Daycares- yes or no

I think we have discussed this topic long time ago…however, we can discuss it again with new debaters and new insights.

Do you think it's ok to send your kids to babysitting if parents want to work or you think it is too selfish for parents to leave their kids at baby sitting. We see Americans putting their kids to daycare since they are 6 weeks and if we have some Indian putting their kids to daycare this soon I know people talk in community that they are not good parents and how can they put their kids to daycare when baby is so young. They are so selfish etc. Do you think its ok to judge parents and tell them they don't love their kids enough when they put young babies to daycares? Or you think parents should be ready to sacrifice their career for some time (now this "some time" definition changes from person to person so let's keep it 2 years) till kids are little older. There are theories that say kids need their parents warmth during their initial years and that parents should be around them 24/7. And some think that it's ok for kids to be with others for 7-8 hrs. of the time for a change and parents also need break in between.

So want to know what our debators think about it. 😛

of course its right, if its not, i'll never get my dream job yaar 😭 😳 😉

I can tell you two things .
Firstly - I dislike judging people . Unless i hear the story from their mouth, then i may start getting the judgemental streak. grrr !! But if for a woman her job/career is equally important then its her decision . What ever suits you best . Nothing right or wrong here !!

Secondly - What would i do if i had a new born to take care of and a career ? Well to me personally it means a lot to raise the child and be around 24/7 for this infant when he/she needs me. I will be there for my baby .I will not like to leave behind a infant in day care at any cost . Career is very important , but the bonding is more important that a baby needs at that start .

Interesting sowmyaa, I dont know what I would do. But day care would be a good choice or the best if you live in a joint family. I dont see it as wrong or right its a matter of choice and what works best for you.

I could see myself sending off my child too day care now, but I can only talk about it more intelligently when I actually see that baby and experiance it. Dont know if there is a right answer.

I might just feel like I want to keep working too, who knows.

But one thing for sure, its easy for some people to pass moralistic and whats right to do punchlines to make themselves look so much better but why should one care about that. They are making themselves feel better or enjoying a good session of gossip or home science discussions without bringing in their own. These always put other people first, always, 😆 the good souls.

assuming that there are no financial considerations in the sense that the children and the family would starve if both parents didnt work, or if the mother or the father is a single parent...why would someone even consider daycare...i mean why have children if you cant commit to them.......I would like to believe that for most ppl who use daycare its the finances and not their career that makes them do it.....

what is good for the goose may not good for the gander. it is a personal choice. if you can manage without putting your child in a day care, that is wonderful. but if you need to put your child in a day care, i dont see you having much choice. basically i dont think any mom would like to leave their kids at day care or with a nurse maid or whatever. they would definitely like to be around them taking care of their needs, wanting to hear the first gurgle, watch them crawl the first time etc etc. (sometimes moms carry it to such an extent they want to be around even when their kids do not want them around 😆 ! but ofcourse this is when they grow older!)

many times day care centres are a major help to those parents who need to work to give their children the best possible even if means they deprive themselves of the joy of watching the young ones grow up! though this is rarely seen as a sacrifice by most people. but i do know most working mothers go through guilt pangs!

so i guess day cares are a help to those that need it!

I agree with all of you and perfectly said Jasunap... there is always guilt bitting for putting ur kid to daycare.....probably is in mother's nature to think that she is not fair enough to be with his child. Also, sometimes I know men does not want their spouse to work when they have kid...they expect them ti stay at home rather than working...i know this is couple thing..but most of the time it's always mother who has to stay back and give away her career and not men. Except for nursing a baby everything can be done by men..and there are pumps out there so baby can get mother's food..still it always comes up for mother to stay at home. I think this decision should be left to mother if she want to stay with baby or start working. But as you said Jas... what is good for goose may not be good for gander.

I dont agree with the poin that the kids shud be admitted in daycaresssss........

Many things have to be carefully considered before judging daycares etc.
Not all people work because they want to. There are several working families where both parents work out of necessity with increasing cost of living and inflation, it is not possible to raise a family without working. Some even work two jobs too to make ends meet. Hence they have to resort to daycare.
Parents have choice of working alternate shifts where one parent is at home with the child always. However, in this scenarion it minimises 'family time'. Here daycare is a better option because at least weekends, evenings and other times can be slotted for 'family time' where everyone is together.
Now in the scenario of two career people who can afford a child on a single income. Who should quit their job and stay at home? Also is it really necesscary to give up career to raise a child? Just because parents have personal goals and ambitions does not mean that they love their child or care for their children any less.
My mother was highly educated and had many lucrative job offers, but decided to stay at home for me and my sister. Now that we are grown up and in college she works. However, I regret the fact that she sacrificed her opportunities for us. I feel that she could have had a career and raised us, it would not have been selfish at all.
Hence in my opinion Day cares are extremely essential and a big help to people who have to and want to work.