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Based on your logic anarchy is the solution to everything. Every human has a moral core. Why create laws about murder, rape, theft etc. Do not force humans into action, let them be free to act off their own moral accord.
Its ironic, usually I am one against the conventional concept of marriage because I do believe in modern times it has been reduced to nothing but a lousy legal contract and has nothing to do with love. However, ideally marriage ought to be about love and commitment between two people. I do not think a legal document or a ceremony can make a marriage until that love and commitment exists. For me when two people decide that they want to spend the rest of their life with each other, and make that commitment to each other thats a marriage. Whether they want to celebrate it in a ritual with friends and loved ones, secure it legally or just live together in the way they choose appropriate - it is absolutely their choice.
If we take marriage in its honest sense that I take it to be, the law can never be above love. A lifelong commitment will always be a marriage irrespective of whether its legally or ceremoniously bound. And if people do not care for love or commitment and simply sign a legal document - its a contract not a marriage.
Nothing is permanent or predictable in this world. Nothing comes with a stamp of guarantee. Not marriage, not love. No astrologer or any science or any human can predict the course of marriage, love or any human relationship as a matter of fact. People have to put an effort into their relationships and make them work.
Now every person has their own personal preferences and tastes in relationships. If you prefer open relationships or casual relationships, thats one's choice and you can find someone who is ok with that.
Of course genuine love cannot be a bound obligation, it involves, freedom, trust and respect towards each other. But there is huge difference between possessive, protective behavior and overbearing obsessive behavior. Why would someone be with you if you do not care if they are with you or not? A reasonable respectable amount of possessiveness reassures the person that you need them in their lives, that you care for them and want to be with them, it expresses a bit of vulnerability to losing them. Similarly a reasonable respectable amount of protectiveness shows that you care to protect them from harm and take the risks to do so. Nothing wrong with that unless you get too intrusive, restrictive and obsessive.
Its ironic, usually I am one against the conventional concept of marriage because I do believe in modern times it has been reduced to nothing but a lousy legal contract and has nothing to do with love. However, ideally marriage ought to be about love and commitment between two people. I do not think a legal document or a ceremony can make a marriage until that love and commitment exists. For me when two people decide that they want to spend the rest of their life with each other, and make that commitment to each other thats a marriage. Whether they want to celebrate it in a ritual with friends and loved ones, secure it legally or just live together in the way they choose appropriate - it is absolutely their choice.
If we take marriage in its honest sense that I take it to be, the law can never be above love. A lifelong commitment will always be a marriage irrespective of whether its legally or ceremoniously bound. And if people do not care for love or commitment and simply sign a legal document - its a contract not a marriage.
Nothing is permanent or predictable in this world. Nothing comes with a stamp of guarantee. Not marriage, not love. No astrologer or any science or any human can predict the course of marriage, love or any human relationship as a matter of fact. People have to put an effort into their relationships and make them work.
Now every person has their own personal preferences and tastes in relationships. If you prefer open relationships or casual relationships, thats one's choice and you can find someone who is ok with that.
Of course genuine love cannot be a bound obligation, it involves, freedom, trust and respect towards each other. But there is huge difference between possessive, protective behavior and overbearing obsessive behavior. Why would someone be with you if you do not care if they are with you or not? A reasonable respectable amount of possessiveness reassures the person that you need them in their lives, that you care for them and want to be with them, it expresses a bit of vulnerability to losing them. Similarly a reasonable respectable amount of protectiveness shows that you care to protect them from harm and take the risks to do so. Nothing wrong with that unless you get too intrusive, restrictive and obsessive.
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