Why did DJ approve a match w/the Maheshwaris? - Page 2

i agree with charu di on her each and every post///

I agree that the Maheshwaris should have been more careful while selecting the rishta. Rajshri was so desperate to get her daughter married off that she in her happiness, didnt ask Akshara if she was OK with the rishta. I remember Aksh asking Varsha why nobody took her opinion. So yeah, Maheshwaris should have been more careful but they are not regreting their decision either. If anybody is having or rather had two thoughts about the rishta it was Naitik and his family.

I have seen that the boy's side always think they are a superior lot. I dont know why they have this age old mentality but yes, this mentality still exists. They think whatever they do is right and whatever the bahu does (if it is not according to their wishes) is wrong. Here more than what Aksh did, I feel she is being punished for having an opinion of her own. If anybody can teach Dj and the other dinos any lesson, it is Naitik and for Naitik to do that, Aksh should knock some sense into him. Before Aksh does the needful, the CVs need a whack for showing such a weak portrayal of a woman 😡

Originally posted by: _charu_

therez a lot of difference in the two choices ! the choices were very clear cut..IF he thinks that Naitik or his family are not suitable for akshara OR Akshara cannot adjust here anymore bec. of her differences with her husband then go ahead and take this step that i'm giving one chance to ur son, if he wants my daughter back he should come and talk to her, otherwise go to hell everybody ! and IF Vishambhar had this in his mind ke problems should be sorted out and Akshara must go back to her sasural respectfully , at the end of the day she has to spend her entire life with these people , THEN he was wrong to put any condition for akshara's return...either let go, put the end to the marriage and if akshara cannot, if she knows ke she has to return here only, it's her sasural then Akshara must come back on her own AFTER talking to Naitik...bec. she's the only one who can clear the misunderstandings , at least with naitik......explain me one thing yaar...today akshara has a problem with naitik, she's in her maayka , okay they will talk and differences will be resolved..tomorrow if therez any problem b/w akshara and her in laws , what can vishambhar do? will he come and sort it out for her? akshara's in laws r still upset with her...toh she must not come back na till the time problems r sorted out b/w Naitik and Akshara and Akshara and her in laws right?

nyways i believe tht such a step is taken only when u have it in ur mind ke everything is finished and this is only the last chance....so be it ! it's good for Naitik and BAD for Akshara..

Charu sometimes the boy's family has to be told in a stern manner that they got a DIL and not a Bandini..... she has a other family too...believe me it works...have seen it in reality.....Akshara or for that matter any girl would be respected more once she returns ....

But Vishambhar could have said. Lets get the kids together and let them talk it out and then Naitik can bring Akshara home. I think its the tone rather than the content that is rubbing everyone the wrong way.

Originally posted by: sks7

<br><br>Charu sometimes the boy's family has to be told in a stern manner that they got a DIL and not a Bandini..... she has a other family too...believe me it works...have seen it in reality.....Akshara or for that matter any girl would be respected more once she returns ....<br>

I agree with sks7

Akshara was the pampered girl of her house so she never learnt the harsh realities of life. This marriage to some extent is teaching that to her. If Akshara could handle this problem at home then she would have. I believe that a woman should never let her in-laws or her own parents enter into disputes of her married life. but once the parents are in , it gets ugly

Akshara if she returns back home , then there will be no respect for her. The only way as Vish rightfully said is to talk it out , i.e. Naitik and Akshara.

What they can do is bring them both on a same turf and make them work out their problems.

Vish put the conditions rightfully, look at how dadaji was saying, just cause my son asked her leave she left? ( amm yes Akshara was stupid enough to leave, If she would have talked it out in their house it would have been better. Its her house, she is the bahu, she can really whip their @$$ if she wants) He basically wanted to be on the upper hand that, I am the guys side, She can come back cause we are allowing it, we are mahaan. 🤢

He expected Vish to say I am sorry dadaji , please show me your shoes let me shine it for you and wipe your slimy nose off with my hands.
but rather Vish was like, I am as RICH as you are, We are Well to do families as well and My daughter is as pampered as your son is but if you throw her out of the house I am not going to take it lying down. ⭐️

Remember Nani, she said to Naitik you are soo lucky to get married into maheshwari khandann OOHH I LOVE HER. She is the Woman for Singhanias. I wish she goes and lives with them for a week and whips BM and G3's you know whats.

Originally posted by: mitushib

But Vishambhar could have said. Lets get the kids together and let them talk it out and then Naitik can bring Akshara home. I think its the tone rather than the content that is rubbing everyone the wrong way.

I applaud Vishambhar for his stance but in a scoiety which remembers who did not say Namaste to some1 during the marriage and the girl is reminded of it even after he has had a kid or to Vishambhars stand may backfire.

On paper it looks noble in real life not so much

that's what i'm trying to say...in Singhania household, they obey elders and that's a form of showing respect..that Daddaji's decision carries a lot of weightage ! therez nothing wrong in it..and Vish should have respected his decision and thought of some way like let both the families and naitik and akshara meet and sort out the problems..and he should have also said that akshara is your daughter, she's waiting to come back to her sasural but as an elder, you must make sure that she's given the same respect which other bahus and beti's of ur house command..... Daddaji crossed his limits by not giving privacy to Naitik & akshara and let them handle their problem..it's not something very difficult to understand ke the family must not come into picture incase of any feud which is only b/w husband and wife...Akshara involved her parents by going to her maayka, she'll also face the consequences and naitik also will learn that marriage is not a child's play and he cannot dictate the conditions everytime...

i said this earlier also what u said dear ke if he thought that both of them should meet and sort out the differences then he should have also thought of some way of making it possible , like he should have asked them to call Naitik and directly talk to him or arrange a meeting bec. none of them will take the initiative..how will the dialogue start? in a way Vishambhar meant tht Naitik must first shed his ego , come to akshara and ask for forgiveness which is very difficult for any person...and even if he does that, his family won't be happy now...somewhere i feel ke Akshara will come back on her own now....yes naitik will insist but not come down on his knees..he must not...and then who will tie the loose ends of the story? what about naitik's family? what will they take now to forgive akshara? 🤢

Anjali, i forgot to add one point..Rajshri lied to them about Akshara's cooking..and Varsha lied abt her liking for movies...

Originally posted by: sks7

<br><br>Charu sometimes the boy's family has to be told in a stern manner that they got a DIL and not a Bandini..... she has a other family too...believe me it works...have seen it in reality.....Akshara or for that matter any girl would be respected more once she returns ....<br>

Sonu i don't think that's the solution here but it's a serial so they can change anybody anytime ! may be it works in reality..i think if the in laws are good then they themselves understand..rishte gunpoint par nahi bante....you cannot force anybody to like you....as i said, respect is earned, it's not gifted...it's not the question of superior or inferior here....everyone is equal..and trust me, in laws ki izzat and parents ki izzat is in the girl's hand only..it all depends on how she balances everything...in laws ke aage parents ki izzat kaise banani hai and vice versa, the girl must learn otherwise she'll be always thinking main kar kuch rahi hoon, ho kuch aur raha hai !

Originally posted by: Nishitah512

I agree that the Maheshwaris should have been more careful while selecting the rishta. Rajshri was so desperate to get her daughter married off that she in her happiness, didnt ask Akshara if she was OK with the rishta. I remember Aksh asking Varsha why nobody took her opinion. So yeah, Maheshwaris should have been more careful but they are not regreting their decision either. If anybody is having or rather had two thoughts about the rishta it was Naitik and his family.

I have seen that the boy's side always think they are a superior lot. I dont know why they have this age old mentality but yes, this mentality still exists. They think whatever they do is right and whatever the bahu does (if it is not according to their wishes) is wrong. Here more than what Aksh did, I feel she is being punished for having an opinion of her own. If anybody can teach Dj and the other dinos any lesson, it is Naitik and for Naitik to do that, Aksh should knock some sense into him. Before Aksh does the needful, the CVs need a whack for showing such a weak portrayal of a woman 😡

it's not bad to have an opinion of ur own but god sake, think abt the pros and cons also of expressing it..just chk if others need ur opinion and then give it...one does feel strongly abt decisions of his/her life but not for others..i dun understand whats wrong in being diplomatic?