn't recognise him at all . [ I prefer the earlier one ] BUT chalega . What this serial wud be without Ajit guys . Ekdum insipid .
Prediction : Ajit is somehow gonna be responsible for Shravni going out of the picture . I dunno how , but our favorite creep is gonna deliver guys . He will make Archu Manav unite . And go to jail . Not just that , once he comes out he is either gonna marry Vandu or Vaishu to create more juicy hungama [ My bet is LUX SUPER MODEL VANDU.]
So lets ENJOY !
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Great post Kool as usual!!!
I was really expecting kind of post from u today and totally agree what ever u told.
Manav is pissing me off day by day..
I think Ajith and Sharavani will make a good pair going on they voice and acting 😆
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Good post Kool ..
manav has clearly declared loud and clear that his rishta with Archana is just that of insaniyat .....
I hope Archana will soon start moving on and this love she has for this man has to take a back seat .
It was good she saw him happy with his fiance ....
And yes , I don't want her to ask his permission before putting sindoor ( I wish she would not put it in the first place ) but even if she wants to look married for whatever reason , she should just do it on her own ...
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Posted: 15 years ago
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KOol....m yet to get married so wld reserve my views on the institution. but my mom loved Archu's dialogues she even said her mom told her the exact same thing before she got married....kinda tradition.....how to accommodate nd be part of the new household....li'l outdated bt still holds importance fr her.
Archu belongs to the old school.....this is probably wat Sulo must hve told her....she hasn't seen the world as much as Varsha....so her ideas bout marriage r archaic / traditional.
In today's day n age such views may not hold relevance.....bt the intention is noble.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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nice Kool. totally agree with you. i'm really disappointed in aruhana today. y the .**** is she asking manav to put sindoor eh. i don't get why this attachment to manav. clearly they have decided to part ways y then do all this... just end it but nooooo. i just want to smack some sense into foolish archu.
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Very good Kool.👏

I hope Archu gets the message n moves on...n let Manav go round n round abt his insaniyat sermon. Listenin abt his explanation of insaniyat...I doubt tht he ever did nethin out of ne other feeling...ONLY INSANIYAT...WHAT A INSAN yaar😆 Agree with u abt the sugar thing...wht a ridiculous dialogue
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Posted: 15 years ago
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May be she has the feel of being a good homemaker!😭

So experience counts now that she has a master's degree too boost off!
Archana is one of the rarest of rare species available on this planet earth, baalidan ki murthi! No complains no demands!😔
Varsha is a hard nut to crack, so she won't take it anything lightly she will fight fire with fire.
An eye for an eye, ya Archu is still living in the stone age time!
Oh kool some words of wisdom for Shravani, even she is not spared today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🤬

Awesome post sis!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Kool , you can be as angry with me as you want but I loved some of the things she said to Varshu , in fact I had tears in my eyes.
There was something I did not agree with but I see absolutely no harm in a big sister telling a little sister to start her life on a loving and on a poasitive note .
I would do the same , I have done the same with both my sisters ....
And Kool , I have compromised a lot in my marriage , more than my husband , I would not call it drinking from my husband's feet or anything like that at all. My husband loves me and respects me too much to ever humiliate me that way . I have done all that from my own will.
I love the guy , I want to have a happy home with him and I want to love his family and he too loves my family . When ever my sisters get in trouble they go to him first and then I get to know about anything ..
Now what is wrong in loving and compromising for a person like that ...
the only dialogue I did not like was ,' about leaving your old rishtas and making new ones , that I did not like because I don't t think anybody leaves rishtas , you just make new ones ..
Like it or not but some compromises have to be made in order to have a successful life ....you do thinsg not because of regression but because you love someone so much that you want to have a happy and worthwhile life with him ...
I have never ever regretted the compromises I have made for my marriage .
koool ...man is not the enemy here . men are very nice too , they too are doing their bit , but I feel that being a woman is very very special ....
I just loved what she said about the thing of a woman like the sugar ......I loved it , sorry Kool ..
Edited by Tanyaz - 15 years ago
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Proud of Archu ,I am happy she was there for her sister and I hope her sister starts her life on a positive note and values a good person like Satish ...
Now all I want from Archana is to slowly but surely get over her relationship with Manav , and that is happening .Today she saw him happy with another woman and slowly she will understand that his happiness lies in her being away from him.
He too is a very nice guy and he is definitely her well wisher > Despite of whatever has happened , I will not call manav a bad person . Archana should give him respect ... it's very unfortunate what has happened between them ...it's heart breaking but it has happened and they are both trying their best to move forward , specially manav is ...hopefull yArchu will do that soon as well.
Edited by Tanyaz - 15 years ago
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Posted: 15 years ago
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So Tanya talking from the heart😊😊
I always knew that you love that character Archu,
To this extent hmmmmmmmm that surprised me!
I have this to say after reading your post 👍🏼

Compromise is the other name of life!!!!!! Everyone does a little compromis in one's life!😊

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