Shd 1 b 100% honest in relationship or No - Page 2

[QUOTE=Vishesh]100 % honesty is not possible,
whenever u start a relationship.. in starting u have to lie abt something..
one can't discuss in the start that his parents fight, his sister is divorced, he had some problems in life/college/bank/job..

as we go deep in relationship, we clear our previous lies if necessary. But it is not possible to clear everything, bcoz every 'past subject' doesn't come again in our conversation now.

so it is never 100% honesty ! 😊

sometimes we have to lie at some moment, coz we don't have time to explain if we tell truth.

Honesty is the best policy, but sometimes lies are ok, if they can save some unnecessary arguments, or in some circumstances. As if i lost my wallet..and will not tell my wife, she will not feel sad.

If it was serious past affair, or mild crush then it;s ok to discuss. But don't share ur Medium level Affairs..

rest as Aparna and Jasunap said 😊

The parts in blue i agree with because even if u think tht ur telling the person the 100 % there is always bits tht u kno the person doesn't kno but it is important tht u try ur best to tell the 100% because if u dun then it causes probs later on. and it's not good to lie bout pretty big things because when those lies pile up they cause prob and the relationship starts to fal apart becuz of fights u mite have been having bout those lies. But hey u can always hide little things n the begining to make the relationship fun in the begining, but when ur go deeper into the relationship it's best to open up.

i dont think one can be 100% honest coz like ppl have said before it is necessary to keep some things to urself to make life go smoothly,obviously these things have to be really minute..and larger things are best disclosed to ur partner coz this gives u a feeling of contentment that ur parter knows everything abt u...otherwise there will be something inside u that will keep gnawing and reminding u that u have kept something from ur loved ones...
also if everything is not disclosed the fear of ur partner getting to kno thru another source is always there and u may feel guilty all the time..so i think it is definetly important to disclose everything possible but like i said some things are best unsaid to keep the ship smooth sailing 😉

First of all,Aparna....Very Sensible Topic 👏 👏 👏

Well,I am only 16,so of course I am not an experienced person. 😊

But,Still,I agree that in a relationship,mistakes happen,most of the time,unknowingly,so to hide those and to keep to keep it going,sometimes its absolutely justified to Not speak the truth.But u see,there r 2 times when a person is forced to lie in a relationship :

1.When he/she has had a past,i.e.,a previous Love Affair.and ;

2.When a person becomes disloyal to his/her lover During the course of the relationship,and later decides to keep it under cover from the beloved to avoid a break-up in the realtionship when he/she realizes his/her commited folly.

I whole-heartedly support the cover of lies if and only if the condition is of the #.1 type,i.e.,lieng abt the past.
But,if the problem is of the #2.Type,then I'll be Downright against it.coz then,it Was ur fault that u strayed even when u were fully commited to ur beloved.It shows how weak and in fact,false ur Love was.Coz True love can Never Stray,and if it has,then it Ain't True Love.So,I'll be upfront enough to say that I dont agree with lies in this case.

I know maybe I am being too much of an idealist 😕 and in real life,love as flawless as that cannot be found maybe.But that's absolutely what My idea of Love is 😊 and its solely My View abt it. 😃 😳

Just My Views Guys 😳