multi stress family dilemma

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Posted: 16 years ago
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hello people, am really stressing out these days as my so called relatives just never stop insulting, torturing, harassing, and verbally abusing me.....the water has gone way too much over the top and I can't take it anymore.....to make the long story short, I take care of 2 disabled/handicap people who eventually are my mum and baby sis and none of my relatives hlp, not even once.....my lil sis was born with 2 veins mixed inside her brain and a hole in her heart who throws huge tantrums on random and my mum became disabled/handicap after her own (big) brother tormented and tortured her. My mum and I both have our credit on the edge, our credit cards are over the limit due to recession, our previous bank charged tremendous amount of hidden fees which didn't showed up on the statements and our erelatives dont believe us. I searched for jobs, filled out tons of applications but unfortunately havent gotten any response back (due to recession in the statse, companies are doubtful in hiring ppz) but my relatives dont believe me, they think im lazy and didnt even filled out any job applications.. My mum has had a mild heart attack few years back and they keep saying things to her that get her more stressed and I can't bear all this anymore.....when my mum couldnt even get up from bed, none of them ever helped and as of this day, they still dont help me out in taking care of my mum and sis and I hve loads of responsibilities then before. These days i'm having a really bad headache just by thinking about where to apply for a job and how much debt we're in but I have to clear them out somehow.

I don't know what to do, should I take my mum and sis to another country just for a holiday to escape from this dilemma through bank loans? We don't have enough income for a holiday, I can only borrow loans unfortunately.
Thanks 😊
I want an advice to help my myself have an ease of mind.
ur views, suggestions and advices are welcome.

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Posted: 16 years ago
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😭Aw MAN! I wish I could help you. 😔I feel really bad for your mum and sis. I really wanna help you! get a job in mall or a store. It might help. You seem smart. I think your going to be fine. You are doing a great job for your mum and sis.! You are awesome! I bet your mum is very very proud of you. Think positive. Think that you can get those jobs. Being positive in this kind of situation will help you a lot! trust me!
Edited by sweetscent13 - 16 years ago
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Posted: 16 years ago
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I must say u are a very brave girl👏👏

I am not sure wat to say, I hope ur mom n sis can be better soon. as for ur situation I am sry but I am really speechless 😭😭

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Posted: 16 years ago
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hey u no i bet ur mum n sis r relli proud of u u will go to heaven for doing something relli special if u wnt help why dnt u try tlking to ova people that will help find u a job post it in the newspaper or check a website that will fit ur qualifications
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Posted: 16 years ago
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im speechless...
i dunno what to say hun .. i feel SO bad for youuu .
why not apply for a SMALL job like a mall or store maybe?! or did yu already try dat?
YOUR A STRONG GIRL and im POSTIIVEE that yu will make it through..
as of the family memberss . . IGNORE DEM . clearly they do not care :@
and if yu need to talk im a PM away :)
edited :: i just read uur sig boxx "i love my boyfriend" so yu have a bf. LOL. why dont yu ask him for help?
Edited by -Rida666- - 16 years ago
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Thank u guys for all of ur supporting and encouraging feedbacks.....i feel optimistic and much better then before....I was lost and feeling put down but I knew I can't give up my hopes so that's why I shared my problem here.....tru, since my family membaz dont cre, I kno I have to be stronger then this to support my mum n baby sis bcz they hve only me to support them completely.
- yes I did applied at a small job and my local mall and some said they aren't hiring while the mall took my applications but never gave me a call after I went down there few times, showed slight aggressiveness but still no luck
- some of my neighbors are helping me find a job whenever they hear an opening so I just gotta go with her this Wednesday after I renew my license plate.
I forgot to mention, I had completed my degree in visual communication but the requirements here in US are kinda strict and I don't even know where to began so I thought about doing an internship at my boyfriend's work place to gain some experience but the sad news is he's all the way in Mumbai and I don't have enough money on my own to visit him, all I can think of is borrowing a loan.....second.....I told him I can find myself a job here only if I try harder and since June, I had but still no luck but am thinking of other kind of jobs I can do while im still searchin fr em.
speaking about my b/f....he's all the way in Mumbai....I dont kno how else to visit him via bank loan and I had applied at certain places in India and keep getting offers.....but the only thing I fear is leaving my mum n sis alone as nobody else would tke cre of them besides me and i cant reveal hvn a b/f or visitin him to my relatives due to all d tortures, harassment, etc mum n i will end up hearing....its vry chaotic.
so I decided to mke my own website to represent my talents n whn i visit my b/f, i shud hve my portfolio ready so basically these dys im tryin to finish my website n mke my own audition video to b a vj, etc.
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Posted: 16 years ago
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your a great girl, and just by reading your post, I m so proud of you....
similarly, your relatives should be proud of you too, but they arent, so that just shows how they are really not worth even your precious brain energy, to think about them even....put them aside, out of your mind
Spend time with your family and talk with your bf, your heart will feel lighter...
As for the job front, keep thinking positive and the website is a good idea, hopefully you'll find a job soon too...
all our prayers are with you.
xxxx

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