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I dont see this action of selling jewellery and giving money to a brother who wants to voluntarily move out simply because he shoudn't accept money from his in laws as something noble , heroic , or sacrificing at all . . In fact , I find it rather CONTROLLING .
The brother has a complete right to make his own decisions in life . If he wants to buy a flat for investment purposes it is HIs decision . If he wants to move there , that too is ultimately his decision as he is grown up . How he manages the finances for his flat is also his decision only . If he decides that he will take a loan and borrow the rest from his in laws , or his father , or pour his entire savings in it , that is entirely HIS LOOK OUT . If his father his too poor to advance him the money and he decides to take a loan from his in laws , its his decision and his burden . Why should his sisters sell their jewellery and take out their savings to give it to him?
. Each unit in the family is an individual by itself . The sisters need the jewels , their personal savings for their Life . Everytime the brother makes a decision will the sisters sell more and more assets ? THis is endless and stupid and thoroughly impractical . We r seeing a suburban middle class life in PR . Such decisions r NOT taken lightly there . . If the brother has rich in laws who have crores of rupees and the father is just a retired pensioner , from where will he compete with that kind of wealth each time ? Maybe the in laws will help their son in law to book a larger flat worth lakhs of rupees . FRom where will the father give that kind of money to his son ? All his life he tried to imbibe values in his son , now his role is over . Now it is upto the son to make a decision ..........and if he decides to branch out with his blood family , so be it . How he manages his finances etc , is entirely his personal look out , so long as he does his duties from afar , like providing food and medical facilities for his aged parents and visiting them now and then to ensure their safety , he is a PERFECTLY RESPONSIBLE SON ! '
So this time the sisters sold jewellery and competed with the inlaws to keep their brother's so called honour INTACT . Next time if he makes a similiar decision..........for instance , starting his own business and needing capital for it , what will the sisters do if they have nothing left ............sell themselves ? .
This concept itself is WRONG . What the sisters can at the most do is give their private opinion to their bro in a conversation ...........they r indeed entitled to that as they r blood siblings . Like .........Dada , you r taking a loan from your inlaws , and ur perfectly entitled to making ur own decisions but I hope u have thought about the repurcusssions of that decision ? U may lose your decision making power and self respect if they decide to act uppity at a later stage and throw it in ur face all the time . R u ok with that if it happens ? Decision is urs , just thought of warning u . .
Or .........if the brother personally asks a working sister to help him monetarily in his hour of need , thinking it over and advancing an amount within your budget . . Selling jewells and telling him to stop etc is controlling in the extreme . Archana needs to get a life of her own and actually the best person to tell her this wud be sulochana . She shud tell her ideally ..........What nonsense , you keep jewellery for ur own studies , do not stop till u get a degree and stand on ur own feet . Let him do whatever he wants he is grown up and has his own life . You looked after punni , now ur selling jewels what nonsense ! Neither r u his ayah nor is this the purpose of YOUR LIFE . Let them look after their own child and make their own decisions ! . Of course , this track is made especially keeping middle class emotions and mentality in mind , but I wanted to point out here that middle class people r thorougjhly practical too .
Shiv Shakti
