Originally posted by: ahem_brahmasmi
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I never felt that she is larger than life and didn't say that too. I also didn't say she is way better than Vrinda or Pooja or anyone. Focus ki wajah se great or better nahin hoti, but we would surely like persons who are focused more than two-timers and indecisive persons na? None of the contestants are great or better than others, they are normal human beings like us. Its just that others make them greater or worse on such reality shows.
You mean that limited frame of 5 persons is enough to judge whether a person is focused in the larger picture of life... The most focused person might not choose wither of the 5.....and I dont think its a sufficient criterion to make judgments abt how fucused/de-focused other contestants are.
According to you, if a person hasn't made up his mind given just 5 choices for a big decision called life partner..he/she is defocused relatively😕????
However the reason priyanka is so focused.....might simply also be due to the fact that she doesn't have a better choice in the larger frame of life :-),whats so good abt it ?
Anyways, finding a guy is not so bad, good for her-but doesn't make her a real-life heroine for sure...😛
Yaar, if you look carefully, here credits were not being given of being sati-savitri-pana to Priyanka, but rather, its just that many of the viewers have been linking her up with Yash unnecessarily just because they are friends that had led this point to be made. In the post here, it just intended to state that its not what it appears on television and that crying in front of a guy who is a friend, does not make the guy and girl lovers. I also feel that people should stop linking Priyanka with Yash unnecessarily and bringing them up. Let them decide who are the best for them and let's just leave them alone rather than raising accusations. 😊
I am done with Priyanka - Yash discussions...its kinda pointless..😊
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Rajbir's father may or may not be there to get publicity, but the way he rudely tried to divert his son,what exactly was rude..his behavior, his vibes, his words...what? made audience feel that he was being a bit arbitrary against Priyanka and so audience felt that he is here to get publicity by being a dominating father. sure channel called him,he didnt start public relations on his own.......... and when he met his son,he advised what he felt was good thing for his son....could you explain from where publicity got into picture in this?
Surely Rajbir's father wants to see prospective matches, but he should first try to see whether the girl his son selected is atleast good for him or not na?he didn't refuse to see Priyanka....asking his son to see his choice too doesnt mean he outrightly refused to see Priyanka......and how much time would the channel have permitted him that he could first see PRiyanka...and then think..and then come back...then talk to Raj...then see other girls...
he agreed to see Raj's choice and also urged him to see other girls too...How rude , wrong , unfair or bad t is for a father to agree to see his son's choice, but at the same time ask him to see other good girls too?
He didn't ask the son to jump into an affair but he were taking names of girls who were actually hot favourites among the moms or who have already proclaimed their liking for a guy on the show. I won't say it is insensible but a bit insensitive in the sense that it hurt Priyanka and Rajbir both.
I think when its the question of their son's life...this'bit insensitive' shouldn't hurt too much......he is not asking him to jump into affairs with anyone......just see some girls.......which could be good for his son in the long run considering
Take for instance supposing you like a person and you parents without even talking to the person you like, totally rule out the person(when did he totally rule out his son's choice?)and try to say that you should go and talk to others and openly show a dislike to the person you like, won't you feel bad? Its quite natural that in this case, just like Priyanka felt bad, Rajbir also felt bad that his dad was showing open disinterest to Priyanka even before talking to her and knowing her. I rather felt bad for Rajbir, who was so very excited to make Priyanka and his dad meet and talk. But the way he reacted to Priyanka just put off the sweetness of the whole meeting.
Sweetness again......! What about the concern of a parent who is seeing his son absolutely jumping into an affair...making commitments....before even knowing someone properly??
Surely, when it comes to marriage there are a lot of other factors, but just by looking at the girl beforehand itself, how can the parents decide whether the girl is good for their son or not..without even interacting with her?
Here the problem is not about suggesting something, but when Rajbir likes Priyanka so much, the father should atleast first talk to her and see if she is suited for him or not... before making suggestions like going and talking to other girls.
Same thing again.....he NEVER refused to see or consider Priyanka....just asked Raj to not JUMP!
Before even talking to her, how can the father decide whether she is good or not? Surely the parents can make suggestion, if after interacting with the girl, they feel that she is not the best for their son, after that also suggestions can be made na?
His dad's common sense said- whether Priyanka is good or bad...people should take time to make serious decisions of life..and weigh their options well..does a father need to meet Priyaka to know this simple common sense theory...and I am tired of repeating..he DID NOT reject PRiyanka..just asked his son to move slowly....and know his options well...!If Priyanka still stays his son's choice he said he would be fine!!!!
