Enough is enough! This needs to STOP!

I am very very disappointed with all of you today. This forum has become a total bizarre! This is serious guys, I am like spending hours & hours on millions of topics that need to be handled and giving warnings to people for continuous hours. But it's not about me, I am not complaining what going through me, but I am complaining about what this forum has become.

I expected ALL of you to co-operate with each other when it comes to making our forum nice. I expected all of you to contribute to this forum positively and contribute the best you can. But is bashing, making instigating comments, comparisons the best things you can give to this forum? Just ask yourself ONCE, can you call this forum a "friendly" place anymore? In my opinion, no you can't. This forum has become a frustration box where people just dumps their frustrations here in a way & without thinking that others might get offended by that.

Instigating posts, comparison posts, and bashing NEEDS to STOP! I know it's Moderator's job to handle these type of things. But think about it, if you can't help yourself, how will the Mod help you? This forum isn't mines or yours, it's OUR forum. And that "our" includes those people too whom some of you tend to forget when making an offensive comment.

I know some of you are really frustrated with the way things are going on in the show, but ask yourself, who's fault is it & who are you really blaming? If sadhna's character is misused, how is ragini at fault for that? If ragini's character is misused, how is sadhna at fault for that? Then WHY WHY WHY are the characters/actors blamed and bashed for those things? I would LOVE to know the answer to this if somebody wishes to answer. Because I just want these baseless bashing to STOP, so do others! Guys, those actors work that way because it's their JOB. Some of you don't like it when your favourite screen jodi is paired with somebody else for other works. I am not saying you have no right to get sad, of course you do! But it's their JOB, and they are going to do whatever their job demands them to do. Actors have their personal life and other professional life too other than performing in Bidaai. Then why bash actors for that? Tell me how would you feel if somebody bashed your favourite character/actor? And nowadays I am noticing that people started making offensive remarks on actors looks. Looks aren't everything, what matters is the beauty of the soul. Put yourself in other people's shoes before making any kind of offensive remark. If not think about others, atleast about yourself! Do you like to get warnings and warning pms? Is that how you are who likes to hurt people by making offensive posts?

This has become so serious now that we are more strict now. So anybody who will be seen making instigating posts, comparisons, bashing will have to face strict consequences. All I want from you guys to make this forum, if not the best, atleast a friendly place where everybody can trust and rely on each other. I want this forum to have the most amazing people who have empathy and respect for other's point of views. Please look at this warning post again by Shruti Final Warning For All Members:Do Read

All comments are welcome, I would really love to end these things by discussing with you all.

Sadia
Bidaai DT

@Sadia: I agree with u, I am totally fed up of these wars kind of topics, it's truely the limit..........

Originally posted by: zarmeeno

Saalekh but discussion can be of any sort, there cant always be people praising. That is not called discussion. Every person has their own POV and every person has the right to disagree with the other person that is called the healthy discussion. Every person has their own views about the show. I do agree that I c lot of similar topics being opened up and i do agree that becomes frustrating but as far as comparing and disagreeing with other person I have no problems with that . People do comparisons when they get to c their fav character just doing one thing and not getting enuf screen space for almost a year people will get frustrate. We are the audiences and we have a right to express ourselves and people are just expressing themselves with what ever and where ever they can. There should be no harm in that. I agree that people should be respectful though and not start fighting. You also have ur fav character in the serial and i also have mine. U get to c urs and I dont get to c mine. So there is no reason for you to get frustrated but I do have a reason to be frustrated. But you have ur right to disagree with me and I have mine.

Thanks for your comment hun.😊

See that's the things people can't do. If all the people could reply the way you did just right now, nobody would've problem with anybody in this forum. In your post, you disagreed with me but the way you put your thoughts and explained is the way people should disagree too. But you will see numerous posts where people will disagree with you and sometimes ending up insulting you. That is where it becomes a problem. Otherwise, diagreements and critisism are welcome completely!

