Do we take our Vitual Image TOO seriously? - Page 6

Originally posted by: Krishy_

I completely understand this thing!!.....And i guess a lot of us are going through this problem.....IF has really become an addiction for many of us!...Even if we try to limit us from coming here, our mind tempts us to come here😕...it doesn't let us concentrate on our work until we have made one trip here!!🤔....I myself am trying to restrict myself from coming here and thankfully have succeded to some limit!!😳.....The bottm line is that it needs "strong determination" to limit our chatting hours here and we HAVE to build that capability to not let this place effect us in any bad way!!....😊

@topic- Rinky, i am not a person who takes my virtual image seriously😊.....offcourse as a human being, i become angry/ sad/ vexed / happy , etc. when i see different posts....but i don't spoil my mood due to that😉😆😛....i come here to just discuss about serials and to talk to my friends😛...beyond that if my posts/ words go across as hurtful or rude to some one then i just edit them, but don't take any thing serious in this really not serious virtual world!!😊

Originally posted by: myownarea

@Rinky --glad u opened this topic..was busy with some real life stuff so just saw it...

I'm pretty sure a lot of people have an alternate image for their virtual discussions, something they want to be ..something they are not in real life. I'm also sure a lot of people behave just the way they are in their real lives..! I shud say that I'm pretty much the same person that I'm in real life cos I'm not insecure abt the person I am. Else I wud have portrayed myself as a school going teenager or something.. 😆 😆 ..
Anyways, I think many times our discussions really bring out our real selves..how long can we pretend? Besides, this is the first time ever that I have been on a forum talking to people I dont know in real life...I had a mental block against this when in school or college..probably the stories of virtual PESTS got me disinterested!! (yeah Rinky cases like what happened to u!! Its unfortunate but true).
Now, am pretty sure I can handle myself so I dont really think of that as an issue.
In a short period, I have found a lot of friends here..some sisters as well who I'm concerned abt..look out for...
Only I'd actually warn some.. to not put too much personal info for public viewing cos there are always who read posts secretly and you dont really want to let them know some info abt u...
This is as much a part of life as anything else..so I cherish it..

Originally posted by: utfracks

Excellent post Rinky!
Okay, for me, my virtual and real life do differ a little. I'm not as bold and outspoken in real life, like I'm on the forum. It isn't pretentious, it's just that, i get some kind of assurance that no one's watching me. I am basically pretty outspoken, but i do tend to go nervous when i have to put forth my views on a certain topic, where as, here, it's way easier.

Personally, the side i portray in the Virtual world is the real me, where as i'm a little more reserved when it comes to being around people. But i don't take minor issues to my heart, especially if it is regarding something which never exists..that just shows how immature one can get..

but yeah, i do not take my virtual image too seriously, and honestly, no one really should.

Aw, sad to know you had a terrible experience like that, fortunately, i've had no such experiences as i tend to keep a safe distance from them, and do not trust them completely..cause you never know who might be faking it!

Originally posted by: debby

Interesting topic. :-)

Personally, before I joined IF, I had never been too much into internet chatting. The ones I conversed with over the web were usually people I knew in real life. So the question of building a 'virtual' image didn't come in.

Now being on IF does expose you to certain situations. Like, all of us joined to discuss the show. Many joined just for the goodies - the pics and the videos - but went on to participate actively in discussions. I have made many friends here and met several like minded people. I dont have a 'virtual image'. What I am like on the forum is how I am in real life. I love to debate, defend what I feel strongly for, contradict opinions I disagree with but in the same manner I would had the discussion been face-to-face. As far as the friends I have here go - to the best of my knowledge, they are how I perceive them to be. But by nature, I am not too trusting of anyone - and I believe we shouldn't get so overly attached to a virtual person/platform, that it hurts if the bubble breaks..

Originally posted by: 9ruparaj6

Hey Rinky, a very interesting one, again!

Well, I've never had any issues, positive or negative with virtual friends, 'cos I've never really been a part of any chat forum until IF, a few months ago.....& no, I think I'm pretty much the same person in IF, like in my real life'.I do try to maintain objectivity while writing posts but as in my real life, there are instances when I tend to get a wee bit biased 'bout certain issues or people, specially if I get overtly fond of someone....& I believe in talking straight from my heart, something, which I can't suppress or manipulate even while writing my posts or replying to someone else's, so I often wonder, whether the stuff that I write, reflects this "bias", at times.....I do feel ashamed of this trait in me'am trying to correct it as much as possible, with li'l success, though....

I really like a lot of people in IF, they "come across" as genuine, intelligent, matured, balanced, fair minded & so much more creative than our so called "creatives"! I have learnt a lot, interacting with these people, understanding their POV's & had a lot of fun in the process, 'cos some of them have a brilliant sense of humour! So it's been a good learning process. I feel completely involved as long as I'm logged on to the system, but have it in me to forget all 'bout it & get on with life, once I log out'.I call it, "the detached attachment", which is quite a comfortable state to be in. Try it😊!

@blue- yeah the detached attachment is a real good quality that many of us would like to have.... you can simply turn off one world when u step into another... but the hardest part is to achieve that state....once achieved life can be real smooth.....in any world.. real or virtual...

Originally posted by: mads

no re..I did meet one guy virtually too...n he is one of my best friends today! 😊 its been three years since v met online..n we are really great friends even now..and we will continue to be, for life! 😊

Originally posted by: carolinecj

if there is something i can thank mjht forum was.... 1 i met great ppl here 2. when i left the forum temporarily i found great ppl outside too ..the incognito critics!