But when the son introduces the girl he likes most to the father and the father without even taking the girl his son introduced seriously or speaking to her, immediately mentions names of other girls, isn't it even more a quicker step than what Rajbir took by choosing Priyanka. Agar sabhi ladkiyon pe focus lagaayenge tho kisi ko bhi achchi tarah se jaan nahin paayenge. Atleast ek ladki ko tho jaan paayenge thik se. 😛
Rajbir hasn't known Priyanka for long, but feels a compatibility with her and that's why he wants to talk to her more times to get to know her better. Rajbir's mother doesn't seem to dislike Priyanka or thought of diverting her son until Rajbir's father started expressing his disinterest. So we cannot say both parents have seen them in both ways.
Rajbir's mom is the one who spent time with Priyanka. If Rajbir's mom had felt that Priyanka is not good for him, then she would've somehow showed dislike to Priyanka or tried to divert Rajbir from her. Rajbir is not a college boy to be infatuated. He is of the marriageable age, let's see him as something more than a teenager, yaar.😆 He likes her and you cannot totally say its infatuation or love at this point.
Surely if I have a son and if i find that my son is interested in a girl, i would talk to her first, try to know and see her as a daughter and not make an preconceived notions about her and rule her out,again rule ou..who ruled her out completely...they are just asking him to weigh all options well and think ahrd before jumping into anything!! just because he likes her. I won't say that my son of a marriageable age is getting infatuated if he likes a girl. If he likes one of the ten girls, there has got to be a reason for his liking her. Perhaps they share good friendship and as a parent i have to be understanding to him and her and respect their feelings too. My son is the one to live his life with his partner and he surely knows what is the best for him and with whom he share a comfort level in a relationship. If I feel that the girl whom my son has selected is not good for him due to some reasons, I will discuss it with him and state the reasons why I feel she is not suited for him.
None of the members in the show have made any lifelong commitments, but just expressed their interests and selected girls or guys they like most. If you call Rajbir's decision-making as supersonic, do you want to say other members are slow and relaxed and took time to select their respective partners?
In the past few weeks they too have selected girls from among the ten girls and all came into the show at the same point of time. Rajbir is not different from them. Everyone has selected a partner.. so why should we call Rajbir's decision alone as hasty? If Rajbir's decision is hasty, then what about Gaurav's decision of saying that Rumpa is the right girl for her and his decision to marry her, after elimination? Isn't Gaurav even more hasty in decision-making than Rajbir, when Gaurav's being interested in Rumpa is not even as long as Priyanka-Rajbir's acquaintance? But his mom is giving him the freedom to make decisions and was not making attempts to divert him to other girls.
Gaurav has thought of pros and cons and not just jumped into relation...he still maintains he wants to know Rumpa well!!
None of the fathers are trying to divert their sons, but giving them time to be with their respective chosen girls. Yes surely, some of the moms are trying to do that, but I haven't seen any other dads trying to divert them. Take for eg: Yash's dad, he came and talked to Yash and he seems to not intefere much with his son's choice.
We cannot totally call Rajbir and Priyanka's relation as romance,what else?? but the way they speak may appear romantic as both of them seem shy and their eyes speak more. Surely they did like each other and it has not yet reached the point of love. Let them decide for themselves if this likeness should move to love or not, right na?😳
Yes, but would it be wrong if he also considers his family wishes before making marriage commitments and come-on, it doesn't really appear that he has made even one practical move...he got attracted to a girl...hasnt known her much..but is getting into romance romance kind of thing with her(heading towards marriage)......normal parents will get disturbed.....what would they do, if the guy without knowing the girl properly declares he wants to marry her etc etc....they havent closed themselves to his choice..but asking him to not be reckless, too is their prerogative...and they have said nothing more than asking him to not get into anything recklessly
If you are asking, if anyone ask her, the host did ask her, if she is satisfied with the decision of eliminating Gaurav that she has written down. Watch the video again please and you will see that the question was put to her and her opinion was asked.
She should've been diplomatic in her reply, and just stated she was satisfied with the decision. But Priyanka is not as diplomatic as other girls. She cannot do anything about frank nature na? We all have our pros and cons, so does she. Lets accept her as she is.😊
Yaar, reality show is all about in front of public and the girls made fun of her being perfect bride in front of camera too, which made her go and cry and nobody criticised that. In reality show, none of the controversial parts are censored. I feel Priyanka can voice out her opinions just like the mother in laws can. Yash's mom insulted Gurpreet openly on television by saying that she always saying she is hungry in the morning and all and so she is not sanskaari and suitable for her son. Priyanka hi nahin sabhi ko allowed hai ki woh apne opinions bole.