Healthy discussion to me looks like -- Respecting other people's point of view, Disagreements that has no rudeness in it or saracasm in it that might hurt others, explaining own's thoughts in a positive way that will not be considered "bashing". But many people just tend to fail to do that!

Yes probably something really injustice is happening to your fav character & not to other's fav character. But is that the other's fav character's fault that injustice is happening to your fav character? Then why bash that character? Why not raising your marks in report card instead of planning to how to make others fail in report card? People should give suggestions how to give justice to that character but they should not do that by putting down other character! That is what I am trying to say. What do people really get by bashing somebody?

Will be waiting for your reply😊

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This post was extremely needed..Seeing all this chaos i totally agree w.u Sadia 😛

I totally agree with you Saalekh. I too am very sad that this forum can't bring itself back together and because of it.......many can not have healthy discussions. Forums are about having different and similar POV, its about discussing them, sharing them and understanding others POV. Forums are not about bashing, comparing or insulting others POV. I will also say that there are still many members in this forum that are very sensible and discuss topics very peacefully, but it only takes one single comment to ruin a whole topic completely. So, why be the cause for everyones punishment. So please do stop. We should all be adults here and RESPECT everyones POVs and allow everyone to speak openly without fear. And whether you are a Ragini fan or Sadhna fan we should all stand up for each other when others make instigating comments. Don't let it get become a battle field, calm it instead regardless of your views politely. We all have different opinions and that is the beauty of it.........that is what makes this forum interesting...........if we all thought the same..........then there would not be any need to discuss.............but lets not give any room to hate, harsh words, bashing, insulting, sarcasm, instigating, and fighting.........Please be a part of RE-CREATING this forum back to its old self...........Thank you.........

Its ok to like one jodi over the other..........but don't be blind fans either....when a flaw is pointed out in your character........just don't disagree with it because they are your fav.............if you go against your favorite characters it doesn't make you any less of a loyal fan. Its called character analysis, we understand them discuss them and give our POV thats it.........you are correct......we all need to learn how to disagree as well as knowing were to agree

Sadia, kudos to you for moderating this forum, which sure is a very tough challenge.

One of the main reasons this forum can't keep up with a healthy discussion is, because the fanbase of a jodi, be it SaAalekh or RagVir can't really look at the character's objectively. If they are a Sadhana fan or Ragini fan, they will stick by her, even though anyone of them makes a wrong decision in the show. They get very protective and defensive, and start picking on the parallel lead to prove their point. Ragini fans to defend Ragini often come up with the line, "Sadhana just wants to be mahan.....", and Sadhana fans come with the line, "Ragini is just an average character and hence no expectations from her...and Bidaai is the only the story of Sadhana..". Ragini's fanbase are upset with Sadhana because Ragini is not getting any footage, and Sadhana's fanbase are rejoicing and also commenting that Sadhana should get all the footage, because apparently she is the lead.

It is just strange that both of this observation are so at fault. Anyone who has watched Bidaai from beginning knows very well, the tales of Sadhana's sacrifice and her unconditional love to her family, the humiliation Ragini has faced through her looks and how she rose up from it, and how Bidaai is about two sisters in two different situations.

Like Taral, I just want to request to all members to not look at characters subjectively but point out both the wrong and right. No one is perfect, neither Sadhana nor Ragini. I completely agree that each one of us would have their own POV and this forum should be a place to discuss. Mind you, discussion means having open minds and listening to what the other person has to say, and make better arguments to prove your point. But name calling, bashing, irrational comments are no way to go. It just proves that you don't have a valid point but want to win the argument by hook or crook.

I watched Sara and Parul's sbs video, and they were talking so lightly about the whole scenario, and laughing about it. Why can't we do the same here?? Have we become so blind in our love for the tv-actresses that we have forgotten the objectivity of the story? Why are we fighting for the rights of Ragini or Sadhana, when at the end they are just characters of a show???

Valentine's day is coming up..why don't all the RagVir and SaAalkeh fans to something together...perhaps RagVir fans can make a beautiful siggy for SaAalekh fans and vice versa....any other ideas...lets spread some love...