If you luv- Divorce'/widow/widower will u - Page 2

Originally posted by: ~PaKi*PrInCeZ~

👏 WOW sowmya very very very well said and i agree....aparna di was trying 2 connect this 2 the virginity topic and it cant b compares cuz this person may not b a virgin but they were married 2 the other person and its ok in tht matter cuz it shows tht they were dedicated and loyal...

sowmya di (can i call u di?) is rite as usual....y r u such an articulate person? u make others look bad😳

Sorry for the deviation in this topic . But Soumya and Jav , most people in India who loose their virginity pre - marriage feel commited ,dedicated and loyal to that person during that one point of time in that relationship untill things go bad. So they aren't just loose charactered people wh*res and Gig*los . Its wrong and hurtfull to them to undermine their relationship especially if one never had an affair .!! So the break up feels often same as a divorce without the ring on the finger and the Courtroom drama!! 😔

Originally posted by: Aparna_BD

Sorry for the deviation in this topic . But Soumya and Jav , <span>most</span>
people in India who loose their virginity pre - marriage feel commited
,dedicated and loyal to that person during that one point of time in
that relationship untill things go bad. So they aren't just loose charactered people wh*res
and Gig*los . Its wrong and hurtfull to them to undermine their relationship especially if
one never had an affair .!! So
the break up feels often same as a divorce without the ring on the
finger and the Courtroom drama!! 😔

Aparna, I never tried to look down upon people who loose their virginity before marriage. As I also said to Jav that there are no right and wrong and everyone has their individual perspective. My thinking and belief does not make someone else characterless. They are definetly not wh*res. Also, when you said Its wrong to undermine their relashionshiop especially if one never had an affair!! All I would say is, if someone does not discuss their affair on public form does not mean they were not in any relashionship before. To me breakup before marriage is not same as divorce. It could hurt you a lot but for me it's still different. And yes, to me ring on finger or mangalsutra is very important. Yes, you did have experience but your experience is totally different. You did end up with the same person. So you are together. Again, I agree that one can be as much committed, dedicated and loyal to the person when they are in relashionship eventhough not married. And again, I don't want to call people loosing their virginity before marriage as wh*res. This is like putting words in someone's mouth. I never said that in my post anywhere and nor have I expressed that it's not good thing to do. It's just different view of different people.

Originally posted by: sowmyaa

Again, I agree that one can be as much committed, dedicated and loyal to the person when they are in relashionship eventhough not married. And again, I don't want to call people loosing their virginity before marriage as wh*res. This is like putting words in someone's mouth. I never said that in my post anywhere and nor have I expressed that it's not good thing to do. It's just different view of different people.

Soumya i didn't say you said that , i felt that there was this "implied" thing in your post . Sorry if i tried to read between the lines in your statement .

I just feel that its fine to have a view point(which you and i do) but unfair to pass judgement( which you didn't) as every one's experiences aren't the same. 😊 Right .😛

Sowmyaa, I agree with Jav (didnt know you had the short version Javeria 😆 ), I really enjoy reading your views. Of course the others you mentioned are great as well, me too 😆 is fantastic 😆 just kidding.

But my ideas on this debate

When you fall in love with this previously married person whoever they might be you have already fallen in love with them despite the other people in their life so they shouldnt stand in the way.

Insecurities will arise for many people, there are many times in life when you wonder. Not everyone is strong and often when things go wrong we blame everything around it, not the real culprit. Not that this will end the relationship but they make things confusing. Sometimes they are small and other times not.

Now divorce and death are very different, hard to avoid death aint it. So I view these as two seperate issues altogether. But if we still combine these two they are seperate from premartial sex. Just as the name suggests it is premarital.

It might sound like you are asking for a certificate to express your desires? Yeah you are

and

Why?
Just to give you that cushion. If you fall you have a backup, your children have a backup, financially, emotionally and legally.

If one is secure enough in their relationships and by themselves that they dont want the back up then most certainly yes. But one must be prepared for everything. Falling in love is important and wonderful, but dont forget to love yourself too.