We have seen Hitesh gossipping many times with other guys and other guys gossipping, hum sirf gossip ko hi accept karte hai. So perhaps it would've been accepted if Priyanka has said it on camera to other girls that Hitesh's mom is doing politics, like other girls are doing amongst themselves na?😛 Her fault is that she said it out loudly on stage, if she had gossipped behind their backs and the audience saw it, it would'n't have been such a big issue at all. What you said is true. Now-a-days, people prefer gossipping behind the backs to directly stating one's mind in front of others openly onscreen.😆
Priyanka is NOT straightforward....when confronted she said she got into others talks and said stuff abt Hitesh mom....if had she been really straightforward, shge'd have had a direct talk with Hitesh mom, if she felt Hitesh mom was doing politics......straight forward people do direct talking ....instead she just started blabbering about a lady , on stage......
Please check the video.......she blabbered all this even before eliminating Gaurav..and that time no one was asking her anything, when she suddenly started throwing blames out of nowhere..what was the need to insult someone in public..I still dont understand!
If she eliminated Gaurav, she had her reasons and let's just accept her decision and not delve deep into what she said to Rumpa or not onscreen. Atleast due to this elimination ,Rumpa declared her love in words for Gaurav and Gaurav came to realise her sincerity to him and atleast ek jodi tho affirmed ho hi gayi haina? Ye tho achchi baat hi hui haina? Its better than Gaurav being in the show and getting indecisive between Nandita and Rumpa.😆 (WOW so Priyanka gets the credit of Rumpa Gaurav union.........while she wasnt even sensitive about Rumpa............is it not like too arbit.?.something like we are hell bent on giving fake credits and brownie points to Miss Priyanka for things she hasnt done..she didnt imagine would happen..... ...aarghhh!!)
Yaar, I was just saying there are parents who are manipulative in advance and who want their sons to be with some specific girls beforehand and direct them to go and speak to some particular girls. They work in that angle and fix them up with such girls. If parents have such intentions, they should suggest it before hand and not let their sons find the girl for themselves. I feel Rajbir's dad is like that and want him to be with some particular girls, so he should've suggested beforehand so that he would've worked in that direction and not gone and talked to Priyanka and all.😆
And what is parents interest in being so manipulative......? Yes they do have intentions that the girl who enters their family should be everyone in the family's choice..should be good..and nice on practical parameters..and how wrong is that intention...? with the same intent, that kids dont get hurt- Rajbeer's father asked him to pull off from the relation thats called mushy mushy love...doesnt mean he ruled out Priyanka as a prospect completely!
But now its too late, because tioRajbir already talked to Priyanka and like her, tho suggestion in this respect is a bit too late na? Because Rajbir now wants to focus on Priyanka and not very interested in Pooja and all. It is not wise to suggest to approach Pooja at this point, in the sense that, Pooja now is quite interested in Hitesh and they are onscreen a pair and if as his dad suggested Rajbir goes to Pooja, then Pooja will still stick to Hitesh and Priyanka will feel insecure. Then Priyanka will inturn being the bride of the week may eliminate Rajbir. Finally the net result would be his elimination. Every contestant is making their moves carefully, so Rajbir should not act foolishly at this stage. Outside this show, things are different, but we are watching a reality show and the game has its rules too. Yahan pe ek wrong move and you will be out of the show.😆
Yaar, its surely a big deal, because in a reality show like Perfect Bride, there are eliminations too. Every contestant has to make their move. Why did the guys opt girls, even if the girls are not their first preferences? Its because if they have their respective partners, they may not be easily eliminated. The single ones or two-timers have more chances to be eliminated. We should think about this show from that perspective too. If Rajbir goes after other girls after showing his interest openly to Priyanka, then there are more chances of his getting eliminated and people will see him as a two-timer. That was one of the reasons why Gaurav got eliminated, because he behaved in an insecure way. He became totally secure about his choice after the elimination only.
So its better that we see this not just as a matrimonial programme but as a dating reality show, where moves are important to remain in the show.😳
I think being eliminated is better than being stuck with someone for life when you decide to marry without even knowing someone properly..........
and I also feel that the way Rajdeep's parents conveyed their preferences...WITHOUT ruling out his preference too...is quite justified.....there is nothing wrong in saying that people should step slowly in an affair as feelings can get hurt....they have not ruled out his choice completely.....they are only being practical..and havent offended anyone....you can't accept them to be completely numb when its the matter of their son's and their life too....whats wrong in having weighing your options before making the final choice...
(and just 2-3 meetings with Priyanka....might seem sweet.....but with a larger perspective..and better experience , its kind of obvious that they cannot be the criteria to make lifelong commitments....marraige is not a bed of roses..and a careful choice can make all the difference....
his parents are just asking him to be more careful..and rather slow.....doesn't put them at wrong place.....plus Priyanka is still not his wife...neither a lover still..his parents have tried to take a timely step, and tried to make it as soon as they got the opportunity...before anyone got too serious...)
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