Atina, ungalukku neram pogallaiya? Ivvalavu detailed imagination! Excellent!
I will not join in ponnu pakara functions, because I think it is uncomfortable for the girl to be viewed like the cattle at a maattu sandhai. I distinctly remember my own, where a whole battalion consisting of hubby-to-be, his parents, his mama and mami, their daughter and her hubby and I forget who else came to see me and interview me. I don't remember if the cousin's children also came, but I just remember saying to my mother, Idhenna oru battalione vandhu irukku. Worse, my poor mother had made all the traditional sojji bajji stuff, and they said it was too early (around 9 a.m!), so they had just the coffee and bananas. All the sojji bajji effort was wasted!
However, I endorse the idea of getting Neela married, and I think Jagan would be a good fit for her in looks and in temperament, but I still prefer that they meet and talk about it on their own, in some neutral place.