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Why has no-one in any desi drama ever addressed the fact that when a girl has to marry someone she has to sleep with them? If there is no attraction, do they still expect that women will sleep with the guy and "grow to love them?" Haven't we grown out of this mindless concept yet? What is more, what if the girl is attracted to someone else when she is forced to marry another guy?
Rajeev Bhala was a troll; if he didn't put you off then think about his hairy armpits when he was trapped in the bathroom, or his yellow teeth, or his dreadful dancing. Does that do it for you now? However, Manju was overjoyed when the rishta came. Her daughter, chubby as she might be, is actually quite an attactive woman despite looking frumpy and yet she wanted her daughter to marry that troll just to please others?
It's very sad that we still have not grasped this issue in society nor are writers willing to address this ever in a show (or movie for that matter) when they set up all these arranged marriages. Here we have Simi willing to marry (and sleep) with RB, and now she's willing to do it with Nukul, who, by the way, I do not consider as attractive either. Any guy with white socks taking orders from his dadi is a dweeb (dull, boring and mindless).
Rajeev Bhala was a troll; if he didn't put you off then think about his hairy armpits when he was trapped in the bathroom, or his yellow teeth, or his dreadful dancing. Does that do it for you now? However, Manju was overjoyed when the rishta came. Her daughter, chubby as she might be, is actually quite an attactive woman despite looking frumpy and yet she wanted her daughter to marry that troll just to please others?
Simi was also ready to marry this guy and spend the rest of her life with him to please her family. Sorry, but in my book you are really "selling yourself" for your family to help fix their problems when you make this type of decision. Now Simi is ready to do it again, but this time with Nukul, and knowing full well she's in love with someone else. Isn't that unfair to the guy whom you are supposed to be marrying (Nukul)? I mean I would loathe being married to someone knowing they were in love with someone else and only did to please their family. Then Nukul being so old-fashioned, what would he care?
I am astounded that in Indian society, when parents arrange marriages, they never realize that their children are supposed to spend the rest of their lives with the other person. I have actually counseled Indo-Pak women who are divorced (for various reasons) who revealed they were not in love with their husbands or ever were. Sleeping with them (their husbands) at night was something they did, but never enjoyed. Several have admitted that they were so upset with the way their husband looked on their wedding night, they cried. I know of cases where women were raped on their wedding night because they were so upset with how their husband looked they could not bring themselves to be intimate with them.
It's very sad that we still have not grasped this issue in society nor are writers willing to address this ever in a show (or movie for that matter) when they set up all these arranged marriages. Here we have Simi willing to marry (and sleep) with RB, and now she's willing to do it with Nukul, who, by the way, I do not consider as attractive either. Any guy with white socks taking orders from his dadi is a dweeb (dull, boring and mindless).